Men Want Nudes And Then They Lose Respect For You, What Should A Woman Do? How Should She Respond?

[fonduegirl]

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What if you've been dating for sometime?

[GlitteringWorld]

If someone is asking for nudes, it’s a clear sign to me that they aren’t serious about having a genuine relationship with me. It shows they're more focused on something physical rather than forming a real connection. And if they’re sending nudes without even asking, that’s a huge red flag for me. It’s not only disrespectful, but it also makes me question their intentions.


I’ve tried connecting with a few people on dating apps, and many of them start off acting really sweet, showering you with affection to make you feel comfortable. They seem like they’re interested in something real, but once they think you’re in a safe zone with them, they start revealing their true intentions. If they have a good physique, they start flaunting it, sometimes sending self-satisfying videos. It feels manipulative, like they’re trying to fast-track intimacy without building any real emotional connection. It's disappointing when they resort to these tactics instead of being sincere about getting to know someone.

[JSkye]

Any guy that pressures me for nudes gets categorized in my "not dating material" file. I disinvest any feelings I might have had for them. Doesn't mean I will stop talking to them, but it does mean that any possibility of a relationship is over.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Your level of tolerance is extremely high 😅

[JSkye]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Guys are just guys 🤷🏻‍♀️
Everyone gets horny sometimes; I'm just more willing to ride out the wave than many

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I can understand that level of curiosity, and can I relate although I don't face the same obstacles given my condition lol

[TallAnon]

So let's step back a bit and analyze why a man wants nudes to begin with.
The obvious, sexual gratification, an alternative to intimacy.
The less obvious, dominance, or rather over compensation for lack of dominance. "I made her do that, even though she doesn't want to".

So in the end, it's a lack of intimacy and expression of dominance.
There are other ways of approaching these.

For example, tell him to plan something and lead him to both "being the decision maker" and gradually building intimacy.
If he doesn't put effort into this, he's not interested enough, drop him.
As a warning, when he does put in effort and wants to go somewhere with you (excluding the obvious "come over"/"netflix and chill"), you have to be prepared to meet him halfway and show that you appreciate this, otherwise it will backfire and he's out.

That's my two cents anyway.

[ProbablyClueless]

Most "people" problems boil down to simply not associating with people who conduct themselves a certain way.

Learn to identify the pushy and boundary-steppy ways that guys who ask for nudes tend to act before they ask for nudes and then intentionally avoid those guys.

I don't ask for nudes. I don't want nudes. I don't care about seeing them at all. I am extraordinarily respectful of people's boundaries. You could learn to identify them by comparing how the different men respond to situations. Find other guys who think like I do and ask them about how they would approach certain situations and then compare notes with how the guys who ask for nudes respond.

[mandyfire98]

Don't send nudes. But spoiler, a lot of men won't respect you either way because you don't have a penis between your legs.

[fonduegirl]

LMFAO real

[rebeliouse]

sorry couldn't resist the joke here surly a lot of women have a penis between their legs usually the one they chose to have access there hehe

[mandyfire98]

I'm not fully convinced those men even respect deep down.

[fonduegirl]

FRFR Mandy

[Val713]

It is so stupid that girls actually think having one makes someone respect you.

Guys don't automatically respect other guys...

[fonduegirl]

@Val713 men may not like each other, but they definitely respect each other. That's why "I've a boyfriend" card works, instead of the real reason : "I'm not interested"

[mandyfire98]

☝️ this. Also they may not just automatically respect other men but they give more respect to other men than women most of the time. they still view women as a whole of not being equal to men.

[Val713]

Nah, we really don't automatically respect each other. Maybe other generations do, but I don't other guys I know don't, older guys in my family don't, their friends don't. I think you may be thinking of boomers...

But, ngl, "I've got a boyfriend" is vastly less likely to work for me than "I'm not interested." Cause I know I'm probably better than their boyfriend. But, I also know for a fact that I am definitely not everyone's favorite person. People either really like me, or the absolutely hate me.

[mandyfire98]

So if she says "no thanks I have a boyfriend" what is your next move?

[fonduegirl]

Absolutely Mandy! You can see it in your own office. A man would crack weird, lame jokes on his female coworkers, but wouldn't do the same to fellas. Coz RESPECT

[fonduegirl]

@Val713 you're weird. Do you want to be her side piece or something?

[fonduegirl]

"I'm better than her boyfriend" is certainly a shocking, go-to response/mindset.

[mandyfire98]

To be fair he might be better but I'm just curious after she said " no thank you, I have a boyfriend" what his next move is since he said that doesn't work on him.

[Val713]

Ngl, I usually tell them either; "he doesn't have to know," "I won't tell him if you don't," or "you can always invite him too, but he has to pay for himself and sit somewhere else."

I do usually get a laugh from the third one 😁

But the other part of what you said, I can count on 1 hand the number of men I respect. I know far more women I respect more than men. But I'm also not a feminist, I really don't believe in all that "women are seen as less than men" stuff.

[Val713]

Who says she won't dump him for me?

[Val713]

Ngl, most guys suck...

[fonduegirl]

@Val713 you're coming off as a bit arrogant, tbf

[mandyfire98]

"I really don't believe women are seen as less than men" you might not personally see it that way but that doesn't mean other men don't see women that way.

There's a huge reason why there's a giant push for women to go back to being more "traditional" everywhere you look these days.

Traditional as in the man is king of the house and women are just there to support him.

That's viewing women as second class. No way around it.

[fonduegirl]

“He doesn't have to know” seems disrespectful AF.

If I found the other guy attractive even a bit, I'd definitely feel repulsed. But thank god most people don't have my sense of intuition or morality

[Val713]

@anon1903

Oh I'm definitely arrogant, I don't even try to hide that. Like I said, people either really like me, or absolutely hate me. I just know I'm probably a better choice than other options 99% of the time. See, I'll leave a 1% chance I'm not, that is very magnanimous of me. 😁

[fonduegirl]

@Val713 good for you

[Val713]

@mandyfire98

See, I was actually thinking about that traditional thing yesterday. I thought, you know, I can kind of get wanting women to stay home and not work so they can take care of the kids. (But it was because I was watching the Conjuring and the husband was a truck driver and the wife was always home so she always got to see all the ghost shit.) Mainly cause she was there for her kids so they weren't alone. But Vice versa, I can see the benefit of a stay at home dad for just the same reason.

Yea, can't control what all men think...

But it does go toward my point that I'm probably the better choice over their boyfriend if he does think like that.

As far as "man is the king of the house," I think that depends. I have a cousin that literally ran up $10,000 on a credit card because she is a shopping addict and her husband took her off all the accounts. But that is understandable, I would support a woman doing that to a guy who had a gambling addiction. Its what my mom did to my dad because of his drug addiction. You can't let an addict blow every penny you have.

So, I can support either the guy or girl being more controlling in a situation, if there is a good reason for it.

I will admit I've got to correct myself for one thing...

I lied, on accident, mainly cause I try to put these idiots out of my memory whenever possible. I do know guys that think that way of women. I have family that are EXTREME religious nuts, and they do believe every detail of women being less than men. But I do put that more to them being in a cult.

[Val713]

@anon1903

Yea, but it also proves the point that I don't necessarily respect her boyfriend...

Ngl, I don't really believe in morality like that. It's like Christians saying being in a relationship outside of marriage is bad. I don't see it as wrong to express that I'm attracted to someone.

But, it is the one I use the least, because getting a laugh out of someone tends to work better.

[fonduegirl]

@Val713 if you're really fifteen, think these games will work. That's nice.

I'm not religious either. Atheist actually. I still would feel guilty about it. And I should. Cheating is bad, you don't need a pastor to tell you so

[Val713]

@anon1903

K

But talking with a guy and deciding you may want to date him more, isn't actually cheating.

I can tell your in the group that despises me lmao

[fonduegirl]

@Val713 don't flatter yourself. I don't care who you are, seriously. It's the act of cheating that's just disgusting.

Anyways, I'd hope for your that you never fall in love and some guy doesn't steal your girl. Somebody as arrogant as you.

Oh and believe me, that will happen.

Until then, enjoy the ride kiddo

[fonduegirl]

^your sake

[Val713]

@anon1903

Ngl, I'm not too worried, I'm not the type of guy girls want to cheat on. I'm the type of guy they leave their boyfriend for.

[fonduegirl]

@Val713 👍

[RubyFrench]

Ask him for a picture of his willy, wait until you receive it and then send him NOTHING 😂
Im joking! Although i have done that before so id never judge^ 🤣 . (Don't entertain his inappropriate questions) he will soon learn his lesson when he gets no response.. and most men love a chick thats not available all the time anyway. Just dont give too much away too soon would be my only advice (no nudes until you've slept together or in a relationship) The fact that your questioning it is excellent as you obviously have morals. Goodluck with it all x

[realeyeofthetiger]

Don't do what men want. Do what you want.

Them having respect for you is irrelevant. You need to have respect for yourself.

Don't engage with 'men'. Find a man (if you are looking for a serious relationship)

Stop engaging with people who don't respect you. Learn to respect your time.

[Apple1996]

Trick question most men don't have respect for women regardless if they send nudes or not

[mandyfire98]

This is mostly true.

[bowenw]

I would never lose respect for someone because of that. If there are guys like that, try to determine beforehand if they are jerks. If they are pressuring you, there is a good chance they are.

[fonduegirl]

That's very true

[bowenw]

After you’ve dated for a while hopefully some trust has been established and you know if the guy respects you. If you’re concerned about him, don’t do it. You could ask him to send his first to see how he reacts.

[coxoabean]

I wouldn't give him nudes. If he wants you in that way, he should work for you. A man who doesn't work for a girl, and a girl who gives herself away is the girl that he loses respect for. A girl that has a guy work hard for her, will be cherished greatly by him

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I personally wouldn't send nudes at all, even if asked. Same with bikini & bathing suit pictures, no sending. So, responding "No" is all the way around. If they pressure you and you don't want to, then either remind them or just don't be with them. If it is a boundary you've set, then they need to respect it or get out.

[Anonymous]

Not all guys are like that you just need to find the right guys the type that truly respect women and honor them.

Find the kinda guys you can trust I mean realy trust. The kind you'd like to truly date.

The type that are loyal and trust worthy and would fall for a woman who shared something so personal so intimate.

[Rosexøxø]

^^ 💯 👍

[paledreams]

In my relationship in my mind 🧠💞 my girlfriend who's 24 would always send me (this is an imaginary hypothetical relationship here) nudes or nude clips of herself from time to time or even clothed suggestive clips of herself - after all I'm 30 and she'd be 24 - all fine and dandy there 😛😕😋😈🫠♀️🙂 however I'm single and have always been single. It's just in an ideal world imaginary only 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩😁🧠🧠🧠

[Unap0logetic_]

If they lose respect for you, then they never cared or valued you to begin with.. they’re not worth the time if they do this.

[Red_Arrow]

True, but a there are guys who will keep respecting you. I swapped nudes with one woman and became very good friends with her online. I never sent her pictures to anyone else. I still think she is a wonderful woman.

[Kit1234]

On a personal note, if a guy does that to me I either with straight up tell him no or if I'm interested I will tease him with a game of 20 questions or something so I know whether he is actually interested in me or just my body. Sometimes they will just leave me on read but some will stick around and actually have a conversation.

[Anonymous]

How about not sending nudes? About abstaining from sex till marriage. I’ve never lost respect for my girl after 15 years. A lot of things that women complain about in men are the choices women make. Not all, but a lot. Like dating a man who has multiple baby mamas. A man who’s been unemployed for a while. A man who cheated on his wife or girlfriend. w you then does the same to you.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Don't send nudes, period. Ever. It's not worth giving someone blackmail material voluntarily.

My advice is to date better guys.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

What @Kaneki05 said.
Traditionnal worldviews are associated with shame in relation to anything sexuality related, plus the idea that woman can only be slut or saint. Original source for this is well identified: Catholicism.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

And before Catholicism, Judaism I think, already featured woman as impure. Before that... I'm uncertain.

[JSkye]

Adding onto that thought, don't you think it is strange that there are many instances of men having multiple wives, but women aren't allowed to have multiple husbands in those same sources?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Ummm I can trace that back to the very old patriarch concept, in ancient Europe. When Woman was a good to trade, a trophy to obtain, through wealth or war. In a society where Man is master, then woman is the slave, not the contrary

[JSkye]

Oh, I know where it came from. I just think it's really strange how one-sided it was is all

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Not strange at all in fact, it's perfectly logical, viewed from afar

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

If woman had multiple husbands then woman would have been a master as well, there can't be masters without slaves

[onedarkcloud]

Do not send pictures that will most probably be on the internet fast not worth the risk once on the net always on the net Ask yourself if is it worth the risk now and in the future

[Rosexøxø]

^^ 100 %

[sobg1124]

I would never ask for anything like that, but if I did or she offered, then I would lose all respect for her. A girl who says no and maintains her dignity is far more valuable in my eyes.

[Ladsin2]

I think women have been put into a tough position. It's now expected that women have to put out and send nudes to their partner when they're dating. This used to not be the case. I presume the only thing a woman can do is set her own boundaries and know she'll be tested.

[Rohaan2020]

If he stops respecting tou after seeing you naked then he’s not the one for you…. I think if a woman finally allows a man to see her naked deserves more respect from him bcz it shows that she’s rlly into him…

and i don’t mean to prove her love a woman has to show her body…. But if ahes doing it then it’s out of love in most cases

[Anonymous]

Don’t send nudes unless it’s an LDR and you’ve been dating for several months. Even then don’t show your face.

[Kaneki05]

That's only for conservative men really. Would be odd for anyone outside of that to judge for such stuff.

[Anonymous]

I'd say it's better to just meet up in person and have lots of sex.

[fonduegirl]

You're so right

[Opinion Owner]

I'm glad you agree!

[elizamichale1]

They will respect u if they would want to.../ its not going to be based on you sending nudes or not... so its better that u NEVER SEND them nudes

[Billlewis]

I never view a woman's sharing photos of their luscious bodies with me, and the only pictures I typically beg for are of her bare feet, anyway.

[Val713]

I don't lose respect, but I do know I don't actually have to put any work in...

[fonduegirl]

You're 15 😳

[Val713]

Yes, it happens then too. 😅

[fonduegirl]

Of course it does... It's just... Nevermind

[Val713]

Ngl, I find this funny 😂

[chrissykerdock]

never send nudes regardless it will only come back to hurt you

[Nikki1989]

You don't do it. Send one nude and they will want 100.

[WonderingManII]

A woman can send me nudes if she wants. But I never ask for them. Will I lose respect for her if she does? No. I just wanted to be treated with kindness.

[jahaims]

If a guy that you aren't in a committed relationship with is asking for nudes he will never respect you.

[Rosexøxø]

^^ 👍 💯

[JoeRob67]

Well only send nudes in a relationship with a guy you trust. Yes a lot men ask of course sex and nudity seem to be the norm in most of the world today. Just do whatever your comfortable with If he can't accept no then move on

[Damcky]

Not all men. If a girl shows me a nipple, I am flattered and awestruck that she would do that. I tend to respect them more, cause they are going out of their way to understand how a guy is so in awe of a woman.

[Damcky]

Any girls want to volunteer?

[Anonymous]

Previous generations of women knew to keep such things within a long term relationship, and their virtue intact.
I realise IQs have dropped but do you really need an answer to this.

[77five]

Literally if you dont send nudes they stop talking too. And stop blaming women. Do you have nothing to say about men asking for it?

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like you're talking to the wrong type of guys. I hear dating is really bad now but I can't imagine a keeper would start a relationship in the way you suggest.

[77five]

……youve gotta be kidding me. I hope you actually think like this and that you're just be an obtuse in an attempt to try to make women believe theyre the problem like how men always do.

Because this would make men really below average intelligence if so.

[Opinion Owner]

Well it's not my best post ever but it's not the worst and isn't delivered in bad faith even if it dares to question the behaviour of one particular sex without referencing the other. But fair enough, you don't like it and I hear you.

[77five]

Jesus christ…

[fonduegirl]

@77five you're wasting your time

[Finchie40]

Stop sending nudes to random guys’ only send nudes to a guy that’s in a relationship with you

[college-student2021]

Don’t send nudes at all , from my part I have a zero nude policy. It has helped me avoid a lot of bullshit.

[college-student2021]

It’s better in person

[MrGSpotHer]

Don't send nudes to start with, you want all the mates of this guy to share with his mates cause that is want the majority of them will do any woman

[MrGSpotHer]

What happens if you break up with him then gets upset and wants some kind of pay back, he now has these pics or videos of you most guys that haven't already shown anyone will probably do it now but there are some that won't but it's not that many

[Jmmmfi4]

I DON'T KNOW... I MEAN I DON'T ASK ANYMORE. IF SHE WANTS TO SEND SHE CAN. IF NOT THEN WHATEVER.

[FunkyMonkee]

I never lose respect. Why would I do that just because I saw her naked?

[9in_Serpent]

Good riddance they were not men but immature boys. Look at it as blessing they leave and you dodged a bullet!

[9in_Serpent]

doesn't matter if you send nudes or not but might be a good way to weed out the ones that are not serious

[Wiredone]

Don't send nudes to any guy. A real man would never ask for nude pictures. Only little boys ask for them

[call_me_scar]

If they loose respect for you after that they never had respect to begin with

[LunarEclipse433]

I respect her for sharing intimate photos with me because she has some level of trust. I never share pics someone else has sent me

[dragoblack]

Don't send nudes to people you don't fully trust. It's that simple. Nudes are not for dating, they are for relationship flirting.

[Babygirl_S]

I reject such guys because it hurts my feelings if he doesn’t want something serious

[Anonymous]

Maybe date men and not boys. And in my opinion just don’t send them nothing if you are not in a long term committed relationship don’t entertain them at all

[LiamJHayden]

Never send nudes. A guy who cares about you won't ask.

[SugarSugarplum]

How about "No".

[Anonymous]

If you don't know the answer to this already it's pointless to tell you.🤦‍♂️

[Account]

Don't send nudes. Easy

[Account]

I dont remember ever writing this but I agree

[Celticwolf78]

Don't send nudes to just anyone you need to be with them for a while and both of you can do it

[Kelley1]

Tease with maybe.

[Agape93]

Don't send any

[LillyRedrose]

The only ones I've sent nudes to are women

[Jrg98]

How do you know they lose respect?

[Med_guy1978]

Different people different views

[ashish804]

don't send fully.. just sexy one

[Jamie05rhs]

Obviously just say no.

[LEGENDARY4200]

How do they lose respect?

[RingOfFire]

If she's not hot? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[LEGENDARY4200]

Well, if they're duche bags like that i would say you're better off not knowing them

[RingOfFire]

agreed

[Anonymous]

If women post nudes, they gain respect

[fonduegirl]

Onlyfans?

[Opinion Owner]

Nope Everyone

[rebeliouse]

lol they gain a fuck load of money on onlyfans :D better to do it with face not showing though then u can stay annon and best of both worlds rich and annon :D

[fonduegirl]

@rebeliouse deffo

[Kathryn1993]

Send them a picture of a hairless cat.

[Cheerfull009]

Don't go in relationship with such people

[Anonymous]

Nude grains her respect to me