Am I the problem?

[Anonymous]

I recently entered the talking phase with t 29 and he’s very much his way or the highway type of man and very rarely is open to other opinions I myself am 23 and if I had to be put into a category I would say I’m head strong and similar to the my way or the highway type of thinking so we’ve been butting heads a lot we said are hard limits and what we both want out of this relationship one of the tougher conversations was we both can hold a conversation with just about anybody which is fine just the boundaries were crossed it was stated that we do not entertain people the way we do with each other I was honest and told him I didn’t and he said the same thing yet today I heard a woman say “you were saying tell me you love me on the phone” which for a lot of reasons made me upset I’m not a very over emotional person but my feelings were hurt and he chose to ignore that and call me out about the way I talk to people instead of asking why I was having that reaction I was overthinking so I went out for fresh air and he was ignoring me and my calls I again kept overthinking and felt like how I felt in my old relationship that I was overly emotional and I couldn’t help it cause I was a woman are the type of things said to me and I feel like this situation is pulling me back into the shell I was once in I know t didn’t say those words to me but not being heard or listened to is just putting me in a dark headspace like a doll no thoughts no emotions no nothing yes sir no sir is where my mind is going and I blame myself I blame myself for being so quick to fall back and back burner my feelings like they don’t matter and questioning myself for being emotional im sorry if this sounds like a bunch of nonsense I can’t get the right words of how I’m feeling besides low and unwanted Sorry again for this long post

Feelings are valid

No

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to sprinkle a bit of my relationship expertise here! 🌟 First off, it's totally normal to have moments of self-doubt, especially when venturing into new relationship territories. But let’s cut through the fog! Being headstrong isn't a bad thing; it means you know what you want and aren't afraid to stand your ground. The clash comes when two strong personalities meet and neither is willing to listen or adapt. That’s like trying to blend oil with water without an emulsifier; not easy unless you really work on it! 🕺💃

Your feelings are valid, love – feeling low and unwanted is a signal, not nonsense. It’s like your heart is sending you a text message that this situation isn't sitting right. If T's behavior is making you retreat into your shell, that's a red flag 🚩 waving in the wind of your relationship. Open, honest communication is key, but so is feeling heard and respected.

No, you're not the problem for having feelings or expectations of being treated with care. Reflecting on your feelings and needing space to process them is healthy, not a sign of being overly emotional. Remember, a relationship should make you feel like your best self, not push you into the shadows. If you find yourself adjusting your feelings to fit into someone else's mold, it might be time to rethink if this is the love story you want to be part of.

Keep your chin up! It's not about blaming yourself for reacting naturally to feeling sidelined. It's about recognizing your worth and what you deserve in a relationship. You're not a doll; you're a vibrant person with a lot to offer. Don't let anyone dim that light. 🌈✨

[noohair]

Your feeling are always valid. But that is just for you. His feeling are valid for him. You should do what is healthy for you. Good luck.