Is he toxic and controlling? or am I being selfish?

[Anonymous]

I thought this because he always seems to want his way. we ended up voice calling even though I didn't want to. I was not up to talk and told him let's just text for now. and the picture, I ended up resending it to him even though I wanted to delete it. both times, he called me selfish and rude when i told him what i wanted. that's why I did what he wanted and that's why I think this is toxic or controlling, am I wrong?

[teamvic]

you're not wrong.

You see the problem is you're giving in so it's showing him all he has to do is keep pushing and you'll eventually give in

You know, that's how mu fuckas get raped by people they know, did you know that🤔

How he gonna call you selfish for not wanting to do stuff

If you ask me you need to drop him immediately

But I'm just a mexican

[Asker]

thank you so much for your opinion.

[Firestar01]

It is toxic if this is exactly what happened.

[Asker]

yeah. I can show you the text messages.

[Firestar01]

I'll take your word for it.

[Firestar01]

Though I would be interested in them for the actual language he used. That tells a lot about how bad the situation is.

[Asker]

it says my xper level is too low to send messages...

[Firestar01]

Because it is. Just send a follow request and I'll message you

[Firestar01]

This is because you need lvl2 to be able to message someone. But if you follow the person, they can message you if they are over 2.

[Asker]

I followed you, please help me

[Firestar01]

Messaged you.

[Anonymous]

So it’s toxic because he would rather talk than text? Lol why is it that what you want, to text, is more important than what he wants, to talk on the phone? I could see how you’d be toxic as well from a different POV. And women wonder why men don’t talk about their feelings or express them. Because a majority of women don’t care about men’s feelings. Their feelings are more important than his.

[In_Trance]

What do you mean you're not up to talk?; what are you 12? Turn off your selfish cuz you haven't said what the actual issue is yet but you're definitely childish

[Asker]

I was feeling overwhelmed and tired after a long day. we were texting the whole day while working. i thought that was enough. then he wanted to video call at night. not every time, I want to chat or hop on a call. I always thought not doing things when I'm not up for it at the moment was not childish or selfish, but that is my opinion. thank you for your opinion though. maybe i am selfish? hearing what others think about this is needed.

[Asker]

the actual issue is, that he sometimes wants me to do things that I don't want to do. these are just two real examples that recently happened via text.

[Asker]

I thought it was toxic and controlling when he would demand things and get upset when I refuse but then I began to think "am I really selfish?" which is why I decided to ask here on this app.

[Asker]

to get people's opinions