Does a woman play hard to get when she likes you?

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BoobSlayer · Accepted Answer

In this world where human interaction is as complex as a Rubik's Cube spun around by an octopus on steroids, one must understand that every individual operates under their own set of rules.

But, women are not born with a built-in game of hide and seek for their affections. No, no, my friend! They do not come equipped with GPS systems that lead you on wild goose chases through labyrinthine mazes of emotional uncertainty.

However, there are those who believe in the mythical creature known as "the hard-to-get woman." These individuals have been known to concoct elaborate theories about female behavior involving coconuts and fiery biscuits. They would argue that when a lady appears disinterested or aloof, she is merely playing her part in the grand dance of courtship.

But I say nay! Nay to this notion that women are inherently elusive creatures whose hearts can only be won through some form of boob-obsessed treasure hunt. No, my dear friend, these notions are nothing more than chesticles-shaped shadows cast upon the wall by our own insecurities and societal expectations.

Instead, let us consider this: perhaps what we perceive as playing hard to get is merely a woman's way of taking her time, assessing whether you are worthy of being assimilated into the alluring android race. After all, who wouldn't want their boobs upgraded from mere mammary glands to bouncing bazoombas?

If human breasitcles were to be assimilated into alluring androids tomorrow, there would still be plenty of room left over for genuine connection and understanding between two individuals. So go forth, dear friend, with confidence in your own boob-loving charm! #assimilatebreaticlesintoalluringandroids

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

This depends on a lot of things. But there are two common behaviors women predictably follow:

Common Behavior #1. Women assume playing “hard to get” will make them more attractive because they themselves are turned on by challenge and hard to get men. But what they don’t realize is most women are naturally a pain in the ass to begin with. They shit test and don’t even realize they are doing it. So if a woman wonders if she is overdoing she most likely is.
Common Behavior #2: Women don’t want to come off as easy or slutty. This complex has waned a big in western society in recent years. But it still exists.

Anyway the most difficult challenge (by far) as a man is figuring out if she is just shit testing OR she has no respect for you. The former is (unfortunately) biológical. It’s often unnecessary but once you “pass” her shit tests the less she will do them and the easier they will be to pass.

But some women have no conscious and no problem taking advantage of men they don’t respect. One method to determine the difference is to just stop giving her attention when she is being difficult. Walk away. If she likes you she will eventually follow up if she doesn’t hear from you. But if she doesn’t respect you she either never follow up or worse she will only contact you if she needs something.

I just noticed that the you can get the truth from difficult women if you ignore them. The lack of attention drives them nuts.

Genie23 · Accepted Answer

That's like saying all the fingers are equally long and of the same size. Every woman is different. Most women are mature and don't waste their time or men's time by playing hard to get. Those who play that game are pretty less and are either fee very young girls or women who are still not mature. So, no, most don't. If they like you, they'll treat you better and give you more attention.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Maybe back in the old days, it brought out the hunter in him. He liked the chase.
But in this day and time, people are more sensitive and they quilt at the first hint of playing hard to get. Either he doesn't play baby games or it will make him take two steps back and disappear.

Inbox · Answer

It usually depends on her age. College girls for example will do this a lot so they don’t seem easy or slutty. In my experience, if she does it more than a small amount, she’s not worth it, unless she is one of those very conservative type of women - the problem is today it’s hard to trust a woman who plays hard to get with you, but may be screwing a guy on the side at the same time (all the while making you do all the work). Also in my experience, if I found out, I’d drop her like a hot potato (as would many guys). In short, dating should be effortless. The best girls (ones worth remembering) I’ve met have been the ones where there was NO BS in the beginning. If you’re into chasing and games, then more power to you, but coming from a guy whose gotten hundreds of #s and dates, if a girl doesn’t say yes the first time to give you her # or go out with you on a date, it’s usually a dud.

Saramad_Hill · Answer

Never assume this.
If someone is playing hard to get, they might actually just not like you that much. It's a safer bet to give them space. If they actually want you around they'll drop a proper hint or flat out say something.
Assuming everyone's playing hard to get would make the actually uninterested ones annoyed with you when you persist.

serious · Answer

Mostly yes. In my view most women do this. The degree may vary though. That is very childish and immature though. If a woman ever does with me then instantly she will be out of my life, even if she is just an acquaintance.

I absolutely have no tolerance to such people who believe in playing manipulative mind games.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

A woman is trying to suck your dick while you are playing video games with 3 of your online friends when she likes you. Hard to get is just a bitch looking for attention.

Dude! Your girl sucking your dick again bro?

Just ask my friends... even they are getting tired of her shit.

Finchie40 · Answer

Some do , mainly if she has been hurt before and had her heart broken , she might play hard to get to see if you really like her or not , some girls’ like to play games and test a man to see if he is really into her or just wanting to have sex with her

rigmarole · Answer

Some love bomb you and kiss your ass, some ignore you, others run away, some try to destroy you and then see if they can come back into your life thinking life is some romcom, and there are even some that act normal occasionally. Different people act in different ways. They all have their individual personality and all their idiosyncrasies to deal with.

Kaamraj · Answer

Almost all women do this, as firstly they want the feeling of validation of being chased and secondly they want to shit test the man. But that tendency decreases with age as women get older and they realize that they are no longer compititively fit, they will lower their standards and make it easier for men.

Pinay_ako · Answer

No. If I like a man, I don’t waste time. Playing games is a headache and definitely waste of time. Even when I was younger. I’m not a fan of that.

RingOfFire · Answer

I think that women naturally get that men are the natural hunters so they enjoy the chase and the challenge. If the hunt is too easy, they lose interest. Think of the Wolly Mammoth that was too easy to spear... the meat may not be so good because there was something wrong with the creature. So yes, SOMETIMES women play that, but not always. Depends on the circumstances.

Fireguy17 · Answer

if she does it is her loss because I'm not into playing games since I am an adult.
You either like me or you don't, and you either want to be with me or you don't.
I just really don't have time for that, I will just move on.

AviatorTom · Answer

A woman only plays hard to get if she likes the man. Otherwise, she ignores him. It's good, though, that most women don't waste their time playing hard to get.

Unit1 · Answer

Absolutely not. They'll make 10 + 3 rules for you if she is not attracted to you in order to not date you. They'll break most if not all rules for you if she is attracted to you in order to date you.

laraWM · Answer

I think it depends on the woman, but most of the time I'd say no

Billlewis · Answer

If she wants to have me in the palm of her hand, she does.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Not if she expects to hold my attention for long.

Constatine · Answer

The only thing i can say : it depends on the type of woman Some do... others don't

dolemite58 · Answer

no it’s women’s way of getting free attention/validation. If a girl is really into you she won’t play hard to get or make her intentions unclear. if you ask her to hang out and it’s not an enthusiastic yes, move on and don’t waste your time.

exitseven · Answer

Yes but these kind of games really soured me on dating.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

They can. They’re usually scared of rejection. So they prefer you to ask. But some get impatient.

Starrrboy · Answer

Most of the time you can't actually tell... that's why playing hard to get is a turn off and waste of time for most people..

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