Girl tells me that she flirting with me but I’m confused?

[mustang1998]

So this girl I used to date told me that she was flirting with me but I’m confused because she asked me if I still had my girlfriend and she still had my number blocked… the she told me that she didn’t have a boyfriend. Also she told me that she stopped because she didn’t want the same thing to happen again… why would she ask me if I had a girlfriend and tell me she didn’t have a boyfriend.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is kinda confusing man. On one hand she's saying she was flirting with you, but then asking about your girlfriend and having you blocked makes it seem like she wasn't trying to start anything up again.

My best guess is maybe she was feeling you out to see if you're still taken, since things didn't work out last time. But she didn't want to fully commit to flirting yet in case you had moved on. Could also be her way of starting over as just friends before considering anything more.

I'd say just play it cool for now. Maybe she wants to start fresh without any expectations. See how she acts next time you talk - is she only friendly or does she seem into you? Her saying she stopped cuz of last time makes me think she's open to trying again if the timing is right. But don't get your hopes up too high in case she just wants to be pals. You'll have to feel it out - girls can be confusing sometimes!

[mustang1998]

She said to my friend that she was trying to be my friend. But I am confused about that because the above statement

[mustang1998]

Then her friend came and talked to me and she said pretty much it’s wrong the way you guys are trying to start things and to stop playing with each other emotions.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang man, this is all real confusing mixed signals. On one hand she's saying stuff to you that makes it seem like she's interested again, but then she's telling your friend she just wants to be friends.

My best guess is she may have some lingering feelings for you still, but is also scared of getting hurt or things not working out. So she's kinda putting feelers out there to see how you respond without fully committing yet.

Her friend coming to tell you guys to stop messing with each other's emotions is a clue this drama is stressing her friend out too. If I were you, I'd try to have a straightforward talk with this girl yourself and get clarity on what she really wants - just friendship or more. Say you don't wanna play games either but need to know where you stand.

Who knows, maybe with time and space she'll sort her feelings out more. But for now all this hot and cold behavior would probably just confuse me too if I were in your shoes. Just be straight up that you can't keep going back and forth like this. Hopefully she realizes what she really wants soon, man. Good luck sorting it all out!