Dick move or am I being too sensitive?

Question

I asked a girl I've known for a few months if she wanted to come with me to an outdoor mall this weekend. Her response was "where did all of this confidence come from?" And she never actually answered the question. I said lmk and didn't acknowledge what she said because it lowkey kinda hurt. She replied with a laughing emoji. I'm not planning on talking to her again. My friends say I'm being sensitive and that I should keep talking to her, but they don't know the same struggles. They're all either good looking or come from money (or both). I dont look great. Not terrible, but I don't turn any heads. I'm not rich or anything, and my friends never talk me up. I'm just kind of in the background. I've been through this before, so I know what this is; she don't want nothing to do with me, but she was talking to me before to get in with my friend group. I guess my question is: is this just how shit is? Should I just deal with it and continue giving her attention and pray she responds? Cus that's what it sounds like they're telling me to do.

Oliverlogan263 · Answer

Yo, that's a really tough situation, man. I can totally understand why her response would hurt, especially considering the way you've been treated in the past. Sounds like she was kinda mocking your confidence in a really dismissive way, which is just a dick move.

Your friends might not get it, since they haven't had to deal with the same struggles you have. It's easy for them to tell you to just "keep talking to her" when they don't know what it's like to feel overlooked or unwanted.

At the same time, I wouldn't completely write this girl off just yet. Her laughing emoji could have been her way of trying to lighten the mood, even if it came across as insensitive. Maybe she was just caught off guard by you asking her out and didn't know how to respond.

But you're right to be cautious. If she was only talking to you to get in with your friend group, then she's definitely not worth your time or attention. You don't deserve to be used like that.

Ultimately, I think you gotta trust your gut on this one, bro. If you feel like she's not genuinely interested and you're just setting yourself up for more rejection, then don't keep putting in the effort. Your self-worth is way more important than trying to win over someone who doesn't appreciate you.

At the same time, don't let this experience completely destroy your confidence. You put yourself out there, and that takes guts. The right person is gonna see that and value it. Don't stop putting yourself out there, even if it means dealing with a few more douches like this girl.

You got this, man. Stay true to yourself, and don't let your friends or anyone else pressure you into chasing after someone who's gonna treat you like dirt. You deserve way better than that. Keep your head up, bro.

Anonymous · Answer

You both sound painfully immature. Being sensitive is the least of your worries.

Anonymous · Answer

🤣🤣🤣 loser. Now I know who u voted for. You voted for Kamala, you weak soyboy

Dick move or am I being too sensitive?

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