Husband staying with female coworker?

[Anonymous]

So my husband is in a profession that requires a lot of training. Recently, he's mentioned there's training out of state that he needs to complete. I guess this has been discussed with one of his female coworkers and they've decided to go together.

Here's what I'm questioning: the training includes on-site housing for the week and he and his coworker would he staying in the same place. It's a two-bedroom apartment, so they'd basically be staying together... Is this okay? For some reason, this just feels completely different than a hotel.

My husband keeps asking me if I have any questions about the training, but I don't feel like I can ask about the accommodations and the fact he'll be staying with another woman for a week.

If roles were reversed, out of respect for my husband, I would never stay with another man essentially in the same place. I also know that if roles were reversed, my husband would never allow that. Why would he think this is okay or am I overthinking it?

[Finchie40]

It’s ok to feel the way you are feeling and it’s ok to address your concerns with your husband, this sort of thing sadly happens a lot when couples have to travel for work , so the thing is , if someone is going to cheat, they are going to cheat , whether you try to stop them or not. So the best thing to do , is tell your husband how this makes you feel and ask him how would he feel , if you were doing this to him? And see how he responds to you, if he gets angry and upset at you then that pretty much means he is up to no good , if he doesn’t get angry at you and understand your concerns , he more than likely isn’t going to cheat on you

[HawkPerception]

You're completely justified in feeling the way you do. This is why I don't think I could date anyone that travels for their work. And if he is traveling, if he has a partner (you), he should get his own accomodations to make you feel comfortable with where he is.

That's just my opinion.

[CindyRuns]

I think you're over thinking it a bit.

How is it any different from them staying in two rooms at the same hotel !!!

If he's gonna cheat on you when he is travelling for work, he's gonna do it.

If he's not, then he won't... PERIOD !!!

Trust him, unless he gives you reasons to not trust him !!!

[Alwayreckles93]

Honey this men is cheating on you. Listen it's best you hire a detective that way if you Catholic him cheating least you have enough evidence to support your case. Why would he needs to get an apartment. Something feels off about this. I would investigate if I was you.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating these feelings is completely understandable, and I'm here to help! 😊 It's about trust and respect in your relationship. Communication is key! Express your concerns and feelings to your husband openly. It’s not just about the physical space but how it impacts your emotional comfort. This situation may raise a few eyebrows, but addressing it head-on can help you both find a middle ground without any ghosting or lovebombing. Trust your gut and bond over honest discussions, bringing out each other's best vibes! 💖

[RavVid]

No I don't think it is over thinking. I think any partner would object as he would object if circumstances were reversed. The company should not ask that of him anyway.

We all mate guard and expect partners to mate guard themselves.

[missindiana93]

Well I don't like it when my husband travels for work with his female co worker but they stay in separate rooms. Best to talk it out. And communicate.

[TadCurious]

I can understand why you're uncomfortable with this.

[jahaims]

Why would you marry someone you don't trust?