Is he a self-centred person or am I driving myself insane?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has a habit of doing what he wants on his own terms. I have already compromised a lot like sleep and my time. We had negotiated to talk between 8pm and 10pm, but he does not follow through and uses napping too long or distracted as an excuse, has been used multiple times in the past. I had forgiven but now I feel like he is taking me for granted.

If there is an argument he will say lets talk about it tomorrow, and never discuss tomorrow. When ever he asks how am I he seems to divert the conversation right back to him. I had planned out activities even sacrificing my own study time for him and he does not follow through. We both like to game but he doesn't bother to do stuff with me in the game.

He is quick to move onto flirtations and uses comments like "You would be like (insert) if I was there" which seems like he is trying to gain an ego boost.

I feel like I am going mental. My head is saying I am overthinking and he is a good guy, but my heart feels disappointed and taken for granted. Very sad.

[loveslongnails]

I'm going to wager that you already know the answer to your own question.
Putting it mildly, you have yet to describe a single thing about him that is NOT self-absorbed, self-centered, manipulative (in a narcissistic way) or selfish.

There's a reason your heart feels sad, and you should heed its warning.

[Asker]

I do know the answer.. but I know he will blow up. I have already spoken to him about this but keeps referring back to his own needs.. I have fulfilled most of them but feel depleted of my own, to even lose my sense of self along with it. I feel ashamed Id go so far down.

[loveslongnails]

Who cares if he blows up if you're walking out the door? This is a life changing moment for you, and I hope you make the right decision - LEAVE!!

[effortlessmils]

it seems like he’s constantly overstepping your boundaries which is not okay. there are people who are willing to respect them and not make you feel “crazy.”

your feelings are completely valid. you have to be a strong person however and do something about it. Either be completely upfront with him that you aren’t ok with any it and stick to your words, or you leave him.

don’t be constantly disrespected by him, you are better than that.

[Asker]

I can agree. There have been afew times when he is drunk he over steps his boundaries, he pushes things onto me.. then plays it off as innocent. Im just over it now. I feel so sad being with him.. he doesn't respect me anymore

[Crankor]

If he can't be responsible then how would he be able to take care of you when needed? Sounds like your wasting your time.

[Asker]

He keeps telling me he will change to suit me. But doesn't happen that way and told him many times. He just doesn't get it.

[Crankor]

No it doesn't work that way how he is now is how it will stay. That's his character

[Sam_The_Savage]

Stop being pussy...

You don't even have power to Dump him
So stop crying on social media.

[Asker]

Not savage enough. 1/10. Disappointed

[chilldude33]

you have 0 power in the relationship

[Curly1986]

Dump him.