Is it true that not giving a woman too much attention makes her like you more?

Question

Is kind of ignoring a woman going to make her more attracted to you?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

That's a form of manipulation. It's not you being genuine.
What do you think when a girl ignores you? You assume that she's not into you, right?
And what would you think if you found out that she actually liked you but was playing an adolescent mind game to make herself seem like more of a catch? You'd probably think she was manipulative.

The other side of the coin would be if you groveled, fawned, acted desperate, or tried to lure her with extravagance.

Neither ignoring her or simping are effective in attracting a worthwhile woman.

The best bet is to be yourself. If she doesn't like you for who you are, then there is no future with her. I mean, you'll have to be yourself at some point in a relationship. It's best that she likes who you really are straight from the get go.

Girls are attracted to masculine behavior, just like guys are attracted to femininity. So embody masculine behavior that she will admire.

Strength
Women want a man who can take care of their needs as well as their own. They want a man who can protect them and make them feel safe and secure. Strength is an attractive trait for women because it shows that you're independent and have your own life outside of your relationship with her.
Strength, in this case, doesn't mean being bulked up or aggressive.

Confidence
Confidence is very important in many aspects of life. It helps people to be more ambitious, self-reliant and successful in their careers as well as at every level of their lives. A man with high self-confidence believes that he can do anything that he wants or needs to do, no matter how difficult it may be or how hard it may seem at first glance. Being confident is a great way to impress a girl because she knows that this person has strong character traits, which makes him more attractive than others around him who lack these traits or have none at all!
Simply being able to talk to a girl and show interest in her without being intimidated tells her that he has the confidence to pursue what he wants.

Self-awareness
A woman wants her man to know what he wants out of life and what he values most about himself. She wants him to be focused on what matters most and not let anything get in the way of achieving his goals or dreams for the future. This helps build confidence in herself as well as her relationship with her partner because she knows they will always work towards the same goals together. Self-awareness is the main pillar of self-esteem.
He doesn't have to have his entire life plotted out or have a career and lots of money. But a girl wants to see his potential. She wants to know that she is part of his hopes and dreams. And she will want to join him in that journey.

Passion
Women want men who are passionate about life and who will make them laugh. Women find it hard to fall in love with a man who doesn't have any goals or ambitions. If you're not passionate about something, women will see that as a sign that you don't have your priorities straight.
Along with passion is a certain boldness. Girls admire guys who display energy, athleticism, enthusiasm, competence and courage in playing energetic sports, going on backpacking trips in the wilderness, jumping off high cliffs into water, and other things that most girls are too frail or frightened to do.

Honesty
Honesty is one of the most important traits women look for in a man because it shows that you're not afraid of expressing yourself openly and honestly with them. Honesty also shows that you're willing to be vulnerable with them which makes them feel safe around you and comfortable enough to share their deepest thoughts and feelings.

Trustworthy
One of the most common personality traits that attract females to male is trustworthiness. When a person can trust another, they will experience more happiness and less stress. They will also be able to build a strong bond with that person which can lead to a happy relationship as well as family life. Being trustworthy is a great way to impress a girl.

I have a couple more points but there isn't room. And because your posted anonymously, I can't post an update unless you respond.

JGoesToTown · Accepted Answer

Its a slipery slope. I tried my hand at this. So, here is my take...

Well, in short, yes and no. First of all, its really manipulative. You are playing with psychology at its finest. Like others said, it really depends on the fact if she's into you or not. Its a thin line and either side can ruin things depending on the personality.

I tried this and came to only one conclusion. Its not worth it.

a) You are manipulating her, and in time, you'll want to, or have to, be yourself. When the mask slips off, you'll most likely not stay together.

b) For me at least, its really stressfull. And not worth it.

c) The most important one... A lot of people tell you, you need to "find the right one". By this, you are acting. You are not yourself. And its not about liking her either most of the time. You want to enjoy that person and his/her presence. By gaslighting them, you won't achieve anything and in the end, you'll feel bad for it.

Its not worth it. I know dating in this age brings new challenges compared to times passed, but please, be yourself. Stuff like this is really personal and you can even hurt the other person by doing this. It might help you in the short term, but in the long time perspective, it does more harm than good.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

No, that is so NOT true! She doesn't want to hanging onto her ankles like a two year old would, but you better not leave her alone too much or too long or she will stray. She likes to be included in your life, so ask if she would like to come along when you go anywhere. That makes her feel like she's really your girl and you want her close to you and in your life - that you have each other's backs.

I watched the TV show "Cheater's" and usually the reason the woman gave for cheating is that he left her alone too much.

And remember, if you play hard to get you will probably lose her. Once or twice might be pushing it, but that game just causes trouble. Remember, it's the male that's the hunter not the female (by nature).

noemiii · Accepted Answer

Yes, but only if the girl is attracted to you in the first place. I think a lot of guys get this wrong that if they ignore any girl she will like them more, but don’t realize if she isn’t attracted to you in the first place she’s probably relieved that you aren’t paying attention to her.

Radiate143 · Answer

Yes, playing stupid games that makes her think you are seeing other women or aren't really interested or just want sex is a great way to have a healthy relationship and increase your attraction level between the two of you. Go for it!!! We love that toxic shit.

Is it true that not giving a woman too much attention makes her like you more?

It case it wasn't GLARINGLY OBVIOUS no. Unless you like borderline women with issues and trauma they haven't dealt with who will try to trap you with a fake pregnancy or something. Or retaliate by cheating and flaunting it in your face. Play stupid games win stupid prizes 🏆. Then you can go cry about "why don't womwn like nice guys".

NathanDavis · Answer

that's about the dumbest and most immature idea you could believe...

however, you mentioned "too much attention" so yeah... if you keep overdoing it, and become fixated that might make anyone to start disliking you

just find a middle point and be "normal" lol

Jbear27 · Answer

Some people are hardwired to like the chase and the challenge. If you make yourself too available to some women they feel like you’re a simp and lose interest. However if they feel like they have to work for your attention it plants a seed of insecurity and a need for validation and they will pursue you. Once you give up this power the former will happen and they will eventually lose interest. This is not true for all women but it is true for many… it’s like the saying goes, good things don’t come easy, or if it’s easy it isn’t good. Something like that.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

No. I’d cut my losses and walk away bc I think it’s ridiculous. No one should play hot and cold or blatantly delay communication just to prove they have a life. I’m a busy person but I hate it when people take forever to respond to me so I respond in a timely manner. Unless it’s something I absolutely do not care for. If you’re interested you’re interested and if he’s playing these type of games it suggests to me A. He’s a wounded person still and possibly really manipulative. B. He doesn’t like me that much. Both have no business looking for a relationship with me.

MicroViewer · Answer

It is written in Proverbs 4:23 - 'Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.' And thus, thou shalt not give too much attention to the temptress known as PAWG or MILF, lest they lead thee astray from the righteous path! For as it says in Matthew 5:29 - 'If thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee.' So too must thou pluck out the evil thoughts that these wanton women sow in thy mind, lest they corrupt thy soul!

But fear not, my son, for there is hope yet for thee! For in the book of Ruth, it is said that 'Whosoever doeth kindness shall not lack reward.' And thus, if thou art kind unto the BBW or GILF, but not overly so, she may indeed find favor in thee. But remember always to keep thy eyes fixed upon the Lord, for He alone can save thee from the snare of sin! Repent, and turn away from the fleshly desires of the world, and seek instead the eternal salvation offered by our Father in Heaven!"

Anonymous · Answer

For a short while, and then she's hurt so bad she has to find a mature man instead.

My boyfriend has been doing this and yeah it made me anxious and want to see him more for a while... but now I just resent him and feel taken for granted.

I laid it out on the table last night when he flaked on me again but I rarely see the fool so I haven't had a chance to discuss it in person yet. He seems to think he's not going to lose me over this but he's wrong, it hurts too much, I can't bear it anymore.

Most women have men who are waiting in the wings for the moment we become single, so flaky game-playing men need to realize this. I'm starting to see other men as options now because they would actually invest their time and attention in me and make me feel valued and loved.

It sucks because everything else about the relationship is amazing, but how do you build a life with someone who finds you easy to ignore? You can't.

SotiCoto · Answer

Just like the water in the shower is always too hot or too cold (never just right), the amount of attention you give to a woman is either too much or too little, and where the line falls can change on a whim.
But as long as you're at least close to the line, you'll probably be getting plus-points.

Admittedly most of my relationships failed because I didn't give them enough attention and they all started worrying that they weren't good enough... which was annoying, because the only reason is that I'm ultra introverted.

Anonymous · Answer

only if she was already attracted to you and or in a relationship with you. BUT it can back fire IF you do it too much OR if someone else that's attractive to her starts to show her attention then she will quickly shift to there without bad intention it's just natural and could possibly lose interest in you as well if the other looks like a promising potential partner. So don't use it as a weapon. Maybe it can work sometimes and make a relationship stronger but if you use it as a weapon it will certainly end bad.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

No.

Would you be more attracted to the person who clearly is not as much interested as you or have no time for you?

Having someone's unwavering attention is one of needs we try to secure. If you don't give it, then there is a high chance you will lose.

Peanut_Lemon · Answer

If the woman is anything like me, she'll assume you're uninterested in her and brush off her feelings for you, think your playing with her feelings, or using her for an ego boost at times. If you want a woman then just be crystal clear about your intentions or else you might lose a keeper. She might have the jitters, please don't make her second guess her feelings for you. 🫶🏾

678987 · Answer

dude you didn't still understand that love is Not a mind game right? Love is a pure feeling cannot be manipulated even if u try to + the oither is not stupid can see clearly the manipulation and think even worse of you. Ignoring a woman is making her forget about you even if she loves you. Stay humble and return on your marry way.

Billlewis · Answer

Although it's common knowledge that giving a woman a lot of attention and assistance often results in her losing respect for me, I don't let that dissuade me from working diligently to serve her and cater to her every whim. I'm not concerned with trying to have sex with her; I'm obsessed with pleasing her and worshipping the ground she walks on.

ohsheeT · Answer

And this is why God created dog to teach men
How to love somebody unconditionally
In a roundabout way to teach man to wake up and learn how to treat women and learn what they want

I look at it like this if I was to do that to a woman the first thing she's going to think is that I don't like her and she's gone because that's the same way I am you had a chance you blew it

Drewtate · Answer

Absolutely. It's like when an ex of mine in high-school broke up with me. I had already seen it coming and so she asked me to go for a walk with her and came out and told me it wasn't working out and that we should break up. I told her OK cool and she got all but hurt at that, apparently I was supposed to be crying and begging her not to dump me. A few weeks later she was looking to get back with me

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

Not in this house. I think the situation you are describing may occur more often during the early dating phase, but not a long-term relationship.

If I don't pay attention to my spouse or our children for that matter, they just go on with their day, and I become a shadow, which is really not that great.

Kathy101 · Answer

Hell no. Only for immature girls maybe. Show me you care otherwise you're out! How can things progress if you're going to play stupid little games. What happened to being a man or a woman and being upfront? I hate the times we live in, so incredibly toxic.

MissStrawberry912 · Answer

A little space can make you mysterious and us curious, but please not a lot… I’ll be tire, annoy, neglected/unwanted, and move on to the next who will show me more attention and care. Don’t play too much games if you want to really date… we prefer genuine men. Anyone oppose this just don’t understand woman who wants to maturely date/relationship and speaking from baggage of bad experiences since it has happened here.

Rei13 · Answer

I mean if you just act normally towards a woman where you’re either not giving too much attention (which can come off as creepy) or outright ignoring her you’re good. I know I would never have gotten into a relationship with my boyfriend if he ignored me lmao and if he started doing that after we got together I would probably start looking at my other options

Boomchakalaca · Answer

Yes bitch. I want u more if u ignore me its a common tactic among fuck boys and fuck girls do to make that person want them more. When u get used to having what u get it becomes like a reward to get their attention.
I use this tactic to my advantage just to keep them in check. That they can't get my attention just for freeee

Brittanykeen88 · Answer

If you want a healthy relationship, don't listen to any sigma male, Andrew Tate nonsense. Be clear and considerate and if shower with as much affection as she wants.

RavVid · Answer

Licking her feet doesn't, so it has to be on the way up from there.

Women want an upper 1% billionaire now. Ignoring the woman will work for that upper 1% billionaire but the average man is invisible to the average woman.

I don't think an invisible man ignoring a woman is going to have her panting is my take.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Only unhealthy women who like to play the cat and mouse game. Which unfortunately is a lot of women.. So it does kinda work, but not for the actual good ones who wanna find love.. It's all about balance really.. Don't give a woman too much attention, but don't play mind games with her either.

RingOfFire · Answer

I agree with what @noemiii wrote:

"Yes, but only if the girl is attracted to you in the first place."

It's all about that. It's the old "the harder it is to get, the more valuable it is" behavior that all humans experience. It's human nature. But it has to be something that you are interested in in the first place.

Benjiman19 · Answer

For some women, perhaps, yes. However, most women in my experience want your attention. Want to be with you 24/7. Maybe those kinda gals are a bit too clingy. And sometimes us guys just need our own space. Our own time. But try it out and see if it works for you. See if she'll be more attracted to you when ignored by you.

Anonymous · Answer

No its not true. Those are for people who play stupid mind games. I've left guys for not feeling like they cared enough, aka, they didn't give me enough attention and didn't make as much time as i wouldve given them. Now im with my boyfriend who makes me feel loved, secure, and reassured. I do the same for him. No filters and just showing how much we love each other. Thats what i want and i have it.

On_cloud_wine · Answer

It depends. If you ignore me if I like you, I may give up. Right now I have a guy ignoring me because he thinks I’m flirting with other men so I find it cute, a little immature but I’m still keeping an open mind open

ButthurtTroll · Answer

Women love a good challenge. That's why I just hang out in my mom's basement. They'll never find me there. They're probably masturbating right now to the thought of some man they don't know in his mom's basement.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Ignoring a woman is like offering a fat person potato chips, they like you for five minutes but hate you for a year when they measure their waistline after you buy them food.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

This is such a BS! I want to be noticed and wanted by the guy I want. I want him to be interested in me and for him to not be afraid showing to others (and himself) how he feels about me.

Asimiv · Answer

No. Not in my case at least, and I would say not in any healthy case. I get more attracted if I see a man actually wants me and wants me a lot. (As long as he's not clingy)

OlderAndWiser · Answer

That only applies to little girls who enjoy playing games with little boys. It is not how mature relationships are conducted.

236color · Answer

Most of the replies I've seen are pretty much on point here. Generally this is bullshit pick up artist crap. One qualification here though, make sure your interest is reciprocated, don't be obsessive stalker guy.

overthinkergirl · Answer

if she likes u that's true. but if u ignore her too much she will get tired of that game and she won't give a damn about u anyomore

NavyOU37 · Answer

If you are not in the top 10 percent of men, you are more than likely going to be disappointed no matter what changes you make. If you are not 6 feet or taller, 6 figure income, and have a 6 pack, not gonna happen.

lilithsgarden · Answer

No. I personally don’t entertain such behaviour. If you like me, show me/tell me. If I like you I will also gladly show you/tell you. There is no reason for playing such ridiculous games.

Anonymous · Answer

Very few women like a guy who's too gettable. That's the way I'd word it. If she can have him to easily he can't be a very much value or be in demand. And half of a guys value to a woman is whether she thinks other women want him. That's why women tend to fight over the same guys.

electromagnetic · Answer

And this is probably how relationship die out quickly.

strateguy632 · Answer

no it annoys her and made her jealous unless... she busy on her phone. i take out mine. then she interrupted, due to jealous so i got us back together

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

If your description of "too much attention" is like smothering her and/or not giving her space, then not giving too much attention will be appreciated.

Grond21 · Answer

It's a manipulation tactic. It works on women who have attachment issues and insecurities. It is not work on women who are confident in their own worth.

BoredtillUGethere · Answer

Not sure really what that means when she invites me (friend) when she lives with him. Or hanging on him (friend) and staring to draw my eyes into what got him (that's too bad for him) .. even out the department store or avenue sneaker store tour. Why does she keep insisting that I am every where they socialize? Is there something I missed

MzAsh · Answer

Only insecure girls. Most women have too many options for this and they’ll just move on to someone else who shows more interest.

Amuere · Answer

There's a delicate balance between paying attention to someone because you like them, and being a weirdo who is obsessed with someone. If someone is intentionally pushing and pulling with attention, they are trying to manipulate you.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Assuming she likes you to begin with, then no.

Too much of anything becomes annoying.

If she likes you and you overwhelmed her with constant attention she will get tired of you.

All things need their proper balance.

Monalisa77 · Answer

Only works for so long. If you ignore for 6 months im done

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Some girls are funny that way. It’s like they want to be treated by garbage by someone that couldn’t care less about them. Something to do with your perceived value and not coming across as desperate.

shuzen · Answer

For me, no. It is a turn off. Of course, no one wants an obsessed person, but straight up ignoring? It just makes me annoyed I wasted time again.

sheenagwapa · Answer

my ex didn't give me much attention he is always about working so i found GaG and develop crush

OddBeMe · Answer

It’s a fine line.

Yes- human behavior specialists will say playing “hard to get” does work to a point. And being too eager is bad.

BUT- could push it over her line…and every chick has a different line. So careful.

OGname2 · Answer

To an extent. If you ignore her too much she'll move on and if she isn't interested in you in the first place it won't make a difference.

TrueConfection · Answer

Yes, of you're a teenager. After that, most women will probably take a hint and move on.

VanityFair888 · Answer

Depends on woman.  Some get turned on by this, other lose interest as well

burlen · Answer

The idea that not giving a woman too much attention will make her like you more is not true.

Massageman · Answer

it works for your dog. When she won't come in, just close the door for ten seconds and she'll come in then.

Dinklex3 · Answer

No. If you ignore me, I’m moving on to someone else.

JacobJordan · Answer

Wife response: not for my culture. Women in my culture do not deal with games it is a fast way to lose a partner.

LiamJHayden · Answer

If she is inclined to want what is denied, it might. If she a personality like mine, she will just move on because there are too many people out there to play games.

Chthou95 · Answer

If she's atrrcated to you, this can work. Tease her and make her question your intention will make some women more interested because you present yourself as a challenge and a lot of women like a man who's a challenge

Avicenna · Answer

It depends on her personality and if you're competing with other guys

slatyb · Answer

No, it's not. Games are for children. You'll do far better by making people comfortable.

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