Are you careless?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

As much as I think about tons of things every day, I find myself surprisingly careless.

Then why do I think so much of I don’t care?

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I don’t know.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

If you're like me being a fellow ENFP, I tend to care when it's too late. 😅 I end up doing a lot of things without thinking deeply about the consequences first.

If I think of something that I think is funny, I blurt it out as soon as it pops into my head, then realize too late that my joke was offensive to the person and now I feel bad. I tend to think out loud so I don't have that process of filtering my thoughts before speaking that some other people possess unless I really force myself to pause before I speak.

Also that ENFP conscience is brutal if you share it.

I get a sense of guilt counter-insulting even people who insulted me 14 times in a row before I insulted them back.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I was like that in a relationship, everytime he hurt me, I was still feeling guilty for even if I accidentally hurt him a little.

[DagonbroughtMehere]

As a casual Psychology student, I approve of the Meme.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I seem to have that dichotomy where I frequently act like someone who doesn't give a damn about what others think only to end up caring a lot about it. It gives me a complex where I can be most caring and careless at the same time. One of the things I've found is that I need to behave maturely no matter how poorly others treat me or else I'm going to mull over it and feel guilty regardless.

[DagonbroughtMehere]

This is true, maintain Yourself in public, at least on social Media You have a "Mask", in the world, good bet You will have a crowd that remembers Your blow out/face.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@DagonbroughtMehere A lot of that was exacerbated in my case being a binge drinker and at least a borderline if not full-blown alcoholic until the end of last year. Although I often question if our drunk self is our truest self; if so, that's a bit horrifying to me.

For example, one time I woke up on the street with an ambulance and a lot of paramedics hovering over me. And I was so drunk that I thought I was infected by a zombie virus. So I shouted at them to get away with me since they were going to get infected and then started sprinting in the opposite direction. I was so sure I was a zombie.

But once I sobered up, I realized I wasn't and that seemed absolutely insane. Yet a lot of people say our drunkest self is our truest self, but if so, I'm someone who can think they're a zombie when drunk. 😅

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

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[DagonbroughtMehere]

"question if our drunk self is our truest self; if so, that's a bit horrifying to me." Good, let it frighten You, fear can be a motivator and remember what Paarthurnax said; "What is better? to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort?" You can be better, Yes it is true Alchohol just makes it easier for Humans to be true of themselves, but that doesn't mean You need to be or stay that way, Strength, GuyAnswersGirls123, You are decended from billion years of evolutionary success, BE IT.

"I was so drunk that I thought I was infected by a zombie virus" Temporary Insanity, many that are Insane are because they were born that way, however, they can experience moments of great clarity in trauma as a Sane Person can have a moment of Insanity.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@DagonbroughtMehere Definitely! I like Viktor Frankl a lot with Logotherapy. Seeing life as ultimately about the pursuit of meaning.

On the mask part, it's always been a difficulty for me. Actually identity crisis tends to be one of the toughest things I struggle with. "Who am I, exactly?" For example, I am half-Japanese and half-American, dual citizen to both nations, and also spent a good number of years in both countries growing up.

I think that has split my personalities into two: a Japanese personality (more humble, agreeable, submissive) and an American one (more brash, confident, assertive). I can't tell which side is the truer side; both seem equally natural to me and so I just summon the side I think is appropriate for the social situation.

Yet I used to even struggle with the basic question, "Where are you from?" Japan seems like the most correct answer since I spent my earliest childhood here. Yet I also have a citizenship to the US and also spent my teenage years there along with visiting there frequently before for extended vacations (whole summers, Christmas, etc). And I have my half-white physical features. Plus my sister says "American" because she spent more of her life in the US than me (I went back to Japan as soon as I could, she stayed in the US).

Things like that. There's even more like a dichotomy between jock and nerd (I was the ultimate jock in Japan and average student here, ultimate nerd and 4.0 GPA student in the US). So am I a jock or a nerd? Like that. Which is the truer side?

[DagonbroughtMehere]

"a Japanese personality (more humble, agreeable, submissive) and an American one (more brash, confident, assertive)." Be both, do not just be Rock or Water, be what the moment calls for,

You are athletic? good, You can be strong and endurant when the need arises,

You are Smart? better you can solve a problem with You intellect when that strength fails You,

You are humble? good, if both Brains and brawn fail You can take the lose in stride.

You are brash, good, Courage is a multiplier with all these things.

You are Submissive? good, it takes courage to stand up for what is right for Yourself and others, it takes even more to accept what should not be changed.

You, Jinsei no u~ōkā, should be all these things, Your true self will reveal itself from there.
Baransu o oboete oite kudasai, Jinsei no u~ōkā.

[JoePro_]

I think there could be a variety of reason for this. My concern or question would be about why you're so apathetic. I can't imagine that's a healthy way of going through life, even if you get by okay even while being generally apathetic. Have you always been this way? Or have certain situations in your life made you more like this over time?

[Nikki1989]

I care very much about the things that matter to me. The rest is out of my control.

[Fireguy17]

I try not to be, and on a job we just do not have that luxury.
Training, and your SOGs and SOPs are supposed to help, still stuff happens.
You just got your ass handed to you on your last 3 calls, you're 40 hours in on a 48 hour shift, maybe 3 hours of sleep, you just had a child pass in your arms and now you have a major fire right after that call, no down time. Everyone is human, so you just hope all of your training and muscle memory kicks in so everyone goes home.

[Sameone]

It's depends on what
If was example Cleaning the house, washing clothes, or washing utensils
No problem because we all forget about this stuff

But if was something important
Like meeting or something about your health this is problem you have to be more Attentive

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No, I usually don’t care what people think. That’s why I talk so much, I literally have almost zero care for how people might judge me.

[LuminousMind]

@Sameone Hi, I was hoping you wouldn’t mind if you followed me back? I would like to ask for your opinion on a situation

[Sameone]

@LaFemmeFatale_1 aim not judge you i just want to help my dear

[Sameone]

@LuminousMind sur no problem

[DagonbroughtMehere]

I care little for societal customs and the current culture (s) if they don't affect me directly.

I care about people even less unless it becomes My task then I follow through to the end, come what may.

So to the casual eye, Yes I am.

[OlderAndWiser]

I tend to live my life with an abundance of caution and circumspection.

[Squatting_Slav]

When it comes to sports and weightlifting I can be

When it comes to people no

[RebelinSteel]

No I tend to assess risks and hazards before doing things, not dropped anything for ages.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t mean that kind of careless, I mean careless as doing whatever pleases me and not caring what anyone might think.

[RebelinSteel]

That’s not the word, it’s as in could not care less.

Careless” with no space means to be negligent or reckless because one hasn't put enough forethought into or isn't paying attention to something. For example: Jenny's careless driving led to a head-on collision. “Care less” with a space means to that one isn't interested.

[RebelinSteel]

Even then could not care less is meh lol

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

So what is the word for me then? 🤣

[RebelinSteel]

It’s care less

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Ok, thanks, will remember

[moneymagnet24]

I'm same careless...
So when you find solution for this please pm me ma'am.

[Grond21]

Perhaps you do care, but you are detached from the specifics

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

There are things and people I deeply care for…

It’s a human thing.

[Grond21]

That is very clear. It radiates in your posts

I'm confused. Are you telling me that you are satisfied with your explanation for your own feelings, or you are not and still seeking an explanation?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No, I am already off to a different thought process. That one I finished.

Now I am choosing which type of breakfast is better for tomorrow.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Any good ideas for breakfast?

I already found the answer I was looking for that question that I asked earlier about care.

[Grond21]

Sorry, I just saw this. I don't know if you if you have time to make it but one of the best and most delicious things is Dutch babies

[exitseven]

Once I got married and had kids I became a lot less careless.

[Slapmynuts]

I'm in the same boat! The stories I could tell! Lol 😉

[Anonymous]

"Careless" really has a different meaning

[Sonorous]

Careless in what way?

[NathanDavis]

careless about what... (=

[laly520]

im not careless

[itsclearlynicholas]

Not as bad as some Gager's thats for sure 😊😁

[LavLavLuv]

Well I can be 😂🤭

[Dongie]

Used to be. Trying REAL hard not to be.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Unfortunately sometime I am... Smh! 😉

[whereismyjohnny]

Nope.