Does this make sense? girlfriend gets mad at me when we're late for things but she's the reason we're always late?

[massb]

If we're going somewhere I tell her look we have to leave by this time to get there on time. It takes me 30 mins to get ready at most it takes her 2-3 hours. So I use to get upset trying to rush her and she would get mad. But now I just sit relax and let her do her thing. And she still gets mad wtf. I say something she upset , I don't say anything and she's upset does that make sense? What would you do? Women especially what do you think. Alsooo she had bpd so I kinda let her go with her emotions I know how she is

[Anonymous]

Red flags all over bro. I used to date a girl like that. She woke up late for class. A 15 minute drive n she expected me to make it in 5 minutes while drive 60 down a 35 mph road. Then she’s like well I wouldn’t have been late if you went the other way. I said you’re 7 minutes late. She’s like just take me home I’m not going. I said because we’re 7 minutes late. She’s like well they give out a lot of info right from the start. So yes it was my fault. Lack of accountability.

[massb]

Exactly bro smh

[normalice]

My guess is you have trained her to get mad by getting mad yourself. It will take some time to train her out of it.

[massb]

Makes sense

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If she has borderline personality disorder, you’re never going to make her completely happy in any situation

[massb]

Yea your probably right smh

[Fireguy17]

just make the time you need to be there, or the AIS (ass is seat) time at least 30 min before you need to be there.

[massb]

I'll try that thanks