Why is this girl so cold and quiet with me compared to my other friends even though she known them as long as she have known me?

[poopyman123]

So basically there is this girl that I have known for a couple of months now and I realized that she is decently cold and quiet with me compared to my other friends. I don't get it because she has known them for as long as she has known me, some even are more recent friends. Like for example, when she talks to them she is engaged, touching them, asks questions. For me, she is quiet, cold, doesn't say anything until I say something. I don't get it because were decently close, she goes to all my basketball games to watch me play, we hung out a decent amount of times outside of school, she wants me to teach her sports, and we even share drinks sometimes. Like I feel like she is so much more comfortable with even new friends she just met, hugging them too. Like I would understand if we werent close and she was disinterested, I would just give her space but like she already showed some dedication for at least a friendship, why is she so cold? Another example is when I greet her, like when I say hi to her, she says hi quietly and looks away (this makes me just go away because I think I am bothering her). But when she greets anyone else, she says their name , taps their shoulder and says hi, Im thinking she hates me now. Im just confused why she would come to my games and stuff but hate/ be cold to me as well. What do you think?

[mahdi_n]

Judging from what you said, id say that she actually likes you and would entertain the idea of having something long and lasting with you

She doesn't see the other guys in this way, she sees them as a quick thing that she definitely doesn't want to continue

But she sees you as a potential long term relationship. Something truly meaningful

[poopyman123]

I see your point but do you know why she might be acting like this.
Like she has no problem just talking like a regular person with my other friends and I hear it.
But if she's with me, its just silence until I say something and if we talk, its so awkward.

[mahdi_n]

she's shy around a potential boyfriend. She doesn't see others as a potential relationship

[mahdi_n]

Why dont you just ask her out?

[poopyman123]

I asked her to go to watch a horror movie with just me and she agreed but i had serious family problems and it had to be cancelled. I reminded her by saying like " aren't we supposed to go watch the movie together" and she just said "true". so I don't know

[mahdi_n]

Rejection hurts, but not knowing hurts even more;

She might not be into horror movies (in that case agreeing to come with you just shows how much she's into you)

Choose an activity that she is likely to enjoy (even if you dont)

[Avicenna]

Only she knows for sure what’s going on. But if this behavior is that noticeable, you need to ask her about it

[poopyman123]

How should I ask her?

[Iron_Man]

Sounds like she has a problem with you I wouldn’t like that get to the bottom of it if not ignore her

[poopyman123]

How should I get to the bottom of it?

[Iron_Man]

Talk to her

[Guy13]

Sounds like she does not trust you fully

[Anonymous]

Because people have different personalities.

[Uptowngirl88]

Ask her

[poopyman123]

How should I ask her?

[Uptowngirl88]

Nevermind