Do you allow any past traumas, to effect your life?

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DJB72 · Accepted Answer

It's impossible not to. Everyone has hurt in their past. Family members die. Accidents happen.

How to react is the key. You can flex or break. The choice is yours.

One of my favourite books is "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl. Frankl survived Auschwitz because he chose how to react to what the Nazis did to him and his family. He said he had greater inner freedom than the Nazis guarding them.

I lost my leg. It doesn't define me, but it has changed the shape of my character. Every choice we make does.

Jaximus-Lion · Accepted Answer

Allow? It hard to explain. What kind of trauma, there is the positive kind and there is the bad ones. I learned how to control my trauma, a lots of war, blood and all that. There is things that changed my life where my first 20 years of life was all of it just war, hate, blood, explosions, bullets. etc. So things i keep, because it shaped my life, i have scars because of these things. Some other things that always made me think (what if) a lots of fear and nightmares, i choose to get rid of them

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

My “traumas” honestly made me better. Because i know what not to do, who not to be around and so on. Also being forced to have sex in public places was traumatic back then but look at me now. I love it 🤷‍♀️

Do you allow any past traumas, to effect your life?

Leapfrog00 · Answer

I try not to, but at night I have nightmares so horrid, it takes me one or two hours to get back to sleep. I have PTSD from my abusive parents. Then I have a narcissistic aunt that did atrocious things to me.

When I try to keep going and try to accomplish something, I still hear their voices in my head telling me what I loser I am, and how dumb I am.

Post-traumatic stress can cause high levels of anxiety. If I didn't have all the going on, I wouldn't allow it.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

The passing of my wife affects me, however, I try not to let it influence my relationships. I do ask anyone that I am seeing to respect my grieving process. I would definitely do the same for someone else in my shoes.

TonyV · Answer

Can be hard not to let them effect you, like missing an ex/crush, even if you later realize you dodged a bullet it's hard to let the good memories go.

God forbid you loss a child or get assaulted in some way, they would be hard to ignore.

computer_nerd · Answer

the trauma of my fathers death effects my life. i can be at a store or at work thinking about him & i start to cry

PragmaticProfit · Answer

Unless we adhere to adlerian psychology, our life experiences inevitably shape the individuals we become.

AaronKrieger · Answer

Well it's going to effect you no matter what, but I try to control how much it does to the best of my ability.

MrCommodore · Answer

No, perhaps subconsciously they do, but otherwise I try not to let them.

exitseven · Answer

It is hard not to. Usually when you touch the hot stove and burn your hand you are careful not to touch it again

Sparkie460 · Answer

The death of my 2 day old son still effects me. I'm overly protective of my son and daughter to this day

humanearth · Answer

It may effect my life, but it don't control my life

Buttajah · Answer

I would say, it has effected my life, but  I wouldn't go as far to say I let it. Watching a parent taken from you,  isn't something one could just brush off.

Anonymous · Answer

Past traumas have never asked permission to affect my life. They just do it.

PointTaken · Answer

I try not to but sometimes it happens. Not that often anymore.

Guardian45 · Answer

Doesn't matter if I allow it; they do!  I am ND and a PTSD Survivor.

FireFox001 · Answer

No. I learn from them, but not hold it against others.

RavVid · Answer

There is one I am still getting over but no I am not allowing it to affect my life.

DaddyDiablo · Answer

Well the thing about ptsd is that you have to KINDA re-live all past traumas in one way or another :|

smartman12 · Answer

Past trauma and female rejection has kept me single throughout my entire adult life. In fact, I'm 37 and sadly have never had a girlfriend.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Nope, not at this point.

Reddy4it · Answer

I probably do…despite best intentions…

dudeinohio · Answer

I try not to but it always doesn't work

Christoff92 · Answer

Always try to be positive 😊

collie22 · Answer

Yeah I guess so

Noah2023 · Answer

I try not to..

Paulychicagoluv · Answer

You already know this

TrillXHippy · Answer

I don’t cause nothing happened to me

Fuentes · Answer

I made different choices

Prince_09 · Answer

Yes some are still effecting my life

Jennz6 · Answer

I try not to

YaseminSirketikli · Answer

not really

LavLavLuv · Answer

I try not to

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Not too much

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