Is this girl interested in me or is she friend zoning me? When I try to treat her as a friend why does she seem more cold?

[Matt4991]

So we met at work and I got this girls snapchat. After talking to her a couple times, she constantly came up to me to talked to me then I ask her to go out with me to a mall which i drove her and acted myself so super upbeat, simple flirty compliment, being fun, just being me. After her vibe still seemed to be happy. She never once seemed to ask me anything about me though the whole time. So I asked her later on snapchat if shed go out again and she even said she would totally sometime. Right after that she stopped talking to me as much at work so I went up made some funny small talk got her to laugh then asked her in person if she wanted to go to another place and when she was free. She changed the subject while I was standing right in front of her asking so I assume that's a red flag. So I stopped talking to her as flirty as I was before and just casually and friendly. I even talked to another girl in front of her to show I'm not trying to be clingy or weird. So she would start walking by me and rolling her eyes to the side and make a sarcastic comment about me not working like "what are you even doing" to be funny but if I did it back she wouldn't laugh lmao just look mad. Then If I don't say anything like pretend she isn't there she would walk slow behind me and by me and mutter to herself which really freaked me out lmfao. So I tried to be upbeat/ throw smooth compliments again and she seemed super happy. She answers snapchat fast just never initiates though. Before she would wait half the day. I'm gonna assume she isn't interested but trying to keep me by being if I don't talk to her, yet she barely initiates. Now she answers fast on snap but very generic answers with her face and a caption. I like her but we both seem awkward and I overthink so knowing what I want or should do when I see her confuses the hell out of me. I already technically asked her out twice after going out once and she evaded it so not sure what I could try besides just being friends.

[bob2008042]

I haven't seen the situation in person. So I might be mistaken. But:
This situation seems to be more complicated. My opinion this is what happened.

1. I agree with others, it's workplace relationship issue. That's why maybe after first being positive about the thing with you, she spoke to girls and they said "are you mad... " and she backed up a bit.
In my opinion, if you wouldn't have beeno asking her out much (getting the signals), being mildly flirty w her, you've had a chance of slowly becoming a friend and getting her out out of the work place thing...

But you have messed up.
2. You have shown your interest to other girl in front of her. There are different kinds of girls. By the reaction of your girl, you shouldn't have done it. You made her angry: she probably thought something like "all boys are lusty morons... Good thing that I have backed out of it"
I can tell she liked you. Because she did care about it. You made her mad, and made things much much more complicated.
I'm sorry buddy, you found the wrong way to be non clingy. And you need to learn to feel girl's personality. That way you will not mess up that badly next time.3. So as a result of the above, you came to the awkward phase. Exactly what she was afraid of when backing up. Right now it is going to nowhere. SHE HAS PUT YOU ON HOLD BECAUSE OF HER OPINION ABOUT YOU, AND IT WILL BE HARD TO CHANGE IT. 4. A a projection to future, now you have to be really careful. Because most of things you do right now are making her working in the company harder. She's a girl, and she is very sensitive to the relationships in the company. The other commenters are correct. She might try to change company. Or she might talk to boss about workplace harassment. It is very unlikely that you will be able to get her trust back. Your best bet is to stop being clingy (yes you are, by trying to push the dead horse forward, and by not reading her signals) Stop trying to get her out, And try to be a good friend for her. Without trying to get anything our of her. In your case trying to get friend zoned is your best bet. Because all other variants will just be getting you further and further from her. But there's no guarantee, and you are in for a long long run. So generally dating coaches advise In this case to drop it and find another girl. Your chances are very slim. Disclaimer. This is just my feel and reading of situation. I might be wrong. But by her reaction, I think I'm right on most of it.

[Matt4991]

Yeah this is like the closest actual thing that feels like what happened, I guess I got lucky it's not as awkward now I wasn't talking to her just basic hi's and she walked by me and kicked my leg while I was working and said your not working hard enough so now we just friendly joke back and forth and the energy seems fine, I'll probably stop texting and back off, just I'm an airhead sometimes and I dont read signs well so hopefully nothing worse comes of it if we just are friendly.

[DaveJord]

Well work place relationship are tough, and people like me avoid them because its awkward. I mean if it does not work out (and most relationships don't) then you have to see them again every day. So maybe she had a good time, maybe she said she would do it again with you just to be nice, or maybe she meant it at the time then reconsider the work place thing, and maybe she is or never was interested at all... because honestly it is hard to tell someone straight up no or leave me alone when you see them everyday.

I would advise you leave this women alone, not to contact her any more and give her as much space as possible... if she comes back around to you later then follow up the dating thing, but until then leave her alone before you get hit with a sexual harassment charge. Do not text her or reply to any social media posts... she can use that as evidence of harassments... and based upon what you have said here it seems like she not interested in dating a co-worker.

[DaveJord]

As an executive that has 45 personal working directly under me... well I have deal with this a boss. Where co-workers (man and women) went out to lunch together. She thought they were just friends, then it got awkward when he started pursuing a romantic relationship. She put him off and tried to ne nice about it... he didn't get the hint, make her uncomfortable... then it ended up on my desk.

She admitted to considering a relationship at first... but then her friends said to think about the work place thing... and then she decided against it but he didn't get the message.

[Matt4991]

Yours definitely the most important point here thanks

[DaveJord]

@Matt4991 thanks

[PrettyPriya]

She may have felt it was getting uncomfortable for workplace behaviour.

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for the MHO!

[Iron_Man]

You have to talk to her
Or you're going to be guessing for the next 6 months

[TrillXHippy]

I really have no idea man

[In_Trance]

Smh... nobody wants to be friends