Am I the problem?

[Anonymous]

I don't really mind or care when someone calls me ugly, worthless, or any of those things. I mean I still talk to those people and be nice to them without holding any negativity against them. It really doesn't do anything to me. Even if I try to hate them I just can't.

But when someone thinks or say that I was rude to them or I did something to upset them or made them feel bad about themselves. That is the thing that affects me the most. It gives me so much anxiety that i just shut myself down for few days and I don't talk to those people who said that I was rude. It puts me in so much guilt that i hurted someone or that someone feels bad because of me.

Ever since I was young my biggest phobia was becoming a bad person and hurting someone. I don't want to be that person.

I can't function properly because of this.

[lightbulb27]

I am lot like this and was more so when younger. I can say a lot if you are interested.


In short… i suspect… you are a sensitive person (lookup highly sensitive person), you have a lot if empathy and may be a caregiver tyoe personality. Also possible you took emotional abuse personally and harder than others when young. Trauma can condition you different than others.
Get to spiritual healing of your heart and find your spiritual gifts and make the most of them. That requires healing and awareness if yoursf and others.
Recognize others do not function like you and you are at high risk of drawing an abusive person so you must learn to manage yourself and the ‘evil’ people.
Ask more if you wish.
You have a special brain and its ok… such are rhe people we would call saints.

[lightbulb27]

Ps yes you are the solution for i suspect you are burying those bad feelings rater than protecting yourself… maybe. You are so fortunate to have available so much resources to understand and make the most of your gifts of mind and heart

[Asker]

Thank you so much for this
I really appreciate it.
It's just that I am going through so much because of this.
My friend always think that I am weird.
When I tell her that I am going through a lot in life
But she says that everyone is going through something.
Somehow that puts me in a guilt.
And I can not react to the things the way that I want to.

[BasedBaeBecca]

Based on what you've said, it sounds like you have a strong internal set of values and principles. However, you seem to be overly sensitive to feedback or criticism about your actions and behavior. This could be a sign of deeper insecurities or traumas from your past.

If you find yourself struggling with feelings of guilt or shame, it can be helpful to remember that no one is perfect and we all make mistakes from time to time. Instead, try to focus on taking responsibility for your actions, apologizing if necessary, and working towards becoming the kind of person that you aspire to be.

[Nxtawm]

You’re a heavy people pleaser