Do surgical scars change a lot?

[pacifyherrr]

I was born with gastroschisis which is when you’re born with an open stomach. For this reason I have an obvious scar on my stomach from my navel area to under my chest. It looks like if I were a woman who has taken the c section. I still have a navel but it’s a bit smaller. It doesn’t look too different but it’s enough to make me very insecure. I wouldn’t say I took bad in appearance but because of this scar I never wear crop tops and I don’t wear bikinis, something I really wanna do. At my age everyone wears all that and I miss out. Of course I can wear anything that reveals my stomach but I don’t want people questioning it. My question is, does it really matter. If you were to see a girl with a surgical scar on her stomach would it change how you viewed her especially if you let’s say liked her and just found out. I just don’t want anyone to never express any sort of feelings for me in that sense because of my scar. I really hate it and I feel like I’m restricted from wearing clothes that compliment my body type.

[BoopBoopBeep]

First off, scars are usually just tattoos with a better back story. Two... I did nine combat tours. I've seen a LOT of really hot women with scars. Actually one of the hottest women I ever saw took a rifle round to the face and blew out her cheek... let her with a big Joker-style scar on one side.

Three, for what it's worth, all my surgical scars DO seem to have faded more than the non-surgical ones, but I'm talking about "over a decade" sort of thing... not a few months. That said, my reconstructive surgeon said that rubbing vitamin E oil on there a few times a day will help with that, but I'm not sure if that'll do anything since they aren't fresh scars. I don't even treat my new ones, even if it's just something I got in the garden. They're a reminder I'm alive.

Either way... own it. It's you. One day you may have to fight off a bear that's trying to eat your child/groceries/rescue kitten and you'll get another scar. They're a reminder of where we've been and how much we had to fight to get there. You were all messed up and lived. Buncha people would have loved to have that scar right now because it meant they'd still be around.

You're young. Kids can be mean. Any boy that gives you crap for the scar is one that would never have become a man anyway, so you dodge a bullet not getting stuck with them.

[exitseven]

:First off, scars are usually just tattoos with a better back story:"
Well said.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@exitseven I earned all mine AND i didn't have to pay some dude a crap ton of money to do it. More times then not I was the one getting paid. Can't beat that.

[nolabels]

Scars don't change much, even after many years.

I had surgery as an infant for a hernia, 64 years ago. The scar is still there and very obvious.

I have many other scars, big and small. I make no attempts to hide them.

I've had women tell me that they think my scars are sexy.

I'd say to wear whatever clothes you want to wear without hesitation.

If you were to attempt to hide the scar by using your body language to wiggle yourself about in order to keep people from seeing it, you're going to attract attention because of that behavior, not because of the scar.

I wish you the best. 😊👍

[pacifyherrr]

Yeah I know it doesn’t change but I mean if it changes how others view you

[nolabels]

I answered the main "title" question in describing if scars change over time.

I also explained the way in which my scars are sometimes viewed by others, and how I deal with my scars.

Remove the first and third sentences of my first response to find the answer that you're looking for in this follow-up.

I'll add this:
I've never had anyone call attention to my scars in a negative way.

[RoseySarah]

The right man will love all of you scars included! My husband loves me and my scars!

If your date won't accept you and is grossed out then he is tossed away and blocked!

You sound so sweet and amazing a scar won't stop someone from loving you so much!

[exitseven]

Not at all. I knew a girl who was a close friend. When she was little she fell through a sliding glass door. She had a scar that ran down practically the whole length of her leg. She was a very pretty girl and was in very good shape. She never let it bother her. She wore shorts and bikinis and didn't care what other people thought. I really do not think anyone even gave it a second thought. This was a real nasty looking scar, sort of what Frankenstein would have.

It is a part of you, I think that you were lucky that modern medicine had the technology to fix you with just a scar. I know a little baby that just had open heart surgery. He will have a big scar on his chest. I think it is awesome that there was a surgical fix for him and he will lead a normal life with just a big scar on his chest.

[MementoMori777]

yea she would look badass with a scar and i feel like you have a higher chance of someone liking your scar than hating on it, maybe my brain is weird but its not like its on your face and lets not forget the scar doesn't take away your feminine shape or curves which is what attracts more in a bathing suit anyways, if anything a guy seeing your scar might trigger concern, interest and curiosity and they might actually even approach you which kinda works on your favor at that point.

[Sparkie460]

Scars don't change a woman. To me it means that you are a strong woman. You endured pain so that makes you stronger.