Am I a bad daughter if I cut my parents off financially for enabling bad behavior from my older brothers towards me?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, dad went to my older brother and spoke horrible things about me. As a result, there was a verbal altercation between my brother and I…it was so bad that he probably would’ve assaulted me if it wasn’t out in a public street. After it happened, my father tried to apologize and said he spoke bad about me because the alcohol made him do so. Anyways, I was beyond devastated and kept to myself. That argument wasn’t just about what my father said…my brother also ran his mouth talking horribly about my parents. Anyways, it was too much for me to process so I cut him off and don’t Olán on mending anything with him. However, I recently found out that my parents have kept contact with him this entire time despite what happened. No apologies were said…nothing. Meanwhile, I’m out here this entire time paying my parents truck payment every month and wasting money on them like an idiot. I asked my mom if it was true that she kept contact with him despite his horrible behavior and she lied to me by saying no but I had evidence that she lied to me.

[DownInTheDumps]

No it doesn't make you a bad daughter.

I've cut my own dad off as of a few days ago. I've done almost everything for him including buying him things like a TV, a camera. Even going as far as paying his rent so he can keep a roof over his head, but the very moment he turned on me and went off at me after I went off at my sisters for ruining the photos of my baby's birth. I cut him off.

My sisters have never been there for our dad. They never helped him when he needed help it was always me who helped him. I'm also the one who spent hours sitting by his side when he was in hospital. I'm the one who would take him to his appointments and just the fact he went off at me because I went off at my sisters I cut him off. My own sisters ruined my photos the only memories I have of my baby's birth and the fact my dad defended my sisters and what they done

No I truly don't think you are a bad daughter for cutting them off. You need to do what is best for you

[Asker]

I felt this to the core! Even the day of the argument with my brother I was too broken to even process the horrible things he was saying to me due to the fact that I would do everything for my dad but the moment I speak out against his alcoholism or abusive behavior towards my mom he’d find it easier to speak horribly about me with others, others who are constantly speaking horribly about him and never helped him. As for my mom, it’s like i told her… As your daughter I stuck up for you and you failed me and there’s no way for me to understand her behavior even if it is her son. If they want to normalize that behavior then that’s on them but I refuse to go down that route. I feel lied to and betrayed. He never apologized to any of them or me. Meanwhile, they’ve been buddies this entire time while I pay their bills. She didn’t want me to find out because she knows it’s wrong. Anyways, I am choosing to go on with my life and focusing on me. I’m cutting off anybody that comes in between me and my peace.

[dudeinohio]

Cut them off. They have no right to treat you that way.

[Asker]

I agree. After I told my mom how all of that made me feel…she kept lying to my face. Then after I told her I will back off and can’t continue enabling her horrible behavior towards me she said it’s fine and that she’ll pay for the truck and if she can’t afford it then she’ll lose it. I didn’t bother replying back to her.