Gave a Fast Food employee my number but my friends says I shouldn't have?

[thebestalt]

There was this really cute girl at the register. I complimented the first time I went there and said she was pretty. She said thank you and I did my order.

I went in again like a month later not expecting to see her. I was sitting directly behind her and she had a one piece key chain. So I said "Excuse me, I like your Luffy keychain". She turned around and said thank you and told me she has a Zoro keychain in the front and showed me. I asked her how far she's gotten in One Piece and we talked about it for a sec. She told me she named her dog after a one piece character and that her favorite anime is one piece. She asked me if I watched anime and I said of course and told her look at my shirt. I was wearing a manga shirt. We continued talking for a bit and I told her she had a really pretty smile. She said thank you and I was gonna make her blush. She said she's gonna go take her lunch break and I said okay. Then after 5 minutes, I wrote down my name, instagram, and number and walked over to her. I told her I wasn't gonna bother her on her break but if she ever wants to talk about One Piece or any other anime, here's how to reach me. She said thank you and I walked away

My friend said that though my intentions were good, you don't ask a girl out while at their job as it can come off as creepy and now she probably is stressed having to worry about a random guy who could bother her on the job and that I should not go back to that place for a while to prevent her from being anxious.

I'm not gonna be upset if she doesn't reach out but did I do anything wrong?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, your friend kinda has a point but I wouldn't worry too much about it. Here's how I see it:

- You were just being friendly and talking anime, which is chill. It's not like you asked for her number or anything weird while she was working.

- Leaving your info so she can hit you up if interested was actually respecting her space at work. Shows you're not gonna put her on the spot.

- As long as you don't go harrassing her or anything now, I doubt she'll feel stressed. You were polite about it.

- Not going back for a bit is a good idea though, give her space. But I wouldn't overthink it - chances are she won't care much either way.

At the end of the day you were just being friendly. As long as you leave it at that now and don't go annoying her, I don't think you did anything wrong man. Don't stress! If she's interested, she'll text. If not, oh well, move on. But I wouldn't lose sleep over it.

[thebestalt]

Very thorough and genuine. Thank you. And yeah for sure. It's not that big of a deal. I'm not gonna go crazy about it. Just wanted to make sure.

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem man, glad I could give you a thorough perspective on it. And yeah, exactly - it's really not that big a deal either way. As long as you don't obsess over it or get creepy stalker vibes if she doesn't text, then I don't think you did anything wrong by putting yourself out there. Props to you for having the guts to shoot your shot.

I know what it's like to wonder if you messed up with a girl or not, we've all been there. But sounds like you handled it respectfully, now it's out of your hands. Just distract yourself with your friends, other hobbies, and who knows - maybe she'll hit you up! Try not to spend too much more mental energy on it. You'll be cool either way. Just stay confident my dude, I'm sure whether this works out or not, you'll find somebody awesome before too long. Keep your head up!

[RingOfFire]

No, you did nothing wrong. Your friend is wrong. You have to meet someone when you have the chance and this could be the chance, you never know.

It's true that if she's not interested it could be awkward for her to see you again if you go to that place. But it's not so terrible. If you do go there and you see her I would not intentionally talk to her unless you have to, for example if she is at the counter and you give her your order, but if you do have to talk to her just be polite and friendly and don't say anything about it, just be a polite customer. She will quickly understand that you get it and you're not going to make her feel awkward.

If she is interested, it's up to her to let you know. You made your pitch.

[DishLady]

Ok, so the verdict is still out on this because I was at a shop and my friend was flirting with a girl who did him ALL KINDS of favors while in the store. But we left and he didn't ask her number... When I asked him WHY, he said he didn't want to bother her at work.

In some countries it's considered rude, while in others it's considered ok. Just depends where you're from and where the friend who suggested it's inappropriate is from. (Also... depends where the girl is from of course, bc she either liked it or was offended.)

[JSkye]

I don't see anything wrong with that, but it depends on the girl I guess? I am always flattered when I get another phone number. Even if I don't intend to follow-up on it, it's a remarkable boost in self-esteem.

But then, I am a really confident girl who enjoys that sort of attention. I can think of a few friends of mine who wouldn't appreciate it. Like many things, it comes down to the person, not the gender.

That was a longer answer than I intended. To sum up: you didn't do anything wrong.

[thebestalt]

Okay. Thank you for your insight.

[katiesmuff]

Tell your friend to go fly a kite! Nothing wrong with asking a girl for a date while she is at her job as long as your not taking her away from her duties and getting her in trouble.

[Nikki1989]

Nothing wrong with that. You should see the amount of phone numbers I have. Who dares wins, as the saying goes.

[Makeushiver]

Sounds like you handled it well. She doesn't work with you and subtlety is probably the best way to proceed but doing something a little edgy like writing your first name & phone # on a business card.

[Anonymous]

Girls like that in restaurants and grocery stores and coffee shops get hit on 100 times a day, and she probably has a boyfriend.

[art84]

She sounds friendly though I would give her space. If she's interested than she will contact you through phone, etc.

[DrPepper12]

Not creepy. Shot your shot when opportunity presented itself. Good luck!!

[Twalli]

I don't think so. You aren't going there continually to flirt with her.

[exitseven]

I think that you are okay. It was not creepy. And besides, No Guts, No Glory.

[Staximus]

Time waits for nobody. That could be your future wife of 60 years, who knows? Best to not let opportunity pass you by.

[LiamJHayden]

In this situation, probably not a problem. You didn't cold approach someone at her job and hit on her.

[Anonymous]

Ehh. I feel like it isn't fair because she can't tell you to fuck off if she wants when she's working.

But she seems like she enjoyed talking to you.

[leahzrc]

did she text you?

[thebestalt]

Nah she hasn't.