Why don't girls approach a handsome guy?
I'd have trouble approaching an average guy, as I'm still working on my social anxiety. But the main reasons would be fear of rejection or looking desperate, and the presumption that if I find him attractive, many other girls will too, and he'll know that, so I always worry he wouldn't actually want to have a relationship.
I also don't know how to objectively judge myself on the looks rating, so I don't want to ask out a guy who might be out of my league. But nonetheless, I'm always friendly and smile at everyone. And I suppose it must be lonely for some of those guys who are just assumed to be playboys because they're handsome when a few of them might just want genuine attention as much as anyone.
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Because then if ( he don’t want you). It’s like; you’re the laughing stock. You’re the joke. Jokes on you.
You’re gonna look like yet another girl who wants this guy. Except you’re got rejected. And then you just look like the ugly girl who also wants the hot guy. 🤡
All his hot Exes are gonna laugh at you. 🤡
Decide if you want to be a traditional guy or a non-traditional guy. If you want to be a traditional guy then 1.) You need to put effort into making the first move / taking the first risk, 2.) 99% of women want traditional benefits from guys, even if she herself doesn't want to be traditional at all. 3.) If you're traditional don't waste time on females who don't want to be traditional... it's not worth it.
Oh, wait.. you thought being a guy means you can just sit back and everything you want in life comes to you? Doesn't work like that. Although, guys who live in places where the women far outnumber the guys have an easier time.
They don't have to. The burden of approach is on the man, especially if you want a feminine woman. That being said, in most cases the women that approach men, have far more experience with men.. Women are known players too now, and the women approaching unsuspecting men, in most cases are going to manipulate your emotions via sex appeal or straight up sex. Don't allow approach anxiety to stifle your options. You want to be the kind of man that gets to choose the woman he wants, not the man that only chooses from what he has available.
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Sometimes they do. Approaching takes lot more confidence than most women have.
I would say they are either scared of rejection or are shy. I used to do the whole eye contact, smile, blink slowly then look away tactic to show I’m interested and then wait to see if they’d approach me. It was a more subtle way then directly approaching them. Don’t get me wrong it worked but now that I’m more mature and confident I wouldn't have a problem approaching someone I’m attracted to.
Honestly? Because I assume he's already taken and seeing someone (which yes, usually is the case for men I like), or he's not interested in me.
That's not to say I won't be polite, chat, and say hi to him. But I'm not going to flirt or pursue him unless I'm sure he's interested and he's single.Uh... intimidation. It's difficult enough talking to a complete stranger who's an average guy. Doing a cold approach with someone you think is gorgeous is terrifying.
But I've done it. And it's well worth it, ha. 😈
I went up to this guy that me and so many girls thought was sexy and handsome. Told him I wanted to kick his a$$ in mortal combat and now we’re dating lol
Men underestimate how intimidating they can be if they have their shit together. Plus we're kinda socialized to assume that if a guy isn't approaching or signalling in any kind of way, then he's not interested.
And approaching an attractive/impressive guy that you think isn't attracted/impressed by you, can feel like
Solid advice from a fellow objectively handsome man...
As men more often than not the burden is on us to make the first approach handsome or not. If she smiles at you and/or holds your gaze go say hey. If you have approach anxiety, put in the reps until you overcome your fear and get better (be willing to fail and embarrass yourself). Once you overcome the fear you have the option to have multiple women if you want because of the charisma you've built. Don't worry about #metoo bs; that's media brainwashing/cope vast majority of the time.
I literally have no game... if girls didn't approach me it would be impossible. My pick-up artist skills are pretty much flex muscles and getting them to approach me. I don't even think I'm handsome.
So I just disagree with this question... women do it all the time.
They do. Most of the time they will put themselves in his sight line and expect him to make the move though.
If you are asking for yourself, well you either aren't as handsome as you think. Or you are expecting way more out of women than you should. 90% are too afraid to approach.
Because the are afraid of many things, like the competitions and the hassels of that, their own self image, it he's shallow, if he have no skill because he don't need it, that he's "spoiled", the chance he puts less efforts into most things and so on.
You will not like the answer. Because rejection from an attractive man may compromise your ability to date other men in a hypergamous manner. If he rejects you, others may notice, others may reject you as well. This is a prospect for men as well, but not nearly so much as there is less hypergamy in male dating patterns.
Because itsvstill seen as desperate for women to make the first move by many
Eh I'm in the middle where I'm enough unrepulsive for women to spontaneously approach me but mostly not enough attractive to be desirable.
Then again my dermatologist is just half done.
If a guy is really handsome but they don't approach him then they find him intimidating.
Or he isn't actually handsome.
Fear of rejection mostly. I tried it just because the what if scared me more and I received a, "I'm sorry. I'm not single" but he continues to stare at me from afar and avoid speaking to me now, which I find super weird.
Why would they?
Women get hit on constantly.
Think about it; if you had a choice between one or more of X amount of sure things why would you risk the awkwardness of a maybe from +1?
Not only is it not necessary for a woman but women are extremely averse to exposing themselves to this sort of risk, women are manipulators and prefer that someone else expose themselves to these 'dangers' on their behalf.
I don’t think I’m handsome at all but I’m well aware that how I look to me isn’t how other people see me
that being said when women see a guy they like they usually just stare at him until he makes eye contact and if she smiles then she wants you to come talk to her this is all from personal experiences
Because they are likely just as nervous about being rejected as most guys are about approaching an attractive women. It is easier not to try, than try.
With social media and dating apps loyalty has gone into the negative numbers. Everyone has git a roster going. I'm not approaching any dudes handsome or average but attractive.
If you're so handsome you approach!
I did but indirectly like adding on app and such but mostly good looking guys werent looking just for fun in my experience, not all but most so that makes me vary as well (im good looking)
Girls only approach when told by the social setting to do so. Usually, because a 'he' has enouvh money the setting would wsnt him to spend. You are probably too young to have any significant monetary... might?
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