I'm in a new city to handle a contract project. The project lead is a gorgeous Brazilian woman that has come to the US site for this company to lead it, so technically she's my onsite manager. We went out to a bar last Saturday night. Good vibes, convos, drinks. When time to leave she insisted we ride Uber share. I told her due to logistics, we should go separately. She then, goes to maps from Uber all for me to show her where I resides. We left separately. She acted differently on Mon until about Weds.. not as bubbly, a little reserved. Recollecting her vibe before and after the outing in hindsight, I assumed she wanted a night cap with the Uber suggestion and she feeling slighted when I said for us to get separate Ubers. So Thurs, she asked me to go to NBA game Friday. I said yes. We went, again good vibes. After the game, I insisted we head to a lounge afterwards for drinks and dancing. She stated she's had a long work week and is tired, and wants to go home. She has yoga Saturday morning. We chatted outside while waiting for Ubers about various things. I did throw one line in telling her how she has modeling qualities... And is very photogenic. She replied that she didn't see it. My Uber came first, I told her bye and she in turn initiated a hug. I told her to be safe and I left. Minutes later she texted me that she was home. I would love a "night cap" with her, don't get me wrong but I'm a little confused on her angle. it's a little tricky to make the manly initial "real" conversation due to the work dynamics. Am I in the friend zone, or do I have a chance for more while I'm here (5 months). If I have a chance, how can I execute to see if there's a "nightcap" opportunity? If it wasn't the fact that we work together I'd already have my answer because I would've really put out there how I feel about the situation.. with clas of course. I never did outings on this level with a colleague before so this is uncharted territory. What are your thoughts?
Very difficult to say but I can say this. Don't mix work and pleasure. It doesn't usually end well. I don't know any Brazilian people so it is hard to say how they act with coworkers and what is normal for them. Sounds more like she is trying to connect with you as a coworker, doing fun things to show she is friendly. I could be wrong because again that might be just how they are. That's the problem. Cultural differences may be sending the wrong signals. If you take it to mean she wants more and she doesn't you risk a rocky work relationship. Not worth misinterpreting her motives and winding up with a shit work relationship.
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Without being there to observe her body language, it's hard to say. But Brazilians are known to be friendly people who like to party.
Literally just go out with her, and then at some point ask her if she wants to come back to your place for drinks.
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