Why is it like I’m not allowed to initially be interested in a woman because of her looks like my initial interest has to be in her personality?

[Intothevoid666]

This tendency of woman goes completely against how men actually are. They decide if they are potentially interested in women romantically based off of their looks first. Like for example if I walk up to a girl and try to start a conversation with her if it’s obvious that I did this because I find her attractive it ends there every time we’ll obviously I walked up to her cuz I thought she was attractive. It’s like I have to pretend or play social games with every woman or it won’t work. Why is it like this?

[alderoth]

You answered your question with your description of the question lol. You said you walked up to someone, hypothetically, because you found them attractive, then found it tedious to even have a conversation to get to know them. That alone does a few things.

1. it shows you aren't interested in getting to know her. You are just doing the polite social stuff in order to hopefully get her into bed, or into a relationship without actually getting to know her, and women aren't going to do that anymore. Sorry bud.

2. You have a preconceived notion that because you found a woman attractive they should find that as a compliment. Like, right out the gate lol. She might not find you attractive at all, what compliment would exist if they didn't find you attractive? Also, just like you find it tedious to have social interaction with women, to get to know them, women find it tedious to entertain people they don't find attractive. Something to think about.

3. If you want to have a relationship with someone then why wouldn't you WANT to get to know them? Sounds like you just want to wear them as a penis sheathe for a few minutes. If you want to date someone, like attempt a relationship with somebody, male or female, you do it because you want to understand them, know them, find out what makes them tick. If that isn't your intentions people can pick up on that pretty quickly, and if they aren't into one night stands, or quickies with strangers, then they aren't going to give you the time of day. Sorry bud!

I bet the moment you change your attitude towards women, whatever types of people you like, and understand the subtleties of relationships, and courting, you will find a good mix of hits and misses. Just remember, no soul on this floating blue marble owes you a conversation, a date, love, kindness, nothing at all. You just gotta put in the effort with who you decide and let the chips fall where they may.

[Intothevoid666]

I didn’t say that. Let me give an example. If I see a woman from afar and walk 20 feet out of my way up to her to start a conversation that is unacceptable. Why tho?

[Intothevoid666]

Like I have to just randomly stumble upon them and if I go at all out of my way to meet them it’s not good anymore

[BarryLiverstone]

Who said you are not allowed to be attracted initially based on appearance? Both men and woman are attracted initially based on looks.

[Intothevoid666]

If I see an attractive woman across the street and I cross the street to go talk to her she will think it’s weird. Why tho?

[HateyouxD]

Girls dont want sleeze balls who just want to sleep with us. Most men approach us because they want to fuck. Us women who are mature dony work that way. So get to know us we are emotional beings

[BarryLiverstone]

His question was initial visual attraction tho. He is asking why can’t a guy like how she looks before approaching her

[Intothevoid666]

R u completely oblivious as to how male attraction works? Apparantly all women are. And sleaze bag? Excuse me? When women want sex it’s ok but a guy wants sex and there is something wrong talk about hypocrisy I hope u have no problem with men judging u for ur sexual behavior. Maybe I do just wanna fuck? Not sure how u expect me to know that or not if u don’t talk to me. But regardless sounds like ur slut shaming I hope u never say shit to men here who won’t date a girl with a certain sexual history or not…

[HateyouxD]

Oh my bad. there's nothing wrong with approaching a woman based off her looks but I still stand by getting to know a girl before sleeping with her.

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh ya for sure. Unless both the guy and girl are just out to smash then of course it makes sense to get to know her before doing anything sexual. If either wants sex without that emotional connection they will only be objectifying the other.

[Intothevoid666]

Why is it that if I see a girl who’s across the street that I find attractive it’s considered weird to cross the street to talk to her? How does that make any sense?

[mandyfire98]

We all are interested at first based on looks. That's the first impression we have.

[BarryLiverstone]

I agree with you, but the asker didn’t answer my question of who said the opposite

[Intothevoid666]

So why is it if I’m walking on the street and I see an attractive girl on the other side of the street and I cross the street to talk to her she won’t be interested and I have to just randomly stumble across her?

[Intothevoid666]

@BarryLiverstone women act the opposite

[BarryLiverstone]

Because she isn’t looking to have a random guy walk up to her when she’s planning to go somewhere

[Intothevoid666]

@BarryLiverstone but if I were to have walked right past her and complimented an article of clothing I could have started a convo with her? I’ve tried this numerous times and this is exactly how it is.

[Browneye57]

It's not. Never listen to what women tell you about women - get a proper coach.
Lead, follow, or get the fuck out of the way.

[Intothevoid666]

If I walk out of my way to approach a girl I find attractive it’s no good anymore I’m supposed to just stumble across them. I’ve approached enough women to know this to be true

[Browneye57]

You don't know jackshit about approaching women. Your game completely sucks. Oh well. No pussy for you.

[Intothevoid666]

So what I said is true… so I’m correct in my statement then I take it. Why are so many guys on here straight pricks for no reason.

[Browneye57]

Go here and read: www.therationalmale.com
Then here and start your man-makeover: www.theartofmanliness.com

And quit whining so much. Women loathe whiners.

[Intothevoid666]

I’m asking why women think like this not if they do or not.

[Browneye57]

Cuz they can, they're wired that way. Quit asking 'why', and ACCEPT what they are. You'll be WAY better off.
Never, and I mean NEVER EVER put a woman on a pedestal. She'll INSTANTLY lose respect for you. And NEVER give over power in a relationship to any woman. EVER.

[jahaims]

You are allowed to be

[Intothevoid666]

Not really women want a relationship to happen “naturally” u can’t initially have approached them because of sex appeal

[jahaims]

You sure can.

[Intothevoid666]

That has absolutely 100% not been my experience. This is why most women don’t want to start a relationship on tinder or if u don’t happen to just stumble across a girl and u actively walk towards them and seek them out it’s not good anymore.

[jahaims]

You probably aren't attractive enough to them to do so.

[Intothevoid666]

I’m actually really attractive and ur an asshole who clearly knows nothing about this. Good talk tho.

[jahaims]

Voicing my opinion on an opinion based forum after you asked for opinions makes me an asshole? Also it is a dead give away you don't think you are "really attractive" when you get defensive.