Is she into me too?

[Bdoz83]

so, I have this female friend whom I have told that I think I am Bi and I have also told her that I am into her. I told her I know nothing can come from this because we are both married. I must also add the fact that she is 19 years my senior. We get along better than I have with 90 percent of people that I know and tell each other almost everything There has been a number of times that I get a sense that she too is into me, and also times when she seems to be openly flirting with me. Is this in my head or is she secretly into me. She never has come out as being into girls but said one time that a girlfriend drunk kissed her and she didn't mind it. Any advice?

Sincerely Confused

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I suppose I should add to this is that. Yes my husband knows how I feel and the entire story….. and yes I had a really good reason for telling her and my husband how I felt. Don’t want to explain or get into all that here. But just wondered peoples opinion on if she could have feelings or is toying with me.

[PrettyPriya]

Well, my first thought is who cares if she is into you? You made it clear nothing can happen because you are both married, so what does it matter if she is or isn't? Second thing that has got me confused (as you are) is why even bother telling her this when you knew nothing could come of it?

I'm not sure the point of bringing it up when you had decided you are (wisely) not going to act on those feelings. That is like telling someone that is lactose intolerant that the place you are dining at has the best ice cream in the world. What is the point?

I think all you have done is make a difficult and confusing situation where one did not need to exist. I will circle back to the "what does it matter" part of what I said. I'm not sure why you feel like you need to know if she is into you.

What is that going to solve? If anything, it is going to create more problems and confusion in my opinion. I think that you just need to drop it and not worry if she has any feelings towards you.

[Bdoz83]

I had many reasons to tell her how I felt. In which I have no reason to explain here. Also there was a time in which my marriage was falling apart and was looking as though I was single for a while. And she too seemed to be in happy in hers.
My husband knows all this. I was honest with both.

[Light909090]

Only one way to find out ya gotta seduce her she told you one time a drunk Girl kissed her so do the same get drunk and kiss her make your move when your drunk and try to get her to Take advantage of you but when I say that I mean try to get her to think it’s okay to Engage in sexual Performance with you

[Light909090]

After all she said she didn’t mind when the drunk girl did it

[Guy13]

Sounds like she's trying to get into your head?

[Guy13]

Isn't this a huge risk with a husband. What happens if he finds out. People are crazy no and days. I see news stories about spouses, cheating, and really bad things happening. Be safe is all I can say !!.

[Bdoz83]

He knows the whole story. I don’t so much care what the risks are. It’s been 3 years and I’d love to know with out asking her

[Guy13]

Alright. Not trying t be offensive but it is all very confusing to me. I think it is one of those only know if you live it thing...

[Anonymous]

You never know, she could be in the closet, but what does your gut feeling tell you? The bottom line here though, is that you won't pursue her anyway, so why put so much thought into it?

[Bdoz83]

Things have changed since I told her I didn’t think anything could come from this. So I’d really love to know how she feels

[Opinion Owner]

Why not ask her.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you guys just have a really good friendship and confusing it being a gay thing when maybe it’s not