Is it okay for my girlfriend of 8+ years to have dudes on the side buy her things but she still with me?

[Anonymous]

[_Maya_]

Well is it okay with you that she does? That is the more important question. There also is a lot of context needed as to who these dudes are. Are they really close friends that she has had for a long time and the things they are buying for her are birthday gifts for example? Are they guys she barely knows and they are buying her flowers randomly? You see the difference in the two. If it is the latter then I would say that is not cool because you know what the intentions of the guys that are buying her gifts are. If they are friends and buying her stuff for legit reasons then don't sweat it.

[Asker]

We had several arguments on the topic but it seem to me that she going to keep doing what she wants and don’t care about my feelings

[_Maya_]

But are these guys just random dudes? If so then I agree with you.

[sheikalana]

That's not normal. I'm pretty sure they're not paying her things in exchange of nothing.

[Miristheiss]

Not for me. I'd not put up with that. How is she even close enough and have enough contact with these other men that they are buying her stuff? That sounds 100% disrespectful and inappropriate and some boundaries are being stretched too far.

I'd nix it. I'd take back my commitment to her if she is dabbling with these other men. You cut them out of your life or I walk away. I'm not going to be with a woman who keeps such lax boundaries with other men.

Let her go be a sugar baby, dump her if she doesn't stop that disrespectful crap.

[Billlewis]

Absolutely. I love spoiling a beautiful woman who has a boyfriend, and knowing that she's telling him about all the gifts and monetary tributes I'm giving her. If he's okay with it, I'll often ask him if I can buy him some gifts as well.

[ShesRad80]

it is your relationship. how do you feel? is what you have to ask yourself

[boggboss]

Thats down to what u guys agree is fine in the relationship if u don't like it say it if she won't change that end things

[tfan1]

No way - I’d call that cheating on the side. But then again she might use the argument it doesn’t mean a thing until she wears the ring.

[Nifrayu]

Why wouldn't it be? I love when people buy me things.

[User1365]

Hmm like there's got to be an ulterior motive as to why they're buying her things.

[Billlewis]

I know that's what people tend to think, but there are a lot of guys who just really enjoy spoiling a beautiful woman who has a boyfriend, even though we know we have no chance whatsoever of having sex with her.

[exitseven]

I would seriously have questions about this

[jahaims]

She isn't your girlfriend lol

[dudeinohio]

No. it is not