Is she giving me signals or it’s just in my head?

[Ico222]

So, I play poker at my local casino and of course there is one really beautiful girl that is dealing some of the days. I like her (as most of the other players) and teased her a bit when we first met for her being very distracted all the time and making mistakes. She remembered this and started asking how is she doing today etc. Moreover I feel like she’s looking at me all the time when I’m not looking at her direction and when I look at her she turns around. Several times as well when I win a pot and take my chips, she is handing them to me and “unintentionally” touches my hand. First time I thought it’s just a coincidence but after 3-4th time it feels that is not actually a coincidence. To me feels like a whole lot of signs but maybe it’s just in mine head, what do you think?

[Flatmanlewis]

Women, particularly in service jobs, learn to use their charms and positive feeling to bump up their tips and generate regular customers. On that basis I wouldn’t read too much into it.


As Nikki1989 said, 99.99999% of the time there are no signs and guys read into stuff. This is especially true of the service industry.


However - the huge “ah ha” to me is the touching. Women are a hundred times more aware of their bodies and the signals they can send with them than men are. The prettier the girl, the more this is true. If she’s touching you repeatedly - it is NOT by accident. The only thing now is to wonder if she’s just a manipulative dealer taking in good tips (women do this all the time) or she’s wondering why you aren’t biting the hook she’s lowered into the water. Either way, you have nothing to lose so tell her you’d like to see her outside of work sometime.

[Ico222]

Yes, this is where all the doubts come for me as I’m fully aware of the service industry and especially the casinos and how things are happening there. If it was some other setting I would definitely go for it as the “hints” are too much already - every time she is super attentive to me and only to me, goes out of her way to talk to me and ignores the others, compliments my perfume, we have prolonged eye contact and she seems super distracted after that and makes a silly mistake dealing after that. I’ve added on fb anyways and planning to ask her directly there to go out as I’m quite private person and do not want to do it while in the casino or on the table.

[Flatmanlewis]

Good man. Make your move. Personally I say ask her out in public. Confidence is it’s own perfume.

[Anonymous]

Bruv, sounds like this dealer's got her eyes on you, for real. The cheeky banter, the constant eye checks, and the 'accidental' hand touches? Nah, that ain't just coincidence. She's dropping hints like chips on a poker table. But remember, fam, it could be her vibe or just part of the game. If you're feeling it, maybe take a punt and chat her up away from the table. Just play it cool, no bluffing. Could be a winning hand, or just a friendly game. Either way, enjoy the play, yeah?

[Anonymous]

I’m sure she knows you like her, men are so obvious. & if she’s accepting you on FB, she’s not very concerned with her existing relationship. Casinos are low-class environments so I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s just flirting for tips. Once you bang her, it won’t end well. There will be another guy at the table that she’ll move on with. If you’re okay with that, go for it.

[devilish-cutie]

i think if you like her just ask her if she would like to grab a coffee after her shift, case closed

[Ico222]

Thing is that she probably has something with other guy that I know so it seem a bit inappropriate..

[devilish-cutie]

If you think you have a chance than it doesn't matter, you dont own this guy anything, if she is taken or you think you have no chance than there is no reason to even wonder about thia

[picachixa]

Ask her out. I saw you say "she has a thing with a guy I know" I hate this mentality. because of this mindset, I v missed out on being with guys I actually liked. Sometimes I didn't like their friend, I just gave them a chance to be nice when really I wanted the other guy. But they wouldn't make a move cus their friend liked me already.

[Nikki1989]

99.99999999% of the time, there is never ANY signals. Men get that wrong all the time.

[Ico222]

So ignoring everybody else to talk only to me on the table, asking me to help her every time there is some situation, she is not sure about and prolonged eye contact does not mean anything? Very strange to be honest. Also previous time I was not in the mood and she seemed very concerned asking me what is wrong etc…

[slatyb]

Why don't you ask her out? I think you will be more successful if you are winning player. Are you?

[Ico222]

Most definitely, otherwise I won’t be playing 😁

[slatyb]

Excellent! NLHE? What stakes? Where?

[Ico222]

I live in Bulgaria so it is my local casino playing 1/3. I’m working full time so I play after work and mostly on weekends. You playing too?

[slatyb]

Not live so much, a bit online but I'm breaking even. Live games are much looser. Locally the $1/3 PLO is very loose but there is usually a straddle so it plays more like $5/10.

[Anonymous]

Talk to her