Do you think there's still a chance?

[Anonymous]

I am an Erasmus student who went to learn a language abroad with other 3 friends. There was a girl I had a crush on whom I knew (because she told me) broke up with her boyfriend because she felt like she was only living his life. I was somehow excited because I hoped we could strengthen our relationship while studying abroad 8 months and maybe go to something more. Despite this, when we were talking today after summer break, she mentioned to us, she had been 2 weeks without having sex since she left our home country, but that before were “3 intense weeks”. Then, also told us that she had to leave us a moment because a boy was calling her. I am not confident enough to ask if she has a new boyfriend because I think it is none of my business. But at the same time felt down because the opportunity to develop the relationship seems like friendship is the only way by now. This is all assumptions but felt like shit because she always laughed with our jokes, and we always got well along and thought it would be a great time to go for something more if she was single again. I can't vent out with the other 2 in the group because they are friends of her and I don't feel confident. That's why I wanted to let out my feelings. Thank you.

[_Maya_]

Of course there is still a chance. Just because a guy called her doesn't mean anything. That could have been a friend of hers checking in since she was studying abroad. That is what I am getting out of the details anyway. So yeah there still could be a chance. There are likely going to be signs and flirting if she is into you. Is there any of that going on at all? That would be the strongest indication she likes you. Just remember though if she got out of a relationship to "live life" she might prefer to stay single for a while. That is what I would do.

[Asker]

I get your point. She sometimes touches me when we sit together in a bar or a restaurant when she speaks, she was also interested to go to cook with me and she invites me when she goes out (although with friends this time). But then, sometimes she has also declined to go running together (because I know she does) which could perfectly be her time alone. From there, I went out every chance I had with her, but never kissed or went further than talking or getting to know each other. She doesn't avoid me (once told her friend I was one of their kind by my sense of humour) but don't know what to do with the situation.

[_Maya_]

You may have given her the vibe that you aren't interested in more than friends from what I am getting. She may look at you as a friend because of how you act and not making a move.

[_Maya_]

Thank you for most helpful opinion!

[Asker]

You are very welcome. Today, she told me she hasn't got a boyfriend nor fuck buddy, but that she started what she called “a complicated relationship” with her male best friend (the one who phoned her) 3 weeks before moving on Erasmus. She met him like 8 years ago but since last August didn't sleep with him. So it's quite difficult to be something more than friends right now with her, although the other guy is in another country. I get the feeling she likes me, but right now, maybe I will try to deepen our friendship before anything else. Thank you again for your help.

[_Maya_]

You are welcome and that is not a bad idea deepening the friendship. That can't hurt.

[Nikki1989]

She obviously likes you, so there will always be a chance.

[Asker]

Thank you too for replying. Sorry, I didn't tell anything. I get that hint too. She likes me as a friend right now. Today, she told me she hasn't got a boyfriend nor fuck buddy, but that she started what she called “a complicated relationship” with her male best friend (the one who phoned her) 3 weeks before moving on Erasmus. She met him like 8 years ago but since last August didn't sleep with him. So, things turned a bit hard to get closer to her, although I'll try to deepen the relationship as I can.

[Avicenna]

Well, you need to decide whether it's even realistic before you try to figure out if she'd be that interested in you. But move fast if you do.

[gorydetails]

Nope. No chance. you can't negotiate attraction. and you pussed out when you had your chance. You're friendzoned.

[In_Trance]

no chance