What do you think of this traumatic past of mine?

[Justin1019]

[Datboi65]

First of all, I recommend seeing a psychiatrist. Not to compare my issues to yours, but I've had a very fucked up childhood that I never told people about (not even here) and I found out that therapy is helpful, so I suggest you do that.

Secondly, as far as the "good guy" thing is concerned, that's just how women are wired. Women like a man that's not necessarily bad, but someone who is capable of inflicting harm on others. Why? Because it gives them a sense of protection. A "nice guy" or a dude that's passive cannot stand up for himself, so how is he going to protect his woman? What you need to work on instead is being ASSERTIVE and learning how to say no more often, aka enforcing your boundaries. If a woman cannot control you, she has to respect you. Women aren't attracted to men they don't respect, so you need to care more about a woman's respect rather than her love.

Now the other thing is that being a gentleman isn't a bad thing. A gentleman is a man with decent characteristics, not necessarily your stereotypical "nice guy". A gentleman is a man that's kind, giving, patient and humble. However, a gentleman can also be assertive and strong. What I find out is that it's not about what you HAVE already that's the problem, it's what you are MISSING. Don't change those traits that I mentioned before, you should be more focused into adding that element of assertiveness, charisma and boundaries to what you already have. The good news is that these traits can be learned and they will change your outcome without having to punch anyone in the face.

Remember, with every rule there are exceptions. You are not guaranteed to get all the women you desire by being a good gentleman with a backbone who respects himself, some girls just happen to like thugs and dudes with no future. These are not good girls, they are girls with daddy issues and you need to RUN if you talk to one of them, because they can get you in a world of trouble or possibly killed. Don't try to live a lifestyle that you know you're not made for, it never ends well.

[Justin1019]

I don't really care about women anymore. I just saved those 7 good girls from having their virginity taken by being by bad boys. Right now, I really regret what I just did.

I will just be single forever. Thank you.

[Datboi65]

You "saved" them? No you didn't. That's just what you tell yourself to feel better about the situation.

If you regret what you did, go to therapy. It's not my business nor do I care if you're gonna date anyone or not, but if you don't like what you did then maybe you should take accountability first and go do something about it.

[GOOSEBOY78]

TL;DR its all overshare on a first date, thats where your going wrong here bud.

women need a air of mystery about you and if they have all the information in one go they will run. and run far away from you

yes you can tell them some of it when they need to know otherwise keep your conversation light and fun (no religeon or politics) whle your trying to get to know them.

how would YOU feel if someone you just met telling you their life story and you just met them?

yes exactly too much info and its not like you cn go anywhere with it can you?

[Summeroflove]

MANY women like genuine nice guys. Believe you me. It’s all the piece of shit women rejecting the good ones and they’re going to get what they deserve. They dkmt matter anyways.

Scornfully rejecting someone or humiliating someone. Those ain’t good women friend