So I’ve been talking to this girl for about 2 months now and we hit it off really well. Everything felt natural about it and we both agreed that we felt a connection and that she wanted me to be around for a long time (she’s looking for a long term relationship, just got out of one in March). We went on 4 dates with 2 of them involving physical intimacy. It was all going great up until the week of college starting and that’s when she started getting piled on by schoolwork, work, and extracurriculars. Communication slowed down quite a bit with it turning into me initiating conversations. We were talking one day and I sorta hinted that we haven’t seen each other in awhile and she explained that she has too much on her plate rn and said to be fair, I’m not seeing or talking to anyone else except my roommate and her very close friends. After that we still planned on trying to hangout over the weekend but then sent me this text the night before.
“Hey Ik we talked about maybe hanging tomorrow but I just can’t work on building a relationship with someone right now. We can still snap or text if u want and I can let u know when I feel ready again. With school and how busy I am I just don’t think it’s fair to u for me to keep saying maybe and then not following through with it. I’m very sorry. I really do enjoy ur company so much so that it made me realize I wasn’t ready for that yet and tbh kinda scared me a little. I don’t know when imma be ready to work on this and I’m sorry if I’ve been stringing u along in any way.” She had mentioned to me that she was scared about being heartbroken and hurt all over again when we first started.
i told her I understand and that I definitely enjoyed her company as well. I plan to greatly distance myself and continue talking to other women but still keeping contact. I know there’s the possibility that she’s letting me down gently but she could be telling the truth about her whole situation especially knowing we both had a great connection.
