Why and how are other women so equipped and lucky in finding commitment.. marriage a ring a house all of the above?

[Anonymous]

I hear white women are most desirable.

But I'm not particularly loud and ghetto so I'm not sure why some girls struggle too.

I never had anyone for that matter make it known they were romantically into me.. if they did we didn't work out obviously.

But I feel the ones I went to high school with got super lucky with great men who married them

[MrOracle]

If you were to talk to 1000 of those women who are married, you'll find some common trends. Those women tend to be:

• Young. Men don't want to marry older women who have already experienced everything. You can also add "low body count" - which would mean low single digits.
• Fit - really meaning not overweight.
• Family-oriented. Most men don't want wives who are career-oriented, because the point of getting married is to have a family, and men usually want their wife to take care of their children and ensure they are raised properly. This doesn't mean she can't have a career - it means that she should expect to delay (or pause) her career until the youngest child is in school full-time. (Yes, not all men want kids - but most who want marriage want kids.)
• Feminine. This means she acts like a lady, and looks and dresses like a lady. She's not going out in public with her tits or ass hanging out, or wearing skin-tight clothes that reveal everything. Nor does she have tattoos, face or body piercings, shaved heads, etc.
• Friendly. Men want their wives to help enhance their peace and calm, not to constantly be negative, or a problem he has to deal with.
• Cooperative. Men don't want a woman who insists on arguing about everything, or is looking to be offended by everything.
• A person with good morals and values.

A lot of women who want to be married lack many of these traits - and ironically, it's often the case that the fewer of these they have, the HIGHER VALUE the man they think they're entitled to, when the opposite is true, as people's actual outcomes prove. Many of these women don't understand that they can't simply have a list of demands for the man - they also have to be able to provide what MEN want, and the higher status the man has, the more the man is likely to demand of the woman. The women who have most or all of these traits are far likelier to be married and happy about it.

Note: this is not a judgement - I don't know you or anything about you. I'm just passing on general information for you to consider.

[TheFlak38]

You need to raise your standards a little bit. I'm sure will solve it all.

[Asker]

That'll make me forever lonely

[Anonymous]

Why you call it a success? As if it's the only and final "sucess" someone can have in their life... If you only believe you have succeeded in life if you got yourself a committed man, a house and kids, then you are on a road to a big disappointment. There is no success or failure when it comes to relationships, there's only current circumstances and paths each one of us goes to. The idea of success is very subjective and ironic because no one gets it in the end haha. Whatever we choose we will regret it. So before idealizing other people's relationships and lives, remember that they are not as happy as you think they are. It's a tabu subject, especially between women who were practically programmed to live for a man and kids, it is very hard to admit that it is all extremely overrated. I'm also one of the single friends in minority among couples, and I have never heard any of my friends say at their 33 "I have a husband, a kid and a house, wow I succeeded in life!". I hear about their struggles all the time, most are not even near happiness. Being single or in s relationship doesn't define happiness or success. I honestly think I am more "successful" then them then; because I wasn't committing I worked hard and made a lot money, I travelled a lot, I met so many people, I moved to another continent, I had a lot of sex... something my committed friends can only dream about experiencing. If I compare our lives I'm pretty sure I suffered less then them in general.

[Asker]

Sis I never said anything about success. Lol I gave you an inch and you took a mile and ran with it. Love the effect tho

[Asker]

Effort***

[Pegases]

Honestly, marriage is on the decline because most modern women have been conditioned to think that being nice to their man is a form of slavery. Plus, women file for divorce 80% of the time. So there isn't any incentive for men to get married, and that after so many men already fear commitment. So, the key I'd say is to stand out. Most women today don't realize that men want to be treated with love and affection too. Sex is great, but too many women lead with sex, which is increasingly easier to get due to feminism, and thus less valuable. Men like women that are in touch with their feminine essence, in the same way that women are attracted to masculine men. So focus on the polarity, and you'll figure out how you can become the best version of yourself. Women in touch with themselves are healers, and multipliers, and priceless. A good man will take notice, especially today because it is so rare. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

It is important to remember that finding commitment, marriage, and a home is not a reflection of someone's worth or value. Everyone's journey is different, and what works for one person may not work for another.

There are many factors that can influence someone's ability to find a partner and build a committed relationship, including social and cultural norms, personal preferences, and individual circumstances. It is not necessarily true that certain groups of women are more "lucky" or "equipped" than others in finding commitment.

Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your own journey and what you want out of life and relationships. It is important to prioritize your own happiness and well-being, and to be open and honest about your desires and intentions with potential partners. With time, patience, and effort, you may find the right person and build a fulfilling and committed relationship.

[Sleeper07]

I have a lot of questions mostly about what made your relationships not work out.

That being said, as a guy marriage is the ultimate form of simping behavior, and men are just realizing just how bad it is.

A lot more questions need to be asked to you in order to gauge the reason you're not desired for marriage. There's always a thirsty simp willing to marry.

[BarryLiverstone]

Facts - lots of girls settle. They find someone who stays around and start to grow feelings for them. If someone is married and has a house that doesn’t mean they are happy. So not quite sure they are lucky.


Regardless what are your goals and how will you achieve them?

[Anonymous]

The women who find quality guys generally find them because she's a quality women. I know women don't like to hear that, but it's the truth. A woman can play games, she can fool a guy, but only to a point. Eventually who she really is becomes transparent. And then he's gone and she's back to square 1. Best way to find a good guy, be a good woman. 😉🙂

[genericname85]

well maybe you never made someone feel like you're into them?

[Asker]

Maybe to the wrong ones?*
Because I do a lot
I think I'm just ugly

[genericname85]

i can't say if you're ugly or not. but ugly girls get married too. so maybe adjust your standards.

[LazerBean]

By having the right qualities and tactics.