Girls, Do girls who were abusive in relationships ever regret their decisions?

[Anonymous]

So she constantly treated me bad calling me names physically hitting me saying she could find someone who wasn’t on the spectrum but I didn’t match that energy I constantly showed her respect I didn’t call her any foul names I stood by her side when she was sick I supported and offered assistance to her sister who was also abusive. Her mom was scared of her running me off which ultimately she did because she started bullying me in my car driving to the grocery store last year so I politely pulled safely over to the sidewalk and asked if she could get out and that I wasn’t going to tolerate that. She went home called her mom and said she couldn’t be with someone who kicked her out and made her walk all the way home completely side stepping that it took begging and pleading for her to politely stop before I ultimately made that decision. I’m just naturally curious if she will have regrets because I don’t know many men who would tolerate as much because much of this was across 2 years and I had the mindset that you can’t match that energy when she would call names I wouldn’t when she would physically hit me I wouldn’t hit back.

[Anonymous]

I used to be controlling and possessive when I was younger, even to the point of slapping my ex one time. That was a wake up call… I realized that I was the problem, my insecurities to be exact. I do have a lot of regrets and have went to therapy for it. So I guess people who posses a decent enough of self awareness will surely regret their decisions if they believed they’ve made the wrong one.

[Asker]

So she had been in a abusive relationship before this so the thing is where does she go from here cause I tried to treat her right

[Opinion Owner]

Only she can change herself. She has to be willing to want to improve and heal herself from her past, she has to want to break the cycle of abuse

[Asker]

Yeah I’m glad you brought up the cycle of abuse because that’s all she’s been around in all her mom’s relationships they fought and beat on each other. She’s basically never seen a healthy relationship

[Asker]

I tried i honestly did

[Opinion Owner]

You did good. Let’s just hope she can heal from her past and break the cycle. You deserve better

[fantasticass]

Leave her, she is toxic. You deserve better in life.

[Asker]

Well she broke up with me but do women like this end up regretting their actions because she came from an abusive relationship and I poured my all into the relationship to make her happy. Like where does she go from here I guess I have never seen someone come from an abusive relationship and treat the guy like shit when he’s good to her, I was so good to her that her mom actually wanted to remain in contact after the relationship and wanted me to be her son in law. Her siblings also were bothered by her breaking up with me basically they all knew my character my actions constantly showed how deeply I cared

[fantasticass]

She needs professional help and guidance to move forward in life. You cannot give her that, only a medical doctor. Being kind to her doesn't matter because she is still living in past emotional trauma mindset. Leave her, she's toxic and the relationship will get worse

[Anonymous]

She's probably acting out from a previous rendezvous with abuse. It's not you, it's her.

[Asker]

Yeah she didn’t even want to still be friends after she broke up

[Opinion Owner]

Well, that's her issues. If you know you're a good man, I'm sure there are plenty of women looking for you who don't have baggage like her. Don't write yourself because of one person. Keep real and didn't change who you are.