This beautiful waitress was the first person I noticed when I walked into the restaurant last night. She was working on the other side of the restaurant so she didn’t come over to our side, so I took things into my own hands. I walked over to the bathroom and made eye contact and she actually did a double take a stare at me for a second. That’s when I knew after the bathroom I had to make an excuse to talk to her. When I approached her I asked her to take a few photos of our dinner party and asked for her name and stuff afterwards just to open things up. Then when I was leaving the restaurant I approached her and said thanks again for those photos, she asked my name again and if she was saying it right the first time. Then I told her if she’d like to come out to the gang the following weekend to celebrate she’s more than welcome to come. Then I got her Instagram gave her a hug and said goodbye. She’s got a a few thousand followers but no posts. She’s a very sexy lady and she knows it. She didn’t follow me back so I’m wondering if I should shoot my shot again or does that mean she’s not interested?
Pursue a sexy but reserved waitress?
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You tried hitting on this woman while she’s doing a job where failing to be polite and kind with a guest could result in her getting in trouble, written up or even fired.
I feel you sort of out her on the spot with your inquiries and asking for her social media while she was working. I know logically she could’ve said said no in her own way, but coming from someone who did almost 5 years as a hostess/waitress it took me a cool minute to become comfortable turning men down.
I’m not telling you this to make you feel guilty or anything, I just understand being an attractive person and working in a job that brings a lot of unwanted attention and potentially confrontational situations.
Over those years I was robbed of my tips, grabbed, insulted, reported, all for rejecting an advance. I was even having to be walked to my car after closing shifts to assure some dude lingering around for me wasn’t waiting outside. It gets scary.
Shit! I’m sorry you had to go through that. As a man we can totally understand ur perspective but never actually experience the discomfort so it’s great hearing it from someone like yourself. And yea we can definitely mistaken niceness and friendly demeanours for flirtatiousness. As a man it’s always important for me to shoot my shot if I have the chance, and if I am rejected, there’s nothing I can do
Also as a guy who, not to be vain, feels like I’m decently attractive because I take care of myself. But when I get someone who does a double take, it’s almost an indication that they might be interested. Otherwise, I’m not going up because they gave me no signs.
It’s ok! I enjoyed the job overall, I made great tips, but that was the biggest downside because to me it wasn’t fair to be penalized for what was out of my control. You are right, the double take can be an indicator, it could also be her having caught you looking then double taking to confirm. I’m not saying your analysis is wrong, but as a woman who’s worked as a waitress, I just empathize with her and how certain actions can be misconstrued. I remember being told often that I came off as flirty, but it was my personality.
I was going to refer to you by your name but realized you are anonymous as well. But I totally get it. People say the same thing about me when I’m just being nice. When a new girl will come into the friend group they tend to gravitate towards me because I’m very open and lead conversations. And a few times I had a guy get mad at me for stealing the show from him when I was just doing me, and she became a part of my circle.
There’s another annoying part which is… girls think I’m a player and don’t like continuing things with me because the think I’m a player when I’m actually just very talkative as outgoing. And when they see other girls hitting on my it turns them off. Happened with 2 girls more recently and I’m not sure how to set a boundary where people can be like “oh he's like that”