Is it normal that my girlfriend uses her period as an excuse?

Question

She is super rude sometimes and after that she tells me that she was on her period as an excuse... How should I react?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I depends on the individual woman, some have easy periods, and some have difficult painful periods with moods to match, I have four sisters, one had very easy periods, two that had what they said were 'normal' periods, and one who had really bad painful periods because she had endometriosis which were accompanied by really bad moods, with a tendency to be rude and snap at every one.

I've also had 'girlfriends' who have used the "I'm on my period" excuse for being bitchy, as you can imagine the were not 'girlfriends' for long because having my four sisters I'd learned to spot all the signs of a woman being on here period. If I were you I'd start paying attention to the calendar and watch for when she uses the 'period' excuse, the average menstrual cycle is 28 days long, but cycles can range from 23 to 35 days, so if the dates of her 'period' are all over the month then she's probably using it as an excuse for a shitty personality.

Or if she is on the contraceptive pill may cause some side effects, mood changes or loss of libido in some women.

Which ever, it is up to you to decide if you want to put up with the attitude.

BoopBoopBeep · Accepted Answer

I knew one woman like that. I reminded her that if the relationship were to proceed, it would entail that 25% of my time invested with her over the ages would be spent walking on eggshells or facing the consequences. As the former was absolutely not going to happen and the latter was intolerable, she could either fund one week per month of private travel for me or she could be an emotional adult, grow the F up and take accountability for her actions. She apologized, said she understood my perspective and it wouldn't happen again. She did better for a month, got bitchy again, so I dropped her, as I'd originally said. I do wish her well in the time since.

StarWarGirl · Accepted Answer

No if someone is aware of being in period and due to that changing in mood then they won't be simply ok with it but would try to control it or would warn you in advance before making any such rude comments even.

Being period is not at all excuse.

Yes women do have harmonal mood swings. They sometimes do act indifferently but when they do they are not much aware of what she is doing and feels guilty and responsible for her act later on.

If someone gives such excuses they are simply trying to get away with the responsibility of their own actions and it's no way acceptable.

From where I see, she is just getting toxic with you and trying to go away with such lame excuses.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

Some women have worse periods than others. It really messes with your emotions (some women get really sad, others angry, etc), it makes your body tired/lethargic and can cause intense pain. That said I think you should give her some grace as being on your period can cause worse behavior without her meaning to act in a certain way. If she was particularly rude/nasty she should apologize. It isn’t hard to say that hey I was on my period, I didn’t act appropriately and I am sorry. You might not get that apology until after it is over. If you don’t get one I would sit down and talk to her about how you felt that way you can both express your feelings and hopefully move past it

strawberrybaby3 · Answer

If this is a pattern, is it once a month that it happens, right before her period comes? If it’s all the time and she’s just using that as an excuse, you’ll know it isn’t her period because PMS will happen for a small window every month before the period comes. I know a few days before mine I become extremely emotional and am very easily annoyed by things and I try to control it the best I can. But if she is being verbally abusive and just using her period as an excuse all the time, she is probably using that as an excuse to treat you how she wants. If it continues, I’d give her an ultimatum.

abbyjgriffin98 · Answer

It depends. Sometimes, it really is our periods. I hope this is not TMI, but I can always tell when I'm about to start my period because about a week or so before, I become super irritable, develop cravings, start bloating, gain weight and my voice gets lower making it harder for me to speak (I have a voice disorder). But it is a consistent pattern and only lasts 3-6 days with about three weeks of me being normal and happy inbetween. If she is moody every day, she might just be using it as an excuse.

dynamicyandere · Answer

I’ve only had one EX girlfriend do that. She was the most toxic of all the girls I’ve ever dated.

Periods happen and people can be more emotional and more irritable during that time — but if she’s justifying instead of apologizing for her rude behavior after mistreating you, that’s a big red flag.

A girlfriend having her period should never use that as a free pass to treat their boyfriend like sh*t.

Just like it’s not okay for a boyfriend to treat his girlfriend like sh*t after a bad day at work.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

I think, like with most things.. it explains why it happed, but it doesn't excuse it.
It's each of us our own tasks to control ourselves. Everyone has holes in their character, we should all be working to improve all the time.

For example with men who get blackout angry, it's their responsability to have themselves under control. They can say it was because "bla bla" and it might explain it, but not excuse it.
Her period is an explaination that puts things into a perspective that may make it more lenient, but ultimately she is responsible for controling her being.

A_Bell · Answer

That's a tough one. I am lucky in that I had easy cycles and of course it's different when you're pregnant.

Those cramps can be really rough and pain is something that takes a lot of psychological energy to deal with. Most of us are ignorant of our bodies and I find out more every day. It's amazing we make it through as well as we do considering how much of our machinery is dedicated to reproduction.

I think that's the biggest fail of modern feminism. We aren't men and we have major differences that ARE important. One just happens every 4 weeks or so.

Harness · Answer

To start with I believe love is never rude... while I don't claim to be the expert on female menstruation, I know your woman, sir, is not the first to go through a bad period. It is very likely she's just immatured and hasn't learned how to handle herself with courtesy.
On the other hand, I also know that during our hard times is when our crudest emotions come forth... it is very likely that your woman doesn't respect you... this feeling shows when she's at her lowest, her bad period. For whatever reason this may be I don't know... I suppose it's left to you to find out...

Jdodkfndosn · Answer

It doesn't work much if you started off having aex wjth her on her period for the first 6 months.

But this is not the actual problem.

The correct problem is one of two things:
she's lost interest in the sex has the lust isn't there anymore, and tve relationship isn't fresh

Or she's sees you less desirable then before either because she mad at you, she cheating, or she bored.

You can protect yourself a lot against the 2nd by not falling for her tests, by giving her full ranve of emotions, calling her bullsbit out, and making it obvious thst you will leave if she fucks up and wjll noy be the petson to forgive her when you shouldn't becajse she knkes you can quickly get zomeone else

Anonymous · Answer

Women have periods , some more often then others , hormones fluctuate just before and during and after. There is no excuse for consistent poor behaviour or consistent disrespect. Where Communication is concerned surrounding this I would highly suggest you attempt to bring it up suggest ways she can try communicating with you more appropriately, bring frustrated is not a good enough reason to speak to you without concern for your feelings and wellbeing. A BIG flex in this is to come at her when talking with a solution to assist- it will show that you put thought in to what she may be feeling at them times when speaking to you in that manner but also that you want to help. You could try getting her fav cool/hot drink , give her a little bit of attention that she likes or craves ( what ever that looks like) and just try to reconnect and talk about it. Good luck

HelpfulWoman · Answer

menstruating can indeed cause more moody behaviour and mood swings. Since a lot of it is hormone based. Unless she's using it constantly, you should react by not reacting to it. If you want to date women, that's a monthly (if regular cycles) part of it.

SexyBrunetteNY · Answer

Christ. It's NOT an excuse and we get it every month. It's a rough time for a woman and you feel like crap. Bloated, pain, cramps, bad mood. You should react like a normal human with an ounce of a brain and back off. If YOU weren't feeling well, would want her placing demands on you and being selfish?

Bgurl2_0 · Answer

Just like other people had said, if it’s once a month that she’s being rude, then it’s an excusable reason. But if she’s rude to you 24/7, 7 days a week, then you should sit down and talk to her about her being rude. Because if you don’t l, she’ll think it’s ok.

BlackCat999 · Answer

An excuse for what, being rude or not wanting to do it ?

If it's the first, then no, it's not an excuse. I've already had bad PMs where I just wanted to blow things up but I never once disrespected anyone. I may be more direct than usual or have a no bull attitude but never blant disrespect.

For the second, I would say it depends. Not all women like to do it during that time. That's my case so, having a guy pester me can make me mad angry. It's just a few days, you can wait it out until I feel cleaner and more in the mood.

So it depends on why she's rude being rude.

ShesRad80 · Answer

having your period while makes you feel bad, physically and emotionally- doesn't give her license to treat people rude.

she's uses it as an excuse because you accept her childish behavior. next time you have blue balls act like she does and see how she likes it.

silvermoon84 · Answer

Periods are hormone based and they can cause increased mood swings and irritability. I would consider it an excuse if it’s a once in a while thing, but if she’s constantly using her period as an excuse for her moods, then no it’s not an excuse.

Tamera952 · Answer

Tell her that’s the cool thing about sex with guys, no periods, no pregnancy scares, they have a sex drive to match yours, & won’t get emotions wrapped up in their twat — as you casually grab your keys & slip out in the car to the park-n-ride to get some much needed head.
(It might work)

TheorionMage · Answer

She's POSSIBLY experiencing hormonal fluctuations (NOT for certain) which place increased emotional sensitivity. Consider how YOU'D be if you were 'damned' to experiencing a progressively bleeding internal wound 3-5 days EACH month for much of her adult life, yet expected to honor all society's commitments WHILE maintaining 'civility'!
'Normal' is a vague term for a BROAD spectrum ;)

lightbulb27 · Answer

Yes it is, welcome to being a man and having a woman.

There isn't much they can do about it. She can try techniques to manage better, exercise, etc... There are things you can try to do to help. Nothing is really going to work consistently, you'll have to take it as it comes.

Have more questions, lmk.

tzdc21 · Answer

No it's not. Look, I get that a woman's body is her worst nightmare in that time frame. I am not disregarding that at all.

HOWEVER, that is no excuse to treat your boyfriend like crap. She's gotta do a better job at controlling herself when she's on her period. And if she can't do that, then you gotta leave her, plain and simple.

idkkkk24 · Answer

I think it depends to be honest. Me personally I have bad periods and it causes a lot of pain and sometimes irritability. Sometimes if it’s really bad it can be difficult for us to move around or do anything. Some girls may actually be using it as just an excuse, but some really do have problems.

I hope this helps x.

Have a blessed day

Nightblade23 · Answer

Ok I'm a female myself and I don't think being on her period is an exsuse for her being mad yes we have mood swings but I don't think in my opinion that would be an exsuse for why she's mad Maybe she isn't happy or something is going on with her try and talk to her if she uses the same exsuse Everytime she's mad then there's wrong there periods only last a week everyone month so try and talk to her and try and figure out what's going on

Apple1996 · Answer

It is normal. The hormones cause that. Funny things it's actually from having too much testosterone during that time of the month. Only time that women act similar to men and y'all can't seem to handle it 😂

Anonymous · Answer

Id say its normal. I don't know, Im usually pretty kind, but during that time of the month Im either snippy or Im crying about something insignificant xD

I dont think its really an excuse to be really mean or rude. Like, you can check your emotions, or just tell the person you're in a mood at the time.

lorenzomichael · Answer

She probably isn't using that as excuse. They do have them once a month so you should just chill out. But if you like just remember try and remember what date is it when she has it, because normaly they have them around the same date every month. Unless she's unregular. Which means she has it whenever, but still once a month. Give her a break dawg. Don't get her mad over it or you'll be spending a lot more time in the bathroom...

smilelots · Answer

I don’t know how old you are or how much experience you have with women, but not all women like to have sex while they are on their period or just before or just after some think it’s gross and disgusting male and female talk to her but there’s not really any need to get upset until you know the whole story there’s about 20 days left in the month where you can go out at all the time if you want if she’s up to it and some women like having sex on Their periods, but not all

Raaj4you · Answer

Mood swings are common when women are on their periods. But if she is super rude all the time then she is lying. You should understand that rudeness is her basic nature. It's upto you can you handle her or not? If not leave her. If you are super cool then you can ignore her rude behaviour. If your super rude too then leave her and find a cool, calm and composed girl.

Djaay · Answer

Yes very much so. Generally speaking , when a person who has a great personality and character, they act very much different in a way of pain or sickness and generally are rather pleasant to be around still yet. Those women who use it as an excuse are usually treating you as utility.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Mood swings are common for some women on their periods, but it is never an excuse for rudeness.

molonski2 · Answer

I never accept this as a reason , she is simply making no effort to deal with her bodily functions , its never an excuse and its certainly not your fault , give her an ultimatum black / white , but never put up with this kind of sht.

236color · Answer

I don't know. I'm told a lot of women get cranky due to the discomfort. While my wife sometimes felt seriously shitty, she never seemed obligated to take it out on me. I consider myself blessed.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Excuse for being rude: No. She’s a jerk and using that to not take accountability for her actions.
Excuse for not having sex: Maybe it’s an excuse and maybe it’s legit. Hard to say, because each woman is different in that regard.

strateguy632 · Answer

no excuse, but yeh normal common. they DO feel more irritable, and shouldn't RELY on that to say hurtful words and then say it wasn't really me it was my hormones. they should still choose their words.

AviatorTom · Answer

Women's hormones are all over the place, especially during her period. Just believe her... and get used to it. I'm surprised, at your age, you don't know that.

Adaeva · Answer

She is not going to change so live with it or look for another girlfriend.

lavenders · Answer

I mean it all depends on her mood everyday and I think she can’t really blame everything on her period. She should be open about it from the beginning saying something “hey I am on my period. So you can expect me to be rude, on the edge or irritated/irritable.”

Mykejones · Answer

Crazy every girl I’ve been with didn’t tell me they were on their period and we still got it in and she always apologized afterword when I noticed the massacre. With this new girl she told me no sex because of her period and I told her straight up that never stoped any other girl and she gave it up lol but I think she was mor embarrassed than not wanting to have sex. If she’s using it as an excuse for her mood it can be an excuse but you see the real mood switch when they’re pregnant

bobanope · Answer

I don't think it's normal, if she use it's as an excuse. She might be feeling off during those times. You should understand her and do something special for her. Me personally with the person I love I wanna do it all the time even when I'm on my period.

itsannalee · Answer

Maybe that’s not excuse. It’s caused hormones. But being rude with someone ain’t nice. She won’t change until she get menopause maybe. So prepare ur self, are u ready or not.

TallSlim90 · Answer

I’ve said things out of frustration while on my period. But it’s not often enough to be a problem. Is she on birth control or something? If she was getting extra hormones, they can make you emotional more than normal.

Mariabea · Answer

Don't take it personally, just break up, there are thousands of people in the world, if she doesn't connect with you, someone else will

kibbenkat · Answer

She may feel uncomfortable with showing you blood or seeing her own blood. In addition, for some individuals, blood may ruin the mood. This may likely be the case for your partner.

sheikalana · Answer

That's BS. I have periods every month and I don't treat my husband or anyone else like crap whenever I'm on my period. Is no one's fault that I'm going through it.

chrissykerdock · Answer

it's true women can be bitches when they're having their period... it's a lot about harmones more than anything personal.

LingyRolls · Answer

Well I mean... If she's saying it now then once a month she's probably lying. Also, during my period I still have a mouth... Just saying.

Anonymous · Answer

Not at all an excuse for some women. I genuinely have suicidal thoughts and I get so easily upset/irritated with mine. There’s a condition but I forget what it’s called.

LivingExample · Answer

Having sex on your period is Nasty. Who want to be having sex mixed with Blood! Her period should Never be an excuse. She just needs to tell you when she is on her period. They usually do Not last more than 5-7 Days!

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

She can be mad or irritable but not use her period as an excuse to be a bitch. It's not even excusable for men to be a perve just because he got a boner or because of his hormones. It is a reason but not an excuse.

BeenThereBefore · Answer

It can happen. I had a girlfriend in my younger days that was an absolute b! tch during her period. Sex? Forget it. She barely acted civilized. I dated many women and she was the worst of them on their period.

MsTaniaUncensored · Answer

Not a good excuse, it isn't like she has no control over herself.

dreamstar72 · Answer

She could be using her period as an excuse instead of the old headache excuse. Think about it less syllables.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Tell her that there are many, many women who don't use that excuse and you wish she was one of them!

ChooChooHaha · Answer

No, unless there's not normal shit with her period going on.

Jazzy54 · Answer

I never use mine as an excuse. Honestly, it’s only a minor inconvenience in my life. I go about my days as normal. But, every woman is different.

Anonymous · Answer

Tell her you understand, then ask will you.. will you... etc.. One day she might be in the mood for something else anther day just leave her alone.. Welcome to the world of women.. lol..

MissBoogus · Answer

It kinda depends. Rude how? As in irritable and short tempered? You should draw your limits , but if it’s something you can help with please do because periods are AWFUL.

Mimi_ox · Answer

You weren't too specific. Does she use that excuse all the time? I mean I've been there and the guy didn't believe me so she may not be lying but if it's a lot then I don't know. But

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Rude about what? You wanted to get laid and she didn’t? You don’t know they get hormonal? How do you not know this?

RingOfFire · Answer

Shhhhhh... you are not supposed to mention how many women get insane when they have their periods. It's anti-feminist you CHAUVANIST PIG!

Unit1 · Answer

Sort of. It can be managed if she finds her way to manage her mensuration cycle without lashing out at the next thing that moves.

hammeronfire · Answer

No that’s not an excuse. My ex tried using that as a reason she was acting out and I almost believed her. Luckily for me, my best friend is a woman so I asked her and she very sternly said no

Beautifully_broken84 · Answer

Honestly sm every women is different, period symptoms are different for every girl. But it definitely doesn't give her the right to be rude and blame it on her period. I would talk to her about it and how it makes you feel

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