He wants an open relationship as he’s scared of monogamy. He’s been hurt in the past and has admitted to sabotaging relationships to get the control and upper hand. We’re best friends and he tells me he loves me everyday. He’s recently started seeing someone and I don’t know how to cope with the jealousy. He wants me to meet her and I asked him why and he said he talks about me all the time and she wants to get to know me. Is it unfair if I don’t want to meet her? Is he trying to make me jealous and is this a control move from him? I work away and he travels to see me all the time so it’s like he’s acting like a boyfriend but not wanting to label it. I’m so confused and don’t know what to do now. I don’t want to loose him as a friend and he’s said the exact same thing. He doesn’t want to screw up what we have. Then why date other people? We don’t have sex anymore because he’s worried he’ll get attached and it will ruin everything. Then why keep me around, he said I’m his main person but I don’t understand the need to date other people.
Is he trying to gain control by making me jealous and question everything?
