I met this girl on Hinge about a year ago. We kissed once but never did anything else. She only wanted to be friends so we have remained friends, and we meet up often. Our friendship is actually really good.
She has a strong preference for South Asian men, which I am (she's white). She is continuing to meet lots of South Asian men on Hinge and dating/sleeping with them which is starting to mess with my head. How do I deal with the fact that she is into these guys but when it comes to me she won't give me even the slightest chance? Some of the guys she's seeing she said she has no romantic/sexual connection with or they're too laid back for her. She said the same thing about me yet she continues to date those guys but she won't ever consider me as dating material.
How do I deal with this? Shall I cut her off? The worst thing is she has moved 10 mins away from me and I see her Instagram stories where she is going on dates with guys in my area.
Pretty sure race is not a matter of discussion here. She maybe liked you initially but then found something that is not for her, maybe your personality, your role, your way to communicate etc. Something for sure convinced her you are not dating material for her, or not compatible with her. Maybe you were clingy, needy, pushy. Or maybe she is avoidant, has trust issues and whatnot and does the same with all of them. In any case, it looks like she is not into you.
I think you could try another (last) move on her, asking seriously what you are for her and if she sees any perspective to go on other dates. If she says you are just a friend or that she is not ready for a relationship, then it means she rejected you.
Are you sure you have a "really good" friendship with her? Have you interests in common you talk about often, are you in each other's life? Would you be in this friendship the same if she was a guy? Just to check because you might misunderstand what looks like a friendship to you, that is instead just your bias to stay close to her because you like her. This is important to clarify to yourself, because if what keeps you close to her is not the "friendship" but is actually the fact you like her, then you should be honest with both of you and state that you are looking for a relationship with her, not a friendship, and so if she can't give it and offers only a friendship, you will have to look elsewhere and need some space away from her in order to move on healthily.