Girlfriend giving me the choice after 6 an half years, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend just told me I either move her in after Christmas and propose at some point next year or she's done she's out. She appreciates I've helped her through a lot but she feels like I don't truly love her an maybe she's just convivent she listed this. She helps me with bills I'm depressed an she's there to comfort me She's helped me grow up stating tho she gets on ok with my mom I was a full on mommas boy when she met me. That without her I'd be bored as all my mates are busy a lot. She said when I ignore her to play my game all day while she's there she feels very hurt an there's plenty of time to game as she's a gamer too. She's mentioned a few times feeling like a piece of furniture. I think I'm slowly losing her. I asked my mates an they said she wants more commitment. Which after 7 years almost most girls do. She said she's not one of those gals that will keep going forever without a ring and have a baby one day. She said its time for me to makeup my mind.

[Oliverlogan263]

Here's what I would say:

Dang bro, that's a tough situation. On one hand, I can see where your girl is coming from - after 6.5 years, it's normal for her to want more commitment, like moving in together or getting engaged. That shows her you see a real future.

But at the same time, I know you care about her a lot. It's not like you don't want those things too, you've just been comfy how things are. Moving a relationship to the next level is a big step.

My advice would be really think about how you see your future playing out - with her or without. Imagine life 5 years from now. Do you want her by your side? Have a family together? If so, she deserves to know you're all in.

Maybe reassure her you do love her like crazy, but you just need some time to process. A week or two to figure out your plan moving forward. That way she knows there is a future, you're just not sure of the timeline yet.

Communication is key here bro. Really lay it all out for her so you're both on the same page. You got this man, just follow your heart and it'll lead you to the right choice. Keep me posted!

[Sofargone93]

Dude... 7 years for women is like dog years. She been waiting for you to step up and be her partner. She doesn't want to be your baby mama or girlfriend of 7 years. Thats seven years neither of you will get back... She feels like she's wasting her time with you , her eggs are drying up. She wants a family and structure. She wants a home and a husband. If she's giving you an ultimatum she's halfway out the door. Do not marry her if you can't see yourself being with her for life. The choice is yours. Any woman who has been a girlfriend for 7 years has some damn good patience for you. You'll regret it if you let her walk.

[Tim2nice]

You just propose to her, get married and live happily ever after. It’s that or be alone and miserable

[TheSpaceGnome]

So make up your mind, we can't do it for you.

[Anonymous]

Stay or go it's as simple as that