I have been friends with her for about two years now and we talk all the the time or at least once a week. I ended up catching feelings for her and for awhile now every time she talks to a new guy she disappears and acts differently but I didn’t like it so I gave myself distance and she would get mad if I leave some text from her unanswered and because she lies to me a lot about talking to other guys I told her I don’t feel comfortable so when she talks to a guy I asked her to just be honest so I can give myself distance but she said it’s none of my business and I understand that completely. I have never told her not to be friends with someone or she can’t talk to them and I never will I saw me asking to let me know as a boundary thing to protect myself from becoming a jealous person and to try and make it work. So the other day she thought I was mad at her because I was busy and didn’t text her back so I went to talk to her and she was with a guy she just met for only a few days and they talk every night I didn’t like how she was acting around him I got the vibe I wasn’t supposed to be there so I didn’t say anything and walked away. She got mad the other day and said she’s not into him but when I wanted to talk about everything and tell her about how I felt she lied and said she’s going to bed and that she’s upset but it turns out she lied and was on the phone with that guy so I had enough of the lies and bs I ended the friendship because the one time I wanted to talk everything out she wasn’t there. Am I wrong and just jealous I saw it as I can’t trust her and didn’t like the situation and left I know it’s partly my fault.
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I think you are being a bit possessive, especially if she just your friend. A girl talking to a guy doesn't' always mean that she's into him. I do think she's hypocritical for blowing you of but then getting mad at you for focusing on your own life. That kinda seems like a toxic friend. You also say she's lying, what exactly is she lying about, I genuinely can't tell. If you feel like your being deceived, tell he about how that makes you uncomfortable and try to just talk about your feelings. if you feel that you can't do that without aking her angry, then it's best to just move on.
Controlling. Yes you are wrong in trying to control other people. This is what yiu are doing.