Have you had your fair share of trauma?

[Smashingdoozy]

This happens to me so often... I often call myself an open book which really just means I'm so desensitized to my own life story that I'll tell it to people as if it's normal to have lived like that 😂

Chill abandonment issues.

[JustinTheGreat]

That’s exactly how I realized I was a sexual assault victim..
When I was a kid I didn’t really realize what happened to me. I was young and didn’t understand how bad it was.
I remember telling my friends the story and laughing about it. But they weren’t laughing…they said it was horrible. I still didn’t realize how horrible it was until years later.

im definitely desensitized to everything bad that’s ever happened to me. I just thought I was an emotionally strong person. I used to see it as a good thing. Now I wonder why I don’t grieve and react to my traumas the same way everyone else does

[AaronKrieger]

Sure, but I never saw certain events in my life as traumatic until I'd tell people about it and they'd be horrified/shocked. It's always weirded me the fuck out.

I've never looked at my life through the POV of self pitying, but through a "it is what it is" mentality even as a kid. I'd rather focus on the good moments.

[Smashingdoozy]

Trauma isn't self pity. It's a natural response to highly difficult situations 🙂

[AaronKrieger]

True, but looking back negatively at your traumatic events incorporates elements of self-pitying for the most part.

[Smashingdoozy]

There's a difference between looking back at something negatively and not moving on or growing from your experience

[AaronKrieger]

There is a difference, but I am speaking generally here. A lot of what I said doesn't apply to certain situations, and it's heavily context based. Also, everyone responds to trauma differently.

I'll just end it on that note with reaching common ground, since we don't need to debate about this 😂. I'd have to write an essay to explain exactly what I mean, which I doubt you want to read, lmao.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes, my childhood traumas, no longer does a thing for me to remember. It’s like a story that happened so long ago, I have made peace with them and I feel proud of my background.

[elizamichale1]

Yes the incidents of me being raped over n over by a priest n later by a friend n partner of my dad

[Hithere4567]

Yeah I was bullied. Doesn't sound too bad but it was.

[Smashingdoozy]

Bullying is the worst

[exitseven]

yeah it sucks.

[Hithere4567]

I'm glad you understand. It destroyed my self image and made it very hard for mr to trust anyone, and hard for me to have relationships with most people

[Smashingdoozy]

I think it's stupid how brushed over it is, bullying especially in adolescence sets your trust level for life

[Hithere4567]

Yeah, I know war vets have PTSD but bullying causes that too

[exitseven]

I had a near death experience and one time many years later it all sort of came back on me. Other that that I am okay.

[Redstang88]

I think that word has become very overused. Had some tough breaks but that’s life, just gotta deal with it.

[Smashingdoozy]

Perhaps but I think it describes my situations perfectly

[msc545]

I get vicarious PTSD from listening to the war stories of my patients, and then I have my own personal instances of trauma.

[Anonymous]

I used to think so before I came to this site. But when u saw how bats*** crazy some of the women are here I realized, no. No I haven't been traumatized really much at all.😆😆😆

[OddBeMe]

I can honestly say no. I’ve read and interviewed people who had just shit lives. And I know im pretty good.

If you ever want a breather from depression look up To Catch a Predator or Court Cam. You’ll suddenly see you’re life isn’t that bad.

[Smashingdoozy]

This is an incredibly shitty way to talk about trauma. Everyone's experiences are valid, doesn't matter if people have had it worse 🙂

[OddBeMe]

I just meant mine. And maybe don’t turn yourself into a victim.

[Smashingdoozy]

I am a victim. There's nothing wrong with being a victim.

[OddBeMe]

My opinion it creates learned helplessness. Gives people an out for fixing their own problems.

[Smashingdoozy]

Accepting being a victim is the best way to heal. Ignoring the facts is not fixing the problem

[OddBeMe]

Sure but you’re turning into victimology. Making it an excusel

[Smashingdoozy]

Uh no. I strongly suggest yous too talking

[ProbablyClueless]

Oh, absolutely. I've been through all kinds of insanity. I've had the good fortune to be able to work through those traumas and heal.

[Anonymous]

Sure but I keep my book closed... for the most part

[TonyMetal___86]

Each person have his/her own story, it's good to listen to each other and learn from each other so we make a better life...

[jeffend888]

Yes I have. And nobody I know personally has had any so it's very difficult to relate to anyone.

[Anonymous]

Yeah me except when I reveal my trauma people tend to change the topic or ignore me

[Alex8736]

OMG yes. And to identify with you when it sounds normalized is "what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger " 😇

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I've done that before.

[gothbxtch]

yes i do have trauma.

[AydenHazor]

This definitely still happens to me frequently

[FunkyMonkee]

WAAAAYYYY more than my fair share!!

[Jennz6]

I had more than my share

[BrookeS]

Same baby

[MementoMori777]

Sure I guess

[zagor]

I have a lot of self-inflicted wounds.

[Jmmmfi4]

Haven't we all

[Smashingdoozy]

No...

[Anonymous]

Yes i have, more then enough

[Naughtygurl66]

Yeah I am clumsy 🙃

[EaterPeter]

I guess

[eagle1951]

yes i have