Should I return her stuff or wait for her to contact me?

[KevinBl]

My ex broke up with me around one month ago, so I went no contact since then. I wonder why she hasn't picked up or asked for her stuff? I don't think she doesn't need them anymore since those stuff are related to her hobbies and interests, and just looking at those stuff reminds me of her all the time, and it hurts lol. I asked her once already after she dumped me, she said she will pick it up soon whenever she goes around my place. But it's been more than 3 weeks and she hasn't asked me about it yet. But somehow I need to return it because it belongs to her. Should I ship her stuff to her house without contacting her? Or just wait for her to ask for it? Because I don't want to break no contact by texting her, though I don't want to ask mutual friends to deliver it, they might asking why and start teasing me lol. Thank you!

[SunflowerT96]

She should pick them up it's not fair leaving you with a constant reminder but she also maybe just feels awkward about seeing you again. I would tell her to come pick them up or you're going to throw them away personally. She's had plenty of time and the longer she leaves it the more awkward it's going to be. Don't feel bad about it if she doesn't come, if she needed her things that badly she would.

[KevinBl]

Thanks, well if she needs it then she could just text me and I will ship it to her house. Then done. Why should she feels awkward? She dumped me though, I guess I should be the one who feel awkward if I contact her, I would break no contact and she might be thinking I'm using that stuff for a reason to reconnect with her.

[SunflowerT96]

I think I would feel awkward if I broke up with someone and I had to see them again, I would feel bad. Obviously not every girl is the same but I'm guessing she could probably feel that way. Honestly I wouldn't worry too much about it ask if she wants them give her a time frame to pick everything up and if she doesn't get them just throw them away so you don't have to see it all

[Anonymous]

Tell her to come and get her stuff by a certain date. if she doesn't show up, then either give it to charity, or put it on the curb with a free sign attached.

[KevinBl]

Well does that mean I have to break no contact?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, but that's fine in my opinion.