Why can't I attract girls I like?

[Anonymous]

I can pick up every girl I don't really like, but I get turned down by the ones who I find attractive.

How is that possible?

[Hulk_kitty]

Unfortunately that's the way it was for most people. You might have ask out 50 girls, and only get 1 to say yes.

I view the dating like trying to get a job you enjoy and your happy in, for example, myself the last year has been rough trying to find a job i want, I must of going through 20 jobs, and finally I have a job I liked. But its taking me a year to find that job.

You are just going to have to keep asking, and eventually you might hit the jack pot. As the saying goes, there is price you have pay for success, and that's a lot of rejection.

[Hulk_kitty]

The people make it in this world are not the talented or intelligent, but the people who keep knocking on doors, and can handle the rejection.
Stallone said, there were a lot of people in the movie industry that were more talented than him, but didn't last the distance, cause they couldn't handle the rejection, were as stallone kept taking the hits.

Take the hits pal.

[Asker]

okay, I'll surely keep trying. but it's really exhausting. Even when I think that the girl likes me or accepts to go on a date. they usually take 10+ hours to answer text and go dry.

[Hulk_kitty]

You need to learn to move on quickly, if they are not worth your time. Don't spend hours trying to convince a chick to like you.

[Asker]

Yeah, but it's not easy to find chicks who I find attractive to chat with me.

[Hulk_kitty]

You might need to change your approach, if what your doing is not working. If you are looking to get into a girl pants quickly, then of course they will run pal. I am not saying you are, but most girls can sniff that out.

[Asker]

Yeah, I know. I'm not like that, and don't act like that. But I asked out like 5 girls so far, so probably it's because I didn't try enough times

[VictorMachiavelli]

Two possible reasons:

1) The girls you like are more attractive than the ones you don't. For the sake of simplicity let's use some numbers. Imagine you're a 7. The girls you like are 8s, they're going for men who are 8s and above. The girls you don't like are 6s.

2) You behave differently with girls you like vs girls you don't like, and it's the behaviour that makes the difference. With girls you don't like maybe you act more like yourself because you're not trying to impress them at all, and maybe you act more aloof around them. Whereas you're nervous about trying to impress the girls you like, they can sense it and it puts them off. The more attractive a girl is, the more off-putting this becomes.

[surprisedjo]

Yep, this is spot on.

[Anonymous]

It's like that for everybody man. You think most fat girls WANT to date fat ugly men? If you listen you hear them complain about it all the time on this site.