Why do I feel guilty as a tomboy for becoming more girly?

[curiousaboutthis]

I’ve always been somewhat of a tomboy and I’ve only had guy friends until recently. Now that I’m hanging out with girls as well, I’m naturally becoming more girly and liking makeup and such. I don’t mind it and nobody has made me feel bad for it, but I still feel guilty about it and I don’t know why.

Does anyone have any insight on this? If so, how do I stop feeling guilty and why am I feeling guilty? Thank you!

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

I think the tomboy thing is a form of rebellion against expectations. That drive to rebel is disappearing and you're feeling guilty for not being the rebel you've always projected. The thing is, masculinity and femininity is all an act. It doesn't exist in nature, according to theorist Judith Butler. What is more is that these acts are largely measured by our own perceptions. We measure how masculine or feminine we are. Therefore, you're getting all caught up on your own perception of yourself. You decide how you like to perceive yourself. Don't you think it is okay to dress up or down as you see fit? Let go of the judgmental stuff.

[Berethor]

You might feel that you betrayed your old image, you are used to be seen as tomboy.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Girliness_Upgrade

[TadBehaya]

i really dont see any reason for you to be feeling guilty of. maybe it's the change?

[Nikki1989]

I think most of us go through that stage.

[slatyb]

Guilty? Do you feel like somehow you are betraying other non-traditional women? When you can make it you can get over it.

[Lliam]

No need to feel guilty. You're just growing up. Embrace it. Life is fun.

[sawno]

No need to feel guilty, just find your own thing your happy being.

[jarkitor20]

Don't feel guilty
Feel happy you'll become who you are and embrace whatever you want to be