How can I stop obsessing over a jealousy thought?

[Anonymous]

I saw a few years ago a comment from a girl on my husband's Facebook profile and it bothers me very much only now. She commented on a picture and he replied to her something that seemed a bit flirty. It was more before we even met , but I just want to be the one and only girl he was ever nice or flirty with even thought it sounds irrational or unrealistic. I keep ruminating on this for over 2 months now and I tried therapy, I tried keeping myself busy , doing fun activities etc. But nothing seem to help and I'm desperate and also a bit dissapointed in myself. I just don't understand why it bothers me only now , until now it didn't and I had period of times when I could manage jealousy really well. Is it possible that there's some root cause?

[Motiv8edMan248]

May seem a little bit taboo here, me personally, depending upon what kind of husband you have, it may do you some good to do some digging on learning how to be a little bit more confident and honestly, learn about and slowly begin implementing a more gentle, sensual form of dominance. I personally have had this kind of experience in my life with my first long-ish term girlfriend. I knew that it drove her crazy and the girl that I had been with before sent me a nude picture on messenger without even me asking her knowing that it had even been sent I never got to see it. From that point on she was not about that and for the next couple of years for confidence about not only herself but in her ability to not be so timid, and not only that make sure that she comes first, and many other lessons that I learned in those couple of years with her. She was 100% not at all in any way shape or form dominant until this stuff kind of started happening and I'll be honest with you I did not think at all I was going to be okay with it but I wanted to make her happy and I loved it actually looking back now

[Thatpearl26]

Simple. You guys weren’t together during that whole convo so it shouldn’t matter to you. It’s like your husband being mad at you for being with other men before him. It wasn’t during so it’s not cheating. Just get over it and accept the fact that it happened.

[Anonymous]

Have you told your husband about it?

[Asker]

Yes , I have talked to him about this so many times.

[Opinion Owner]

and what does he say?

[Asker]

He's trying to give me reassurance as much as possible and said that it wasn't a flirt. He's also trying to give me advices on how I can feel better. But the relieving feeling only lasts a few minutes until it's all back.

[Opinion Owner]

why dont you just tell him to delete their convo

[Asker]

It's been deleted long time ago already

[Opinion Owner]

So why think about it? Do you think she looks better than you?

[Anonymous]

A few years ago? Are you being serious?