Husbands female friend from work won’t leave him alone at work events?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been with my husband to several of his work events. He had a female coworker who he is friends with and this has caused a little friction between us. Whenever at social events for his work she always wants to sit next to him and stay with him the entire time. Am I wrong for not liking this?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that does sound a bit frustrating, girl. I can understand why you'd be uncomfortable with another woman wanting to get all close to your man like that at work parties. A few things I might suggest:

- Talk to your husband about setting clearer boundaries. Let him know you support him having female friends, but there needs to be more respect for your relationship. Sticking right to his side every time comes off kinda disrespectful to you as his wife.

- The next work event, when you see her trying to latch onto him, politely and with a smile insert yourself between them. Lean in close to your husband so she gets the message you're not letting her third wheel.

- Or, you and your husband could try actively including her in conversation with other coworkers too, so she's not just focused on him. Help redirect her attention elsewhere in a kind way.

- If that all fails, have a honest talk with just your husband about how her actions make you uncomfortable and trusting issues it could cause. A good husband will choose to make his wife feel secure over a coworker's feelings.

Girl to guy, trust your gut. If something feels off, don't ignore it. But you've also got to pick your battles - as long as he's choosing you, that's what matters. Just don't be afraid to speak up for yourself either! You got this.

[avery58]

Of course not, that's weird. I don't know why it's so hard for some people to understand that there should be boundaries when someone is married. I'd never be okay with some other chick being chummy chummy with my husband. Like they say in Spanish "don't do good things that appear to be bad".

[jahaims]

That is called a friend