a bad sign? There is a girl at my work, at a different department, but we are essentially not working together. We met at an introductory course at the company. I know from a friend of hers that she is single at the moment. Whenever I see her from a far she always waves at me, sometimes even even with both hands, with a big smile on her face. However whenever I approach or talk to her she seems a bit nervous. She always keep stroking her hair while talking to me and sometimes touching her face, however the vibe I get from her is that she seems a bit distant. The other day while sitting at the bus station across each other she continued stroking her hair all the time and sometimes disengaged from the conversation by shifting her stare through the window, looking a bit confused or uncomfortable. We talked only about work and our conversation was very casual. Although I wanted to ask her out, I got the impression she felt uncomfortable around me. Since we are in our late 20s which I consider too old for her being nervous around me because she likes me. Or I might be wrong. What do you ladies say? Thanks in advance.
Girls, Girl I know , always smiles and waves at me (sometimes even with both hands) from far, but when I approach she seems a bit distant. is this?
What Girls Said
So she cannot be nervous because she is in her late 20s? That doesn’t make much sense to me to assume at some point in life you just stop being nervous about things. I was nervous asking my current partner out on our first date.
If she is acting nervous it is because she is. Perhaps she just doesn’t know what to do or say around you. Maybe that is because she likes you, maybe not. Her being fidgety and nervous at the bus station is completely normal. She just wants to get home and might be concerned about being approached by someone.
Last thing I can think of is that she is nervous because you are coworkers. Seldom is it a good idea to get in work relationships. So many things can go wrong the will effect your work. What if there is a big fight or bad breakup? Are you going to be able to function around each other? This is why so many companies have policies against workplace relationships.
Thanks for the answer. Totally agree on work relationships, however we are only sitting in the same building, we dont share work at all.
Ah! Then that makes sense. Perhaps she is just nervous because she wants to say something or hopes you will but doesn’t really know what to do. That is a possibility.
She may just be a jovial person that is friendly and waves at you or other people just because of her type of character. That does not have to mean anything.
Stoking her hair is also something natural for someone that has mid shoulder length hair or long hair. It is just a way to put the hair in place and out of the face. Again, it does not have to mean anything.
The fact that she seems uncomfortable around you or when she is in close quarters with you could just mean that she is also the shy type of person when she is with another person that she does not really know too well.
I believe that she is aware that you are interested in her but she feels uncomfortable because she does not really know how to handle this situation without hurting your feelings. That is why she distances herself when nobody else is around.
Thanks a lot for your answer. It makes perfect sense what you have said, but as she has approached me several times in group settings by leaving her crowd to talk to me and as well added me on social media, i thought perhaps I stand a chance. Thats essentially why I got confused with her being nervous.
Without addressing her in private and asking her directly, you will never know...
Work attractions can be awkward at best, so I assume that is what is happening here.