What do you do in this situation with your girlfriend buying you all kinds of crazy stuff?

[Anonymous]

I have almost no confidence. I am insecure. Now not all women are into me and I used to think that women really were not into me... But I was told otherwise that I was super attractive.

I live with my parents... So I don't get the obsession but I am not complain. The problem is it's always things like high dollar sunglasses, cologne, watches, and other stuff. It is the thought that counts when you're getting someone something not the price.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps she thinks that will make you feel better. She might not even think about the cost but in how things will fit you. If you feel uncomfortable, I suggest you speak with her and tell her what you’d like instead.

[Asker]

It's not that I just feel bad and I wonder if people met her that they would think I am some kind of gold digger.

[Opinion Owner]

If she is giving you these gifts it might be because she appreciates you and is her love language. Now, I suggest you stop worrying about how others will perceive it. What should matter is the way she gives you the gifts. Is it in a loving way or does it feel like she is trying to keep you

[Asker]

You're right that is not what matters if they spread roomers that aren't true then that is on them. Thanks!

I think she does it to be nice. Money is really no object to her. I am not going to say how much she has but I do know it's a lot.

[Marshymallow]

Bro it’s just gifts, if you don’t like it then tell her to stop. It’s as easy as that

[Asker]

No I like them. Sorry I meant to say I don't know how to repay her

[Asker]

It's really sweet

[Marshymallow]

Maybe buy her something in return

[Asker]

I mean I do but nothing that nice I can't afford it. She says she loves what I get her and she uses it. She wanted to take me to a car dealership just to "look" I kindly declined to that...

[Marshymallow]

Oh now that’s a little too much. I see why you’re bothered.

[Asker]

I am not at all bothered she is really nice. I just feel bad.

[Asker]

She is always grateful if I get her flowers or something like that

[Asker]

I can kind of tell you the story. So she lives on this farm... But she also is a lawyer and a business owner and pretty much I was working for her. It is a whole story she kind of... For lack of a better term groomed me into being her lover. Which is fine with me.

I just feel bad sometimes.

[Asker]

She don't really have time for the farm and the farm ain't gonna farm itself... So she needed some help.

[Marshymallow]

Yikes… you sure you don’t wanna dump her bro?

[Asker]

No she's great. Why would I dump someone like that?

[Asker]

She's really really a great person. I was down on my luck... and she gave me a job. She loved on me she treats me like a king and I try and treat her like a queen. She makes me laugh smile.

she makes me feel good when nobody else can. She's the kind of person who would do anything for anyone even if she knows she won't get anything in return.

[Asker]

When I say groomed me lol. I just mean she started out with little favors like giving me lots of sweet tea and stuff and food she made. All kinds of sweeties. Then she let me shower in her shower and not the farm house which is much nicer.

Then I started hanging out more and more at her house. Then she started giving me massage's and scratches. Then she raised my pay again.

And finally I just told her I liked her... Which I think that point it was obvious to both of us and I think she has come close to making a move like that on me a few times.

[Guy13]

Strange. Nice gesture though. It’s like you are being kept, you male hoe 🥳🥳🥳

[Asker]

That isn't true and exactly what I worried people would think of me. That I am some sort of gold digger or something.

[Asker]

Very nice I feel bad

[Guy13]

Relax…just teasing. Don’t tell me you’re own of “those people”…too sensitive, over reacting, self righteous “HOE” 😁😁

[Asker]

LOL I know what you mean. A lot of hoes also want to have morals and standards which is pretty funny since nobody takes them seriously. You can't walk the middle.

Put it this way. She has a farm. She needs someone to help her out and pays pretty decent money to help her on her farm. I am really thinking this is a good idea and have already helped her a lot already.

She is always really busy. She's a lawyer. She owns a few business and also does a lot of other things. She also spends hours volunteering as well. She's a a reserve cop and a firefighter. She's a military vertren and she's a stunner too. Like she's gorgeous. I mean I guess she's my girlfriend though we just don't know if things are going to work out.

But she really does not have much time to run her farm anymore. Since she is so busy. So she already pays me with all of that kind of stuff. Then she always wants to take me out and stuff and do stuff for me.

When really I just want to spend some time with her. She always has me food and always gives me all kinds of food she's made. She spoils me too much. I get to take a nap as well. I have my own room in her house. She calls it my office. Which nobody is allowed in there but either me or herself. It's really really nice.

It even has a bathroom with a shower. But she lets me use her shower which is like a whole room and there is a hot tub in there as well which is so nice. Like after getting all nasty it feels amazing. Then I help her do some housework.

So I am pretty much at her house all day and sometimes into the night too

[Asker]

I mean like without some things going on in my life right now... I could see myself marrying her

[Anonymous]

She sounds rich!

[Asker]

Yea... She drives a Bentley

[Asker]

But that isn't why I would ever be with someone.