Test from girls?

[Adonis1081]

Why do they test their partners so much?
1. Compliance
do chores, tasks etc
2. Competency
Dare to do things
I bet you can't do...
3. Frame Control
Changes your plan
Doubts your safety
4. Rules
5. Course of Relation =
Doesn't trust your relationship
6. Comparison to other men... if so, leave
7. Comparison to other relationships (submission test)
8. Attention Test (Fishing for other options)
9. Respect Test
10. Emasculated test... she hints that she is leaving =she does not want you.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo dude, girls can be tricky for sure. But I don't think it's totally fair to look at stuff they do through the lens of "tests." Relationships are a two-way street.

For your points:

1. Compliance - Helping out is important, but don't be walked all over. Have an open convo when you feel taken advantage of.

2. Competency - Healthy to push each other's limits, but not in a demeaning way. Compromise is key.

3/4. Rules/Frame control - Flexibility and trust are important on both sides. Talk through disagreements respectfully.

5. Relationship course - Insecurity is normal, but don't assume the worst without chatting first. Listen without judgment.

6. Comparison - We all do this a bit, but put each other down and it's toxic. Build each other up instead.

7. Submission - Healthy relationships respect each person's individuality and priorities too.

8/9. Attention/Respect - Huge red flags if they disrespect you or seem to want backup options. Aim for openness and loyalty.

10. Emasculate - No one deserves to be made to feel worthless by a partner, male or female. That's disrespectful.

Communication and mutual understanding are key, man. Focus on really listening to understand each other, not just replying. You got this!

[Adonis1081]

I really appreciate your reply. Thankyou for taking time and replying in detail.
In my defence I’ll tell what i witnessed happening in real life

1: Compliance: Girls like when guys help them with their chores but complain when guys ask for help (shit like a man should be independent)

2: Rules! You add them in a relationship and girls start demeaning you and tell everyone how controlling you are even if rules are beneficial to both partners

3: Relationship course: Girls post and flirt with everyone and when a guy notices that they call us insecure and a bitch. They stay in relationships for their own benefit and then when they are done they leave for a worse guy who treats them like shit

4: Comparison: when girls are in a relationship all they do is compare. Look how cute 3rd person’s relationship look. Look he gifted her an expensive dress this that…….

5Attention: Even when girls are not in relationships they take days to reply to your texts or call and come up with a bs reason for doing so (yk they are on their phones all the time doing nothing worth while you take time out of your busy life to text and talk to a girl you like)

6: Respect! They only respect you when you are meeting all their needs and fulfill all their fantasies. They lose respect instantly if something terrible happens in your life. They run in the opposite direction of terrible things in your life. They just want to share their problems and for you to listen to them and solve them for girls. You are just an emotional dumping ground for girls.

7:Emasculation: whenever they are done with you in a relationship they start disrespecting you and giving you all sorts of emotional trouble just so that they can shift the entire blame on you and tell everyone how much of a terrible person you are.


After seeing the behaviour of various girls and my friends experiences all i could conclude was that girls use boys for their resources and dump them when they are done with them.

[Adonis1081]

Not telling that there are no bad apples. Girls are so duplicitous in nature. One day they are romantic, cuddly, puppy love type and then next day act all bitchy. Also if you try to tell them something that you like or dislike they just lose interest in you. They basically want to dictate a mans life and they keep changing the definition of what is right and what is wrong. This modern feminism and these tests and stuff makes me wanna stay away from dating.
The only reason that i use this app is to get suggestions so that i become able to find the right partner when the time comes. Thats what I pray to God everyday.

Also girls say they like romantic guys but when you try to be romantic with them they say you just want to get into their pants. They also label guys as clingy if a guy has a need for intimacy. Wth!!!

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey man, I feel you. Dating these days does seem super complicated sometimes. A few thoughts though:

- Just like us guys, girls all have different personalities and what you described isn't true of every single one. Generalizing never helps.

- It's natural for anyone in a relationship to want to feel cared for and like their partner has their back. Communication is key to make both people happy.

- Yeah some girls play games or lose interest too quick, but there are always two sides. Could be you were coming on too strong too fast also.

- Social media defs doesn't help. We all compare and get insecure, so keeping that stuff in balance is hard out here.

- At the end of the day we all just trying to find someone who vibe with us, respect us and make us feel good you feel me?

My advice - don't lose hope bro, but also don't date just to date. Wait for someone real who wanna truly know YOU, not just what ya do for em. In the meantime keep workin on yourself and your crew - that's what really matter. Peace g!

[Adonis1081]

Thanks for giving me such great advice. Also how can i know that a girl is genuinely interested in me. I am quite attractive guys (not boasting) so i have this phase in the beginning where every girl is interested in me and flirts with me and that phase lasts long more often. During this phase every girl shows me all their green flags and just trying to get to know me. Once they know me their attitude towards me shifts. All i tell them is i am a simple dude who likes peace and expects honesty compassion kindness and love and intimacy from their partner. Literally that is all! They start running away from simple dudes like we’re gonna pass them covid or something. So how do i know that a girl is genuinely interested and not wasting my time?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah dude that's a tough situation. When you're good looking girls will definitely give you a lot of attention at first, but sometimes it doesn't last. Here are some things I'd look out for to tell if a girl is genuinely interested and not just liking the initial thrill:

- See how she acts when you're not around. Does she text/call you on her own, not just responding to your messages? That shows she's thinking of you.

- Pay attention to small details. Does she remember things you've told her and ask about your life? That's a sign she's actually listening and cares.

- Suggest concrete plans, not just vague "we should hang out." If she follows through with solid dates, that's a good sign.

- Introduce you to her friends or talk about you to them. That means she wants you in her life, not just as a fling.

- Be touchy or flirty even when things are calm, not just at the start when sparked attraction. Means it's about more than looks.

- Be honest with her about how you've felt rushed before. See if she's willing to take things slower this time.

Don't stress too much man. Just pay attention to actions, not words. If a girl sticks around even after the initial thrill fades, she's a keeper.

[Adonis1081]

Thankyou so much man. You gave me the much needed clarity. Appreciate it💯

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome bruh anytime man. Glad I could help