Be patient , can someone tell me is she testing me or messing around? She wants something real by the way?

[KHAUF]

This girl I like, had a break up and she was cheated , I told her that I really like her and she replied sir , you need to be patience, right now I am not thinking of all this. And you will also leave like all guys in few months , you won't be able to be patient. And we have a deal if we like someone then we will tell each other the first day so we are not waiting, and just one more thing , a lot of guys asked her out she said no to them , I asked her out she came told me all this and when I asked why she came she said I don't know just felt like, she had never spoke to someone else who asked her out as she has to be as per her. Is she testing me , will I leave her or she is just messing around

[PrettyPriya]

She isn’t testing you or messing around. She likely had her heart broken. I would have if someone cheated on me. That is the most vile act of betrayal and something not easy to get over. That takes time. A lot of time. Her trust has been broken and she needs to be able to get her mind right before even thinking about another relationship.

The problem is that she is always going to have that in the back of her mind now. That isn’t your fault by any means. You didn’t cause this but you have to understand that she is likely a bit broken over it. Give her the time and space she needs.

If you do that and she sees you respecting her boundaries, you may be first in line when she is ready to date again. She will look at you as the one that was respectful and not hounding her for a date. Time heals all wounds but often that is different depending on the person. She is right. Be patient.

[KHAUF]

Hey she had a break up 6 years ago , she is just having a mindset that people cheat and so will rest of the boys who approach her , I want her to trust me and so I am waiting for her to realise it

[SueShe]

I don't believe that she is testing you but she simply wants to be left alone for the time being.

You guys are just like flies around a pot of honey. You buzz because you are attracted but you don't give the person time to breathe.

She seems to have been cheated on as far as I understand your question and anyone in that case needs a time out. Give her a few months and then you can start buzzing again. A failed relation does not mean it has to be compensated immediately with another one that will most probably fail again. She made a bad experience and she is not ready to make another mistake.

She lost faith and trust in men and by buzzing around her you only indicate that you want to fill the void left by her cheating partner at all costs.

Be patient means give her time to breathe and to think the entire relation issue all over again.

[KHAUF]

Mam , she had a break up 6 years ago , she lost faith in men TRUE, and she is not habitual to living without them as she says , I guess that much time is enough to recover but she is just tired of all the efforts and things she did.
Now tell me is she testing me or am I wasting my time. by the way i would actually wait for her how so long it may take , it's been 3 months already. But we have jobs so only get to see her 3 times till now

[SueShe]

The fact that she calls you "sir" leads me to believe that you are overthinking the entire issue and that you are most probably wasting your time with this lady.

If she had her break up 6 years ago, she seems to be comfortable with the situation she is in and most probably does not need to change it for a number of years.

Are you really willing to wait a few more years just to find out that the interest is not reciprocated?

[KHAUF]

Mam she is my junior so she calls me sir

[KHAUF]

And yeah I can wait but for something can has a possibility more then zero

[Jen_27]

May be she also like u

[KHAUF]

So what should I do , she says she is not interested

[KHAUF]

She said you will also leave in a month , like all guys ,
And i am not think of all you do for me right now ,

[Jen_27]

Yeah that's why she said she's not interested in u she's afraid you will leave her like others

[KHAUF]

I plan of waiting for 3 months more and see If she changes a little , I don't wanna leave her though

[Guy13]

She’s being honest.

[KHAUF]

What should I do , I am honest too , she said you are too honest

[Guy13]

The fact that she is one who commits and the 🌎 🌍 🌏 is not is enough self-inflicted stress. You will just be guy and blow it up. She’s already serious BUT awaiting the bottom to fall out…like every other guy has done. Do NOT talk it simply do it. Actions, not words, over Time woman.-I love this kind of loving battle ax girl. Treat her gently…like a Princess 👸🏻

[KHAUF]

Dude, I treat her so well , and yes I am putting in effort for her , but she when I ask her if she is even 5 percent interested she says I don't know , only thing that had changed is she was a total introvert but she do speak about her family and her life sometimes to me

[KHAUF]

And yes she and me both have jobs at different states, I don't get to see her for 2 3 months

[KHAUF]

What should I do... she is a wifey kind of girl and I really would love to be there for her

[Guy13]

Chill the Fout before you blow this up. No one likes to stress out another. If she continues to feel that she is causing you Chsos THEN she will disappear

[Guy13]

Enough-you’re not ready. Get a career.

[KHAUF]

Okay thanks 😊

[Iron_Man]

Just be a friend for her for a while

[KHAUF]

Yeah same thought , but only thing is I told her the first day I like her , and she know where things will go

[Iron_Man]

Give yourself a time limit on how long you're willing to wait and then just do it and see what happens

[KHAUF]

Hey that's what I had decided uptill now , I thought of 3 months , of there is improvement in how she is with me , it's good or else I think I will give it a break then

[KHAUF]

But I would be honest with her for these 3 months too , genuinely giving efforts

[Iron_Man]

Great 👍

[KHAUF]

Thanks brother

[Iron_Man]

You are very welcome