Why does no one talk to me at school?

[PersonLost2]

I hate to ask this but this is my reality. Nobody talked to me a whole year intending to be my friend. I feel so sad and makes me think there's something wrong with me. Teachers never fucking care if I am alone all the fucking time for 2 hours in class while everyone else is laughing and talking for each other for hours non stop. What am I doing wrong? I don't look weird, instead, I put on makeup, dress very nice, and just do what the teacher explains and still nobody talks to me, they don't ask me for help. I am so tired of this shit, and makes me feel like I'm gonna be alone for the rest of my life. No guy has been interested in me :( nor the pretty girls in my school wanna be friends with me. Nobody. And it wonder if it is because of my level of attractiveness. I Can't believe a fat crazy weird- looking chick got more attention from the guys than I did. I hate this shit. Don't laugh at me. I am just a teenager so I don't understand things.

[SueShe]

Hi and your last sentence just made me erase the text that I had prepared for you based on your given age on your profile.

I do presume that you are not yet 18 and that you are frustrated that other coeds seemingly get more attention than you do. Let me ask you one thing? Why is it so important to you that others pay attention to you?

Putting make up on is not going to change anything but it is going to make others think that you are seeking attention. I presume that you are about 14-15 years of age and that the fact that nobody pays attention to you makes you feel less attractive physically than others.

You may have other qualities that those coeds don't have. People just haven't realized what kind of asset you would be to them. In that age group, teenagers need to prove to themselves and to others that they are accepted.

Did you ever ask yourself what you should change in your behavior or way of presenting yourself to be accepted or even that others talk to you? I would suggest you prepare a list of issues you see and try to remedy to them. You can also train how you appear to others in front of a mirror and rehearse until you think you have it under control. Good luck.

[PersonLost2]

Why do I feel like you are very mad at me?
I get mad when I see another chick getting more attention than me because since I am a little girl I haven't gotten any attention from anyone, so I get mad and decide to not talk to that girl anymore. There was a really fat chick and she wasn't even wearing makeup, and dressed like a guy and got more attention from the guys and everyone was friendly towards that fat chick who looked like a lesbian. I cannot believe it. I am so angry. Guys never wanna talk to me, and none of them has shown signs of being interested in me. I hate it so much. Fat chick getting two handsome guys talk to her, and she looked like a lesbian, and her clothing style was so ugly and ridiculous. I wanted to beat her up.

[SueShe]

I am not mad at you because you don't give me a reason to be mad.

I am trying to understand your point of view and analyze what the reasons could be for you to be put on the off-side by your coeds.

I can understand you that you are feeling frustrated by the situation. You are trying very hard to be accepted and whatever you do is simply not good enough. You have the feeling that other, not as nice looking girls get more attention than you. It could also be because of the negative vibes you seem to give.

If you are constantly having a sour face or seem to be upset about everything and everybody, those vibes will reflect and people will avoid you.

Have you tried smiling more, perhaps to crack a (clean) joke? It will take time but if you give the feeling to others that you are approachable, this situation may change.

[PersonLost2]

I do not know why I am so mean most of the time. I try to not be mean, but it naturally comes out without me having bad intentions. I do not know how most girls have it easier than me :(. I'm actually 17 years old. I feel so empty and lonely and I always try to fill that hole. I shouldn't be saying this because you might take advantage of me for telling you what makes me sad.

[SueShe]

It is not in any of my intentions to take advantage of you. You have a problem and I am just trying to tell you how I see your problem.

Being lonely does impact on your character, how you perceive others but mainly how others perceive you.

You have the feeling that you are an outcast and that you cannot do anything right to be integrated. Everything you do seems to be wrong and you can never please people.

[PersonLost2]

That's a reason why I hate people so much and I wish them death. Every single guy I like at my school deserves to commit suicide for not liking me back. I hope they die in the most horrible way possible.

[SueShe]

That is not going to solve your problem. By becoming so hateful, you are only harming yourself rather than to help yourself. You are bitter about the success of others and it is understandable. Please don't let yourself become so bitter because you would only move into a spiral of negative thoughts.

[PersonLost2]

I don't understand people's feelings nor emotions. I think this is a reason why of my emptiness. I think every single person here hates me. Why do guys prefer talking to other girls except me? Nobody asks me about dating, and my parents seem like they don't really care about my teenage problems, and nobody takes me seriously. I hate it so much. It makes want to control everyone else around me. I try talking to guys, but they kinda seem weird, so I get possessive and end up obsessing over them.

[PersonLost2]

Seriously, why does nobody care about me getting mad at a fucking fat chick who looks like a fucking lesbian and guys talk to her and seem very friendly around her while no guy seems to like me at all. I fucking hate this so fucking much, I wanna kill every single one of them. How could they still talk to a fat chick who looks like a fucking man with that lesbian haircut. Stupid shit! They should talk to sexy girls, not fat chicks.

[SueShe]

I have to leave now but I will answer to you tomorrow if you wish.

[SueShe]

Have you ever wondered why they don't talk with you? What do you think the reason for them not wanting to talk with you is?

The way you address this issue is giving a whole information about you and the negative vibes you give. People can feel when someone is negative and they tend to avoid speaking with them because they don't want to be faced with a person that only sends out negative vibes.

You are simply driving others away from you with the way you explain your position and how you view the others. You seem to have so much hatred in you and you express it here probably the same way you express it when you are with others. You are literally digging a big trench between you and others. How can you expect people to like how you express yourself if you drive them away with your behavior?

You have to work on yourself first and realize that you have issues communicating. Acknowledging that is the first step towards finding a solution.

[EmmaMary]

Just how the hell can you be a teenager when your profile clearly shows you as being 23?

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[ManOnFire]

So you mentioned level of attractiveness. I'm assuming you feel like you're very pretty. But what you don't tell us is if you try to be social or friendly with people. If not, and especially in public school, you will get looked at as being stuck up/too good to talk to others. And especially if you are a very pretty girl who doesn't talk to others, you will only make that worse.

[PersonLost2]

Well, If I'm pretty everyone should talk to me because I don't look like a serial killer or something. There's nothing to be afraid of. I just don't understand why nobody talks to me. I try to be social but it is kinds hard for me because I can't empathize with people at all. I see them like monsters trying to devour my soul.

[ManOnFire]

Then there's your answer. You want people to love you, and you hate that you're being excluded or ignored, but then you view these same people as monsters that you can't empathize with. You've got work to do. And I know you're old enough to understand that.

[PersonLost2]

Actually, I am 17 years old. I don't know why I seek attention from other people, but at the same time I don't wanna know anything about them, like I want the same attention that celebrities get by their fans. I think I want fans, but not friends. I don't know what's happening to me. Can you tell what I have?

[ManOnFire]

That answers it even more. That is EXTREMELY common in girls in today's world. They have a lust for fans and attentions and to be celebrities, but don't give a shit about the people who worship them. That's why so many girls love social media because they can get validation from it, and they also try to learn from all the unemployed social media "models" too.

[PersonLost2]

Yeah, ur right. I get so mad when I see another chick getting attention from guys, like, hello, I am here, you should talk to me more. Seriously, there was this really fat chick who got attention from 5 guys, and she dressed like a lesbian, and look at me, I dress like a model and still cannot get a boyfriend. I wanted to beat the hell out of her because of how fat she was and still got more attention.

[ManOnFire]

So girls like her do get a lot of attention too. And it's for a couple of reasons:
1. She could still be friendly and outgoing, especially towards guys which guys like and do appreciate.
2. A lot of boys today like girls who are masculine/boyish and especially if they're heavily into gaming, this is part of the flip in culture with how males are more feminine and girls are more masculine.
3. It could also be because she's flirty, has slept around, or she might have big boobs because she's a big girl.
4. And also could be because boys will try to give attention to less attractive girls as a way to spite good looking girls, believing that all pretty girls are mean and stuck up - which, many of them are. But not ALL of them.

[PersonLost2]

I was flirting with guys, and none of them did nothing. But when that fat chick talked to them, they seemed very friendly. I don't know what's going on with me. I haven't even gotten boyfriends since I am in elementary school for the same reason. No guy ever looks at me. It makes me so sad because I am 17 years old, I know it's too young, but I dont wanna be single forever. That stupid fat chick had a lesbian haircut, how is it possible? Why does no guy respond to my compliments? :( most girls at my school talk to lots of guys, and they talk to them but none of them wanna talk to me.

[ManOnFire]

Well, something is going on. You might be giving off a vibe/demeanor that you don't want to be approached. This is another common thing with girls. Doing that but then hating that no guys talk to them. I think you have a lot of work to do that you're not realizing.

[Luopio27]

You said you are a teenager. Your profile says age 23.


Whay you described is discrimination. Sometimes changing schools changes everything for the better.


Maybe getting hobbies and organising house parties could get people come over.

[Iron_Man]

The only thing I can think of is a year at college at 23 most people make friends in high school and junior high make friends but if you go to college full-time, you should have made a friend by now

[PersonLost2]

No, sorry, I am actually 17 years old. That's why I ask questions like this because I just don't understand why people won't intend to be my friend. Am I not friend material or something? Do they see something in me that makes them not talk to me? I don't know, I just don't understand people. I can't comprehend them. Help.

[Iron_Man]

Do you have a certain style that you wear Gothic or piercings or anything like that are you quiet and moody? Are you cheerful, do you smile at people do you play any sports? Are you active in any bands or anything at school anyway I’ve gotta go for now. I’ll talk to you later about it. if you want, you’ll have to tag me here

[PersonLost2]

I am not a goth girl. But still nobody talks to me, I try to be social but people act kinda weird towards me. I don't know what I do wrong. Everyone else in my class got along with the others, except me. I was the only one who they wouldn't talk even though of how good I was dressed.

[Iron_Man]

Well, that’s their loss be a champion don’t be a following. Sheep 🐑 one day somebody will approach you for friendship. Never change yourself just for other people.

[Avicenna]

Sometimes in life you have to take the initiative to get to know people

[jahaims]

You have to put in the effort to socialize and have a good personality. You might have undiagnosed autism if you don't understand social norms.

[MackBoy]

First of all I don't know whether you are attractive or not unless I see your pic. share me your pic to see and I will tell you ideas to attract people

[firenine909]

Because you need to actually talk to them this time

[noohair]

23 is not a teenager. And it is probably a vibe that you put out. I do not seek out the "in croud" as it does not suit my needs or desires.