Why is my girlfriend so ridiculously mean to me? I don't understand why.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been with her for 3 years last month and we’ve been engaged for a year tomorrow. I supposedly took her virginity but I just don’t know. She swears I took it. I ask her about it and she just gets mad.

I really want to know why she’s so mean to me. I am typically nice to her. I may be overbearing and possessive but I think I’ve gotten a lot better at it since.

I can elaborate more on any of this if need be, but what do you think? At the beginning of our relationship, she once clinched onto my leg because I said I was going to break up with her. Now she doesn’t care about anything about Zumba and drinking with her friends (always girls).

What gives?!

[SenselessNoise]

God, are you dating my ex? The similarities are frightening; virginity, mean to me, spiteful about me being overbearing and/or possessive, Zumba and drinking with girl friends.

Honestly, you guys are in a grown-up relationship if you're engaged. As such, ask her what's up with this - how it's bothering you and you want to find out why she's acting this way. If she dodges the question or whatnot, tell her that you are seriously re-evaluating your relationship, because building a life with someone treating you like that is not healthy.

[Asker]

are you from PA? // also, I've told her my feelings. her response? I do not care joey, I don't effing care, leave me then. sh*t like that.

[SenselessNoise]

Nope, in CA. Still, the similarity is frightening.

If she's saying she doesn't care, leave her, etc., then do it. She obviously doesn't care about you.

[h3lpm3plz]

go bang other chicks and tell her about what you did. I think that's only fair. do u?

[Anonymous]

Uh.. If I lost my virginity to a guy and then he kept questioning me about it, I'd be furious that he didn't trust me and thought I was a liar. Just saying.

[peace-love-couture]

Find someone worth your time and who treats you well

[Asker]

idk