So I was getting along with this girl pretty good. I was flirting with her and she would smile and try to be around me. I liked her a lot but I made the mistake trying to get along with her like I have with other girls.
We were about to go on a date when through text I told her we should “get dinner then make-out”. It wasn’t the first time I’ve been flirting with her but I guess it was the most blunt tease I had done by that point and it was a playful tease which I kinda do to reassure myself that I’m dealing with a girl I’m going to start a relationship with. Even if we were to go out on a date and nothing would’ve happened I would’ve been okay with that. But I guess it’s just something I’ve gotten used to doing because my relationship with other girls would go straight to physicality and I saw nothing wrong with it. It didn’t mean the same for her.
After that she flaked on the date and after some texting back and fourth she said that she thought that was weird and that she doesn’t go around F’ing everyone. By that point I tried to correct the issue telling her that it wasn’t all that serious it was just a joke but then I went off to screw it some more saying other things. Bottom line though I still don’t see what was the issue. We were attracted to each other, she said yes to going out on a date, I had flirted and complimented her before. I don’t understand why she got so upset.
In the end she told me not to hit her up and that she is not interested. I’m still very confused as to why she got so upset and it wasn’t like that’s all I was looking for. I just saw us starting a relationship.
We work in the same place so we still see each other but this last time I was around her for work she was just different. She was bitchy, mean and aggressive. I felt it was different from how we would get along in the beginning and I’m willing to try it again but well now she seems to be nice to everyone except me. It’s weird.
She’s going hot and cold at a just of week of notice and it’s very frustrating. I’m going to try and ask her out one more time which I feel she will say no to again but her attitude is just very frustrating to deal with. Problem is I like her and sh
You should let this one go. After that first crack about “Sex for Dinner”, you will likely never see her again. If you said that to my sister, we would have a bad day together.
I see ZERO chance.
You might be right but again it’s about being real in my eyes. I always feel like I’m being deceptive if I don’t make intentions known when going out on a date. Or you have to read something you don’t like reading or you’re dealing with someone who isn’t sincere. Plus it wasn’t sex for dinner. It was a date. I’ve also had experiences were I go out and there is no sex or anything like that. I end up friend-zoned immediately after. From there on out when I want a girl I make a move and usually it happens. Again I can keep it clean and play it nice but if we’re not attracted to each other for a date then what’s the point of dating?
Again I’ve had girls I hadn’t even met in person yet flirt with me more bluntly then this girl. It’s not about “sex for dinner” it’s about having fun and being playful with a girl I’m in a relationship with. I guess I rushed things too soon but that’s all I see wrong with this. In the end though she doesn’t care. She doesn’t take any explanation. I’m just waiting for the next girl to come around but it was unfortunate how this panned out
I should also mention that if I would’ve said something like that in person she probably would’ve laughed it off or something like that. The vibe and feel while in person was light and playful on text it was just brutally different. The other issue I had in the end was over texting and she would say I was “doing too much”. Which was the first time I had ever have a girl I’m potentially dating say something like that. The girls once they like me want to text more, they want to show up for dates, etc. She had every sign that she liked me yet seemingly was putting no effort into making it work or being with me
Yeah. This sounds like this particular girl has a high standard and considers your statement as too much too soon. It’s a Judgment thing…
I suppose so. Usually when a girl likes me I feel like I can say almost anything and it will slide because in the end I’m honest about my flaws and things like that. With this girl it wasn’t like that. It was like once I put down a statement it was basically a death sentence to the relationship.
I would argue that she probably didn’t like me all that much to begin with. Which is what I told her and she would say that wasn’t the reason. She said that she was down to going out but I was “doing too much”.
Girls that like me don’t think this way. They make things happen and text more. She also was incapable of saying whether she liked me or not. She never said anything like that either. But yeah I suppose she goes out on dates to see if she likes a guy or not. But well I just see myself dating girls I actually like.
But yeah it’s all messed up and she made up her mind about me I guess but it’s 100% wrong is the least I can say
There you go... who knows what happens with some time passing.