Ladies don't like boring guys?

What makes ladies feel alive? They are attracted to bad guys because they are Fun and daring, but, don't like good and calm guys because they are boring a lot of times, too serious, etc. So, my question, what can a guy do to make a lady feel alive? (except a long hike... They hate it!)

Anonymous

(18-24)

I dont think the guy im dating is a bad guy, but he is fun and daring. Sure, he’s fearless, protective, and ready to fight anybody anytime if he needs to, but he isn't an asshole for nothing..

Anyway i dont find him boring because he does more than just taking me to nice dinners. We do plenty of other stuff and he actually teaches me things (doing stuff and also conversation-wise). He is indeed an adventurous person, and im someone who’s been looking for it.

He also shows interest of the things I've always wanted to do, and he makes it happen. He thinks about what i like and what i enjoy. He focuses on making me happy. That’s what avoids boring. I've lost interest for guys who i didn't feel a lot of excitement to. Sure they’re nice, but i wanted more and i found it.

Opinion Owner

1 y
I don't know if u wanted specifics, but these would be the general thought.

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Jamesier

1 y
Yeah, specifics 😁, 'cause you mentioned you lost interest in some guys who were nice. Thanks

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Opinion Owner

1 y
I didn't lose interest because they were nice tbh, i lost interest because we ended up in a routine even early on in the relationship. Some girls could be into that, but im not. A guy could be nice and fun at the same time.

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Opinion Owner

1 y
I guess first off, make sure the conversation is good, the vibe between you two feels comfortable (not forced). U could be doing the most exciting thing but if the talking part is lame, its gonna suck.

So my boyfriend has a “spot” and he brings me there and we’d make the most of it each time. Its a lake. we’d bring food and drinks, jump off a cliff, go swimming, fuck in the woods, and just talk. We have the same humor so we have a lot of laughs. Just find a common ground and interest with her and let it grow.

He knew I've always wanted to go sky diving so he told me he found a place and we just went for it. He has a friend outside the city in a beach house and we spent a weekend there. He let me meet his friends and we’d just play around.

He knows i have a dog and she means everything to me so he spends time with her too. Show her that u value what’s important for her. Honestly, just dont get stuck in a routine. It doesn't even have to be anything grand and it would still be fun. We’d just walked around a flea market and id have an amazing time. I also learn a lot from him.

Bottom line is to put in effort to make each other happy and have actual fun. He spoils me a lot and i spoil him back, he brings me to his favorite places/restaurants and i do the same, he likes doing things and i go do it with him, i like roller skating and he tries to learn them lol.

Even just staying in the room watching cartoons, cuddling, fucking, brunching and talking is fun. Pay attention to her, make time for her, and make her feel wanted. He does all these for me and it makes me happy so i make him even happier. I cook for him, suck his dick and let him fuck me whenever.

My ex didn't do as much for me, so i didn't do a lot for him too. Thus, boring… he thought just because he was nice and wasn't cheating, it was enough to keep a relationship. Its not ;) EFFORT IS THE ANSWER I GUESS. All these would be nothing without respect, so dont be a dick and just hope she isn't an insensitive bitch.

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Opinion Owner

1 y
Tell a joke any chance u get, dont over think things, sing around her, dance with her. Focus on making her laugh.

At the same time, she should be meeting u halfway. Otherwise, it would feel like a chore.

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