How am I supposed to answer this type of question? Why do girls ask this trap questions?

[Anonymous]

So my girl just asked what I would hate on a girl to wear going outside. I said, "The reasons boys usually tell their girl to go outside less provocatively would be for safety reasons. So I answered less provocative for safety" Now she said, "Don't you think boys who don't allow their girls to dress provocatively outside is because their not confident?" She said "I won't dress like a whore so you have nothing to worry about." I just said, ok. I didn't even try to think as whatever I'll say might just cause to her to think of as offense... But this is clearly a jab at me tbh. The fact that I got called unconfident because I care. What has the world come to. I don't even know how to answer or tell her about this kind of stupid stuff, so I stopped it there. Seriously, what kind if thoughts are in y'all girl's minds. You can go dress however you want if you're unloyal, why ask your man that if you don't care what he says regardless LMAO

[lightbulb27]

You are in VERY good shape at a young age because you are seeing these things, these challenges that women will throw at you. Somehow, you got awareness, consciousness, and training that so many didn't. You will be just fine...

Such a great example. I can say this.

Women are emotionally variable people... their hormones change and as they change, their answers, their thoughts and behaviors shift. That will be over their whole life.

They are people that make offspring with emotions and that has been "baked" over thousands of years. You can only imagine wht they endured... they will test you.

They are people and they will deflect and project and play all sorts of psych games. Who knows their personality makeup and wounds... where they are on the empathy/narcissist spectrum.

Who knows if they don't know what they don't know. Do they know how easily they can stray or be taken advantage of by others? Do they understand what guys are thinking when they see them? So many don't... and it's a game they play because they want to be seen, want to be attractive and desired, etc.. but they aren't going to admit that... it's deep in their sub conscious.

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Bottom line is you "the man" have to hear these things, pay attention and learn to respond in a loving but confident way... or she will tear you up. I will caveat and say women have to deal with this crap as well, because men are not perfect and will

Eventually women mature... we'll... hopefully, but maybe never, but hopefully they mature and you aren't dealing with this kind of challenge, disprespect. She did not respond in a loving way did she... she took something she wanted and flipped back at you. This is a dangerous person to date. A women trained better, more mature, with better values, will hurt you less because she knows how to love and respect. Maybe that statement is extreme for this scenario, I wasn't there...

you are having a logical conversation with her, she's having an emotional/control one.

In some cultures, she'd have her head cut off... literally. I don't agree with that, but you can see how bad this stuff can go... life and death.

So your answer depend upon how you really feel! I love you and want you to have an amazing life... and we should go shopping [input fun]... however, you are the chocolate cake [indirect communication/analogy] that every hungry boy craves [pumps her ego]. I don't want any of them eating [possession] my cake because I know how they are selfish idiots [lower other guys]. You may not understand how strongly guys feel when they see a hot chick like you [pumping her ego].

Something like that...

[Friendlybro79]

Your answer to these types of questions are I trust you to be able to dress yourself and wear what makes you happy. If you want to know which outfit I like better I can do that from my perspective and sense of style. Not because you should or shouldn't wear it

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Just say, "You can dress however you want babe" and forget about it.

You said it yourself, she doesn't care what you say either way. Just tell her what she wants to hear and move on.
Your relationship will last a whole lot longer knowing when your opinions actually matter to her, or when she's just trying to start some shit

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Don't let your ego get in the way of your common sense

[Sleeper07]

You just answer truthfully, it's your boundary that she herself must respect.

Personally I see the sentiment as insecure. I would always love to see my lover as beautiful as she can possibly be so I let her dress any way she wants. I want to be turned on when I see her, and don't care about what other men think.

Also you are supposed to provide the safety, not her dressing habits.

[Avicenna]

Either give her your honest opinion or decline to answer

[Asker]

Thanks, I'm kinda inexperienced in this. I know telling her my honest opinion would be for myself cause it will certainly cause her to be combative but it will ease my feelings, but I've never tried to argue with her. This is the first time she asked and said this to me either way... Can I ask? If you really were to be honest even if it's a brutal type but shedding light type of honesty. How did your partner react? Regardless thank you for helping me out

[Avicenna]

Well, you can be diplomatic about it, not BRUTALLY honest

[Asker]

I'm tryna text her right now how I felt and yup I honestly said what's on my mind but in a caring and kind way, like not brutally honest. Wait isn't that just diplomatic lol but yep I did what you said, told her my mind honestly in a good way. Thanks brother.

[Avicenna]

No problem- you probably handled it as best you could.

[magiusX26]

she can either accept the honest answer and genuine boundry or not accept. thing is if she can't accept then she's not such a good match.

[Iron_Man]

She doesn’t need to dress all skimpy. Then you’re going to have to be a bodyguard?